Never-child can get any kind of help from me, financial,emotional,etc that I am able to give (we have a history of being pretty poor). I want my children to know that when they call me for help I will get there as soon as I can to help them or at least help them over the phone. If my children ask me for money, I will give them as much as I can give. If my children want to live at home with DH and I, of course I will let them. Granted, as they age the relationship will grow and we will all learn to support one another. Living in Japan has shown me how well this seems to work. Families live together (we are friends with one family who all live in the same house: great grandma, grandparents, parents, and children), help each other, care for one another, and we love how this works. When my friend was dying of cancer, everyone took care of her children and it wasn't a big shift from their regular routine since they all lived together anyway (yes, they were sad about their mom, but I think they were able to move on a little better knowing they had this large support system). I really want this for my family. I want us all to try and live near each other (if not in the same house) and I want us all to take care of one another financially and emotionally. I'm not sure it will happen, but it's nice living in a culture where this is the norm and my children see this and comment about how nice it is.