Ok so I am about to embark on thanksgiving with the ex-in laws (grandma and grandpa requested possibly their last thanksgiving, the xh will not be there). So anyway, lots of reasons this is going to suck for my mostly vegan, socially uncomfortable self.
When I had the flu MIL brought me soup. I decided I did not care of it had a great big smiling face I was going to eat it because it was sweet of her to think of me and make home made soup. it was vagetarian soup
So thoughtful it made me cry.
so then it hit me...oh no, what if she, trying to be thoughtful gets tofurkey (she was ademant that I not bring anything, at first I thought she was beinbg kind then I figured she was being rude about my cooking, 15 years I have never been allowed to bring anything and I am sure it is because she thinks my house is too dirty. my kitchen is always clean and I always clean it very well if I am cooking for other people). thing is. I would rather take a bite of a fesh living turkey than put tofurkey past my lips. it is SO not a pleasant taste/texture for me. What do i do? I mean, hgow sweet if she surprises me with this (oh how I hate surprises). and they are so expensive. Is there a way to politely refuse. and how do I politely refuse everything else. I mean there is cranberries and mashed potatoes (if she makes mashed potatoes) and rolls. I made some stuffed mushrooms with vegan stuffing. oh and the relish tray....so I can make my plate look inconspicuously full. She will have veggies but they will be overcooked and drowned in all kinds of objectionable stuff. Everyone had a huge late breakfast here (fronch toast nom nom nom) and I have already powered through 6 stuffed mushrooms (had to test them you know) honestly even if I was on the atkins diet I don't think I could stuff much more in my face at this point.
So, all this verboseness to say : when someone is very sweet and thoughful in trying to accomodate you is there a polite way to say "thanks for being sweet but I think that tastes so nasty. just because I am vegan doesn't mean I want eat gross over processed food products, nor do I miss meat the way you think you would and need subsitutes, so really, thanks but no thanks"
i mean this time I will force myself to eat it, take home the left overs and throw it away but whats a girl to do in the future? ugh...if I eat it to be polite this time she will think i enjoy fake meat. there will be no end because you can't really go back and say "oh I hated it. i just ate it to make you feel better." i think perhaps the solution is to not have thanksgiving with the inlaws....
When I had the flu MIL brought me soup. I decided I did not care of it had a great big smiling face I was going to eat it because it was sweet of her to think of me and make home made soup. it was vagetarian soup
So thoughtful it made me cry.so then it hit me...oh no, what if she, trying to be thoughtful gets tofurkey (she was ademant that I not bring anything, at first I thought she was beinbg kind then I figured she was being rude about my cooking, 15 years I have never been allowed to bring anything and I am sure it is because she thinks my house is too dirty. my kitchen is always clean and I always clean it very well if I am cooking for other people). thing is. I would rather take a bite of a fesh living turkey than put tofurkey past my lips. it is SO not a pleasant taste/texture for me. What do i do? I mean, hgow sweet if she surprises me with this (oh how I hate surprises). and they are so expensive. Is there a way to politely refuse. and how do I politely refuse everything else. I mean there is cranberries and mashed potatoes (if she makes mashed potatoes) and rolls. I made some stuffed mushrooms with vegan stuffing. oh and the relish tray....so I can make my plate look inconspicuously full. She will have veggies but they will be overcooked and drowned in all kinds of objectionable stuff. Everyone had a huge late breakfast here (fronch toast nom nom nom) and I have already powered through 6 stuffed mushrooms (had to test them you know) honestly even if I was on the atkins diet I don't think I could stuff much more in my face at this point.
So, all this verboseness to say : when someone is very sweet and thoughful in trying to accomodate you is there a polite way to say "thanks for being sweet but I think that tastes so nasty. just because I am vegan doesn't mean I want eat gross over processed food products, nor do I miss meat the way you think you would and need subsitutes, so really, thanks but no thanks"
i mean this time I will force myself to eat it, take home the left overs and throw it away but whats a girl to do in the future? ugh...if I eat it to be polite this time she will think i enjoy fake meat. there will be no end because you can't really go back and say "oh I hated it. i just ate it to make you feel better." i think perhaps the solution is to not have thanksgiving with the inlaws....
