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post #61 of 90
I haven't quite figured it up yet. My total Xmas budget is $200, and I'm making most of the stuff. So far I spent about $70 on materials for presents (this includes presents for about 25 people, although most of the money is for a joint gift for my two kids of a homemade wooden play kitchen.)

Oh, and that $70 includes materials for 3 gifts that I've been "hired" to make which pays me $45 plus a $15 gift for my daughter...so those materials actually cost me $5. I'm happy.

Last year we spent about $80 per kid, (two kids) this year it will be more like $20, plus a video game for the whole family to enjoy. If there is money left over from the Xmas budget, I want to take the kids to go and see a movie or something.
post #62 of 90
We spent about $1000 total. That is mainly for 5 kids, 5 grandkids, and 1 nephew. it was a lot this year because we got 2 new computers as part of it.
post #63 of 90
We usually do $100 for each kid, up to $150 each if there are really good stuff we'd like to get for them. I just did some calculations and it seems we already spent $130 on DS1, but only $40 on DS2. Oh well they share everything anyway.
post #64 of 90
Well- my idea of a holiday budget is less than 1% of our income- but DH is a no holds barred kind of guy. He wanted to spend more than that on his sister! I love my sister in law- but we just can't afford that this year. We have very generous families- and we just have too much stuff. I have made or swapped for most of our gifts and DS is really the only one I have left- he really loves ertl little tractors and I just know he would love a combine- but they are more spendy than I would like. Probably like $50-75/kid ( I made DS2 a quilt for his main present- so that was the full $75- but I would have made it for him anyway- so I don't count all of that.)

Stocking stuffers- I went to the dollar bins at target and picked up a pair of fun socks, stickers, and little notebooks- $3/kid and I will probably pick up a few other little things- like a little candy and maybe something else. I also bought up art supplies at back to school sales for a little of nothing for part of thier gifts.
post #65 of 90
I have a budget, but it's not the main issue. Since they're still little, I make an effort to have the same number of things under the tree, but it makes a difference how stuff is wrapped. DS is graduating from a crib to a bed, so he's getting sheet set, pillow, comforter. I'll wrap them up as one thing since they all go together, but if he had less packages to open, I could wrap separately. We take turns opening, so matching numbers cuts down on the "he has more/she has more" thing.

We also rarely do 1 big thing for Christmas. Those I tend to do for birthday if possible, like DS trike and DD scooter.
post #66 of 90
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Originally Posted by hsmama77 View Post
We don't do it as a price limit for child. We do it as an equal amount of presents to open.....usually between 15 to 20 each. We are a very frugal family and get most of our gifts for the kids for free or very, very, cheap. Some years we might spend $100.00 on one child and $10.00 on another but they will all be getting the same amount of gifts. Other years we have spent less than $25.00 on all of them. But they always have a bunch of gifts to open and always what they wanted plus a few surprises.

This year is looking like I will be spending less than $60.00 and we have all the "must haves" covered. Including an Ipod touch, set of golf clubs, and a new Nintendo DSI.

I do have a question for you all that do a set limit per child. Say your set limit is $100.00 per child and one of your children wants a $100.00 item and another wants 20 $5.00 items and another wants 2 $50.00 items.

Would one child get only one present to open while another gets 2 items to open while another gets 20 to open?

Well I don't but my mom did. I was one of 5 and she had one set limit. There is a 10 year gap between the oldest and the youngest so when I was 6my oldest sibling was 16. I would have a mound of presents since what I wanted was relativly inexpensive but he would have only 1 or 2. He didn't mind becuase he got he got what he wanted. Plus he didn't beleive in Santa anymore so knew everyhting was form our parents as well a knew how much things cost..
post #67 of 90
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I do have a question for you all that do a set limit per child. Say your set limit is $100.00 per child and one of your children wants a $100.00 item and another wants 20 $5.00 items and another wants 2 $50.00 items.

Would one child get only one present to open while another gets 2 items to open while another gets 20 to open?
I doubt anyone goes around telling kids they can pick out $100 worth of stuff so I doubt it would ever come up like that.

Usually older kids are the ones asking for the more expensive things. They know the item is expensive and a stretch as to whether they'll get it so they don't have big expectations. My inclination would be to get that $100 item and a few inexpensive but thoughtful gifts as well. The kid that wanted a ton of $5 gifts likely wouldn't get all 20 of them. I suspect people with a price limit per kid tend to think of it more as an average, sometimes spending a little more on one kid and a little less on another depending on ages, wants, and needs.

