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1/7/10 at 9:41am
I hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings here... I found Popcak's writing very true.
However... I come to this from a strange place: We have been suffering from secondary infertility since having had our only dc, while belonging to a parish that has been influenced by a group that does not "believe" in nfp. I see a lot of very bad parenting around us. It is indeed impossible to AP if you have a child every single year, for, let's say 8 years in a row. I see kids whose diapers are not changed after they go #2, infants who are left home with a sitter for the weekends while the parents go on a retreat ONCE A MONTH, toddlers being left to sit in strollers for 30 mins or more, alone, in hot winter clothes, while parents socialize after mass in another room.
So... This is a really difficult topic to me... I want to go shake these parents (and especially the priests who guide them)... and found myself not able to say or do anything.
I am never going to understand not taking care of the kids God has given you.
|It's just the implication that takes a wrong turn...the idea that less than 3yrs automatically means the parents can't attach to their child.|
Hey Teffer! I left for quite awhile also, don't know if it was for the exact same reasons, but "climate of the board" seems to fit Sorry to Ardiunna left, I was just wondering about her (she was pretty new in the process of coming to the Church when I left). Anyway, nice to see you, and congrats on the new baby! I've gotten my period back at 12 weeks pp with each baby (and I'm a LLL Leader; I KNOW how to use ecological breastfeeding for child spacing!!) The only reason there's 4 years between my first two is because I was a birth control using atheist
ITA with you about discipline, too. You're spot on, parents are the first understand of God that children get.
Yes, exactly That and the insistence that such a belief is taught by the Church, and his disingenuousness of hiding behind the Church when he's challenged, really bothers me. The Church does NOT teach we MUST space children 3 years apart; that's one man's interpretation of the Church's teaching on responsible parenthood. Responsible parenthood looks different for every family, just as openness to life and generosity of fertility looks different for every family.