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Originally Posted by Nanette56
It can't hurt to go in and ask questions right?  I'll have lots of time to decide!  |
absolutely! really, what matters at the end is that you looked into some options and you chose the best one - not which one you chose.
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Originally Posted by LZP
I just had this convo with my DH last night, bc he said, "you'll get an epidural, right?" and I was like, Um, No. and he was SHOCKED! and said that since i am SO intolerant of pain, he thought I should/would get one. (well, that's a whole different story; i wont get an epi so HE's not uncomfortable seeing me in pain!)
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you may want to check out the bradley method for birth classes. just based on your descriptions of your DH, it sounds like bradley might be useful for you guys. it certainly was awesome for us. my hubby has a really hard time seeing me deal with pain, plus he's super squeamish, and bradley was perfect. it really taught him so much about birth as well as what he could do, how he could be useful, rather than just standing there feeling terrible as i was in agony. it helped him be so hands-on and just understand why i was going through what i was going through and how he could help. having a doula was awesome as well and really provided the support HE needed to be a good partner. bradley classes and the doula were awesome for me as well, but i knew that would be the case. having that level of information, understanding, and instructions really decreased our fear of the unknown and helped us get through the process much more smoothly. /unsolicited advice
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Originally Posted by Nanette56
I'm thinking if I do go with MW- this is probably what I'd do. One of my biggest problems in the hospital were the pushy nurses. If I have a good MW that will stand up for what I want, then it will take some of the stress off of me re: having to tell them "no" to stuff.
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I think that possibly that had a lot to do with the pain with mine too- being induced. I was already 3CM, but had been for weeks, and he thought my BP was a little high (in reality thinking back, it was probably because it was convenient for him to schedule since he was on call that particular day ) |
re: the first part, at my hospital we had certain nurses who really loved working with the MWs (the ones who would get really psyched for being part of a natural birth), so they just gravitated towards each other. you know if you're working with a midwife it will be a little different than an OB, so you'll tend to get the more natural-minded nurses, or at the very least the ones who are used to natural-minded mamas who are gonna say no to stuff.
also, my cousin has been through 2 natural births - one induced, one not. her natural labor was difficult, of course, and certainly not comfortable - but the induced one was agony. she described it as a million times more painful and difficult and intense. pitocin and whatever other meds help induce labor are nothing like going into labor naturally.
watch this clip if you haven't already; it explains it beautifully - especially that cartoon clip 1.5 min in!
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Originally Posted by Lyndzies
Okay! Trying to psych myself up! Time to make a baby!
I'm convinced tonight's the "money night" because I FINALLY saw some decent (i.e. not scant) EWCM among all the "leftovers" from yesterday. WOOHOOOOOOO!
Lol. I always feel like I have to throw myself a pep rally a couple hours before the last insem of a given cycle. It's the last chance I have to DO anything that may lead to a pregnancy.
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haha YEAH! GO SPERM GO! and COME ON EGG!
for that perfect, beautiful "spegg" to make you that perfect, beautiful baby.
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Originally Posted by jessica_s
The "pain" is TOTALLY DOABLE! In fact, if I had only one word to describe it I would use work. It is hard hard work. Labor! Fear is a powerful animal and we've been taught to fear labor and birthing our babies.
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this is pain our body is made to deal with. dental surgery and such? not so much! but our bodies have been birthing babies for a long time and have all kinds of ways of helping us manage and work through the pain. and i agree that fear is quite a stumbling block!
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Originally Posted by enigo
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WOWIE ZOWIE! man i wish i had a chart that lovely to look at; i'd probably be stroking the screen!
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Originally Posted by MaerynPearl
Towards the end with DS I felt like the take-a-penny leave-a-penny jar, seemed everyone had had their hand in me.
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luckily for me i was only checked twice! once when i came in, and i sort of didn't want to - she told me it was absolutely my choice and she would NOT do it if i didn't want. i didn't want her to because i knew i would cry if she said it was a low number, so i said she could check and then not tell me. she laughed and told me it was a great number, so i let her share it with me and it was 6! they say the first 6ish are the hard ones to get past, but the whole freaking thing was hard for me. the second time, i was fully dilated and she accidentally broke my water (man did she feel bad about that - but it felt AWESOME for me, such a relief of pressure), and i knew it wouldn't be too much longer... it took fricking THREE HOURS to get that kid out of my vagina. stubborn as a mule, that one.
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Originally Posted by MaerynPearl
But the same with my breasts, it took a good year after finishing breastfeeding for me to go back to looking at them as something sexual and not just my handy dandy baby bottles.
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well that's good to know. i feel like a fracking cow sometimes and don't feel any more sexuality attached to my boobs. i only "let" DH play with them if it increases the chances of me getting a good dose of semen.
afm my hopes are back up ladies. i hate doing this to myself; i far prefer (those few and far between) 2wws where i'm able to be mostly zen. i'm anti-zen this time, certifiably nutty really. but AF never came! i don't feel like AF *is* coming! i might only be 10 dpo - a temp dip and a BFN mean NOTHING! maybe i'm implanting today! i really don't know and really have to stop assuming. the only thing that will tell me is a positive test or a true temp drop accompanied by actual flow.
s This happened to me a couple times while I was in the middle of a miscarriage too. In my more zen moments I take it as a compliment that they think I did such a good job the first time. 
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