And personally I don't want my ds getting 20 presents all at once. That just seems excessive to me. I think the most he's gotten has been 12 total from everyone. I remember thinking he could've opened one a day for the 12 days of Christmas...

So far, here, with 5 kids on Christmas morning, no one has counted to see if they are getting the same number of gifts. They would likely notice a huge imbalance, however.
post #68 of 90
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Originally Posted by hsmama77 View Post
I do have a question for you all that do a set limit per child. Say your set limit is $100.00 per child and one of your children wants a $100.00 item and another wants 20 $5.00 items and another wants 2 $50.00 items.

Would one child get only one present to open while another gets 2 items to open while another gets 20 to open?
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Well I don't but my mom did. I was one of 5 and she had one set limit. There is a 10 year gap between the oldest and the youngest so when I was 6my oldest sibling was 16. I would have a mound of presents since what I wanted was relativly inexpensive but he would have only 1 or 2. He didn't mind becuase he got he got what he wanted. Plus he didn't beleive in Santa anymore so knew everyhting was form our parents as well a knew how much things cost..
This makes sense to me, hollybear, but my dh doesn't seem to see it that way with my stepkids. The youngest is several years behind her teen brothers yet dh more or less thinks they all need to get the same amount of presents with the same price tag. My sister did that when her oldest was 14 and youngest was 5. It was the first Christmas she and I had spent together as adults. She fretted that her 14 year old son had one less gift than the 5 year old. I suggested that the exact count wouldn't matter to him but she insisted on going out and buying one more gift for him.
post #69 of 90
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I fall into the "you don't want to know" category. Honestly, I don't know what it comes to. It is a lot. But I am frugal all year long in most areas, then go a bit hog wild at Xmas.

Yeah. Us too.

If I had to guess, I'd say we typically spend $400 or so on each child. Well, older children anyway. The youngest just doesn't need much, and what she wants doesn't cost much. This year we will be spending considerably more, but that's because we are buying laptops for 2 of the 4 kids (for school purposes, though!), and my oldest is at a really weird stage. She's most likely got Asperger's and a host of other issues (evaluation results next week!!!), and she just turned 21. She is emotionally like a 14 yr old, though. But she understands that her age is still her age, and we just don't buy as much for her anymore. And of course no Santa for her. She wants a $200 book for her Master Naturalist course/certification, and I'll probably be able to find it used for her for about half price. Other than that I'll probably get her some knitting supplies/nice yarn, and call it good. The middle kids are getting the laptops plus a couple of used Wii games, plus a Gamefly membership for a year. Plus they'll each get some books and art supplies. Magazine subs from my mom. And we'll likely get some clothes since they both need new jammies and underwear/socks and long underwear.

We didn't do much early shopping this year because we took our first real family vacation in Sept. My dh gets an awesome bonus each year though, and that will help. We do not charge ANYTHING, so we just try to keep bills paid ahead thru Nov. and Dec. so that most of dh's paychecks/sidejob cash can go to presents.

We give gift baskets that we make to our neighbors and friends. I have a few other children I'll buy for this year, too, but I have decided to do mag. subs for all, so easy and a gift that will keep coming all year. Some of these kids have very few books in their home and I know they will really love to get mail.

Just last night dh and I decided to go ahead and order our present to each other. A 46" LCD tv. We have wanted one for at least 8 years, and just finally decided the price was right. We will buy nothing else for each other except a stocking stuffer or two (I told dh I want a bottle of this really good-seasonal-cranberry wine from our fav. wine shop). Anyway, we did not go over our usual budget for each other--and we just started buying gifts for each other a couple of years ago because we finally could afford to.
post #70 of 90
I spent about $100 on DD (5yo) and $80 on DS (5mo's)...he's getting an exersaucer, blocks, and one of those stacker things.

Dh and I each get about $200 to shop for each other.

We do it by budget, not by number of gifts...that could possibly get out of hand
post #71 of 90
I'd say nearly three hundred dollars. We will get him a big santa present, a big present from us a handful of other things and his stocking.
post #72 of 90
We don't really have a Christmas budget, I just try to keep it reasonable and I don't like to buy a ton of things. This year we spent a little over $100 on ds, and about $85 on dd. Each is getting 3 gifts and then they are getting a joint gift (a Cozy Coupe that I got on clearance for $15). Then each child gets about $20 to buy a gift for the other.

