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post #161 of 624
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wow, lyndzies, sophie is ALREADY such a good girl! ensuring that her egg half comes out on time to meet the sperm half... such a good listener already!

when we had our "oops" that led to DD, i was like "okay well as long as i don't ovulate on monday...." and then i did. i think it set the stage for her personality. meanwhile now i'm begging my uterus every month to get started, and no dice! i guess my children are just stubborn from the get go?
post #162 of 624
Lyndzies:



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lyndzies!!!! that is awesome!! I hope that it's a nice smooooth move for you move for you over to August DDC!

AFM, I had some spotting last night, and some today as well. we went to get our tree this morning, and I was so excited (it was snowing just a little too! how perfect!) but then i came home, and after moving the tiny trees around the front of the house, and removing the petunias from the pots finally! i came in to P and found more. it;s light brown. i'm trying to just tell myself that my body is a bit confused, and the big fluffy lining is just getting settled in for the long haul. i still have an appt on Monday.

last night, i had these two really sharp pains in my uterus. just two, in the same spot, on the left side, sort of where i was having some twinges every month. it's making me wonder if i have a fibroid or something (My mom had them badly enough to require a hysterectomy at 45) and i should have waited to get the full testing including the scope thing. oh please oh please just hope everything will stay OK. i'm only like 18PO today i think... so, it's not like i'm really that "far" .. i just hope hope hope.

