Traditional Catholic Mamas -Winter 2010 - Page 9

[Arduinna]

Originally Posted by Charbeau

Lent is almost here ladies, what are your plans for the season? I am giving up refined sugar/sweets, only eating meat 3x per week and I am going to cover my hair at Mass during Lent, which will probably be hard for me and help me with humility.

I'm giving up swearing. I'm hoping it's a jump start to a permanent change. It's been a long time habit that I've cut back on a lot but I need the final push to stop completely.

As far as what to expect at the TLM, they hopefully have head coverings for borrowing if you don't have your own or come unprepared. Ours does. They may or may not have missals, ours supplies pamphlet type missals that follow the general mass but do not have the weekly readings. Most people bring their own missal. If you will be attending regularly you will want one. I use the Angelus Press one. In the TLM we follow the 1962 liturgical calendar so it doesn't always match up with the Novus Ordo. We always have a priest available to hear confessions prior to mass. Usually it's for 30-45 minutes before. You kneel at the altar rail to take communion.


An update of what's going on with us, dh and I met with our priest and have begun instruction with him in preparation for being baptized and confirmed. I have a very comforting sense of calm now that we have officially begun the process and dh has said he is excited for us to be religiously married, since we had a civil ceremony.

[Arduinna]

Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove

Hello everyone.

I just wanted to ask for prayers. I am going to see Father tomorrow about starting the annullment process. I am sad and worried about it. It's just not something I am looking forward to doing.

how did it go? I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

[PatienceAndLove]

Originally Posted by Arduinna

how did it go? I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

I cancelled my appt. I am not ready yet.

[sarahsmiles]

I'm sure this is a pretty silly question to some of you, but I'm wondering if my 3 yo DD can and should get ashes tomorrow. She doesn't understand why she doesn't get to receive Communion (because she's very imaginative and when I tell her you need to be older/learn more/understand better/whatever she tells me she's 10 and ready to go!) and if we end up in a line with an extraordinary minister instead of a priest, she gets really bummed not to get a blessing. (Oh, how I miss my priests-only former parish!)

Anyway, I think she'd really get a kick out of "participating" (loaded word, I know, sorry!) more at the Ash Wednesday service, but she doesn't really understand, of course, the significance. I must admit I never noticed in years past how young children were handling it -- I just focused on keeping her from wiggling out of my arms and vaulting the communion rail.

I guess this just proves to me I need to get serious about religious education, huh?

[CherryBomb]

There's no reason she can't receive ashes, my kids always do

[sarahsmiles]

Thanks. I just never knew, and I'm feeling kind of adrift here without my Catholic support network!

[BMG580]

P&L, big hugs and prayers.

Sarah, I am glad you asked, because I didn't know what to do with the children tomorrow either and I was just going to wing it. Your question and CB's answer helped me!

[CherryBomb]

I hope everyone had a nice Ash Wednesday. The only church we could find with a time that worked for us was the pretty liberal one at the Purdue campus (I hate to sound snarky but the church is SO ugly! concrete floors and weird beamed ceilings, no statues other than some bizarre copper new agey looking one of St. Thomas Aquinas, and the only crucifix has a tiny corpus and is all weird modern art looking...gah...no stations or stained glass windows or anything, either). They had a bunch of lay people doing the ashes, which I think has to be approved by the Bishop, but idk...we went in the priest's line anyway.

But anyway, dd2 is 4.5 and has cerebral palsy and visual impairment...I don't think dh explained what was happening to her (and she definitely can't see well enough to see others getting the ashes) when he took her up because she came back looking like she was going to burst into tears and buried her face in my arm and said "that people poked me in the eye!" She calmed down after I told her that I got the ashes too.

[z2akids]

I left Ash Wednesday Mass yesterday a bit confused. I'll be the first to admit that as a CCD/public school/cradle Catholic that there are parts of my faith foundation that are not even on par with my 8 year old Catholic school son. However, I have always felt some small sense of guilt washing off my ashes before bed or in the shower. I feel like I should totally let them wear off on their own. But, yesterday morning I was attending the all school Mass and our associate Pastor was talking to the children before the distribution of the ashes and he mentioned that ashes are not a blessing. They are a reminder and they are D I R T. He asked the children if they would go out to dinner with a dirty face and hands or to the movies, etc. Anyway, the gist of what he was saying is that we should not be wearing ashes to "brag" on our faith and that they are for us and for God, not for others. I left Mass yesterday with the impression that we were to remove our ashes before participating in worldly activities. I felt SO weird about it though. Some friends took the little ones out to lunch (difficult for me as I gave up eating out - except for fish fry - for Lent) and I sort of wiped the ashes a bit so that they weren't quite so prominant, but I wasn't comfortable completely removing them. I mean, I can see given the Gospel reading that removing them might make sense, but it's not something I'd heard before.

Anyway, long story, but does anyone know whether ashes are supposed to be removed of if this was just something that was our Priest's opinion, or maybe I totally misunderstood him.

I called our Parish office and talking to one of my favorite ladies there and she was going to ask the Pastor, but I was wondering if anyone knew. She was surprised by it as well.

[Ofwait]

I was always told that we were suppose to let the ashes wear off on their own... or until we would normally bathe/shower, but we weren't to go to special efforts to remove them.

[Attila the Honey]

The priest at the Mass I went to yesterday talked about wearing the ashes, and how you shouldn't do it as a badge of honor for going to Mass but as a sign of humility.

From his words I didn't get the impression we were encouraged to wash them off before we go out, but rather to wear them as a reminder of our humility - like with that humble attitude anyone would have if they went out into the world with a dirty face. It's not something to be proud of, it's to affirm that we came from dirt, we are sinners and we will be dirt again.

I hope I got that right.

[z2akids]

Originally Posted by Attila the Honey

The priest at the Mass I went to yesterday talked about wearing the ashes, and how you shouldn't do it as a badge of honor for going to Mass but as a sign of humility.

From his words I didn't get the impression we were encouraged to wash them off before we go out, but rather to wear them as a reminder of our humility - like with that humble attitude anyone would have if they went out into the world with a dirty face. It's not something to be proud of, it's to affirm that we came from dirt, we are sinners and we will be dirt again.

I hope I got that right.

That's the way I'd always thought of it. That's why I was so befuddled yesterday to come out of Mass with the impression that our Priest thought we should remove them.

[CherryBomb]

bump

Hope you're all doing well. My Lent is going okay. Spending most of my time taking care of my new chicks

[wolfmom]

hi all! I hope all are well. Lent is going okay here. I have given up sweets and treats and so far, so good. The only thing I am allowing myself is a dunkin donuts coffee with cream and sugar about once a week!

Anyway, please pray hard for my sister today my friends. She is being induced as we speak and I am really hoping for peace and an easy delivery for her. She had a stillbirth a little over a year ago and she has been very anxious, especially for the last few weeks. thanks for your prayers! I'll update when I know how it goes and when we find out if it's a boy or a girl.

[CherryBomb]

I hope the birth went well!

[wolfmom]

thank you for your well wishes cherry bomb. My sister is fine and she had a boy! He was born after about 12 hours of induction and he is beautiful! Thanks for the prayers.

[PatienceAndLove]

Congrats, Aunti!

I gave up animal products and swearing, for Lent. The first few days, though, I did eat animal products, such as cheese, as my mother helped me make room for vegan items. I figured it was better to start out consuming what I had, rather than wasting it. And, unfortunatly, most of it was frozen/refigerated, thus I couldn't donate it.

[wolfmom]

Thanks P&L! Good for you for giving up those things. I think you have the right idea about not being wasteful. I only cheated today by tasting my cookie dough and then tasting 2 choco chip cookies that I was making. But I did need to see if they were ok because I didn't have any more eggs, so I was being creative with my substitutions! They are yummy though! But no more for me! At least hubby and kids will enjoy them which is why I made them anyway.

[moonshoes]

well, I"ve done well giving up Facebook but my plans to go to daily mass have been, let's just say, not successful.

I'm 37 weeks preggo today and just feeling so unable to move comfortably, sleep doesn't exist at night and today we got a foot of snow. HOw's that for enough excuses?

Just praying that this birth goes well and Francis comes when he is ready. I'm trying not to let myself get too anxious about it.

[Taryn237]

Hi ladies. I was just wondering if anyone knew of way to chart creighton online or a printable chart somewhere? TIA!