Stockings are done next week for St. Nick and they will probably cost about $25-$30 each, with one bigger gift (movie, Leapster game, whatever) and a couple small things (Playmobil people, wooden trains, etc) and some fruit, candy and stickers.
post #73 of 90
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Originally Posted by HollyBearsMom View Post
Well I don't but my mom did. I was one of 5 and she had one set limit. There is a 10 year gap between the oldest and the youngest so when I was 6my oldest sibling was 16. I would have a mound of presents since what I wanted was relativly inexpensive but he would have only 1 or 2. He didn't mind becuase he got he got what he wanted. Plus he didn't beleive in Santa anymore so knew everyhting was form our parents as well a knew how much things cost..
This is what it's like at my house. My kids are 17 and 4. My son turns 18 in 2 mos and at this point doesn't ask for much, so generally I get him one larger item and with older kids specifically teens. That one item may run quite a bit of money whereas for my little one, she is still at an age where I can set a price limit a lot easier and she gets more stuff.

As the Mom of a teenager and an older one at that, I don't see it being easy to set a limit since so much of what teens want is costly. I am fortunate that my ex (ds's father) is an electronics junky and do to his work often can get our son the latest and greatest gadgets dirt cheap.
post #74 of 90
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Originally Posted by hsmama77 View Post
I'm not sure you understood what I meant. Of course a child wouldn't know how much was being spent but most children asks for things.

So, if your limit is 100.00 per child and 1 child really wants a 100.00 item but another child really loves say Littlest Pet Shop figures that are $5.00 each you would have 1 child opening 1 present and another child opening 20. Hope that's a little clearer!
Yes. It might seem unfair, but usually kids understand. for example, the 13 year old understands that his DS system is worth as much as his 5 year old kid brothers 15 little toys.
At our house, each kid has the same stocking stuffer, and is going to "share" in a couple of group/family gifts (new computers and game system stuff) and then each child has their "own" stuff to open.
The 2 and 5 year olds probably have 10-15 things to open each, mostly $1-10 stuff.
The 12 year old has 3-4 items, about $15-20 each
The 13 year old has 2-3 items, about $30-40 each
And the 16 year old has 1 item, but it's a whopper, worth over $100.

It all works out.

Instead of looking at it monetarily, we try to look at teh "wow" factor...how happy is each item going to make a kid?

When they were younger, we did try to keep it more even, so for examp[le, i knwo one year, when one child had essentially one large gift while the others had numerous smaller gifts, we hit the $$ store, and purchased a couple $1 gifts, so the kid with the one big gift would have a couple more items to open, even if they were just cheap things.
post #75 of 90
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Leta, your wrapping idea is genius. Seriously.
totally using that from now on!!!
post #76 of 90
I have spent around $700 and I have about $300 more on order. I have one child and all that I have spent isn't just from me... some of it is from me, some of it the items I have purchased are from my parents. We will also pick up other odds and ends. So the total could very well be close to $1200. A lot of what she has asked for are things for her horse and for horse back riding and field hockey as well as clothes. She is an only child and is an only grandchild.... yes, she is spoiled, very spoiled but she is only young once.
post #77 of 90
Well my shopping is basically done. I spent probably around $300 for our FIN, some relatives, and my kiddos (4) presents. A couple of things were sold out, so if I can find them later, it will go up a little. I spent another $288 on a new tree and stand though.

I spent about $5 on metal Christmas tins at a thrift store. I will bake cookies for bus drivers, teachers, mail carrier, etc so I think that was a good investment.
post #78 of 90
We spend about $100 on each kid however they rarely get gift from anyone outside of us. If I could afford it I would spend closer to $200 each. We also dont buy stuff outside of Birthdays and Christmas.

I wanted to add I spendd less on my Step daughter not because I love her less but because she has already had Christmas by the time she gets to our home.
post #79 of 90
This year we're trying something new. We budgeted $500 total for xmas gifts. $200 per child (3yo DD and 6yo DS) and $100 for family. DH and I don't really get much for each other. And the kids get a bunch from relatives.
post #80 of 90
As much as I hate to admit this (on the frugality board no less ) I make NO attempts at frugality with Christmas. We don't buy toys & such through the year and at christmas I like to buy the boys good quality toys that I know they will love. This year... the family gift is a Wii, which was about 400bucks itself. I'd say about 200-250 each child on top of that, maybe a little more with stockings

Santa gets credit for stockings, all the rest is mum & dad... I figure we are the ones that say no during the year and have to be the 'bad guys' when required, so we ought to get the christmas glory dangit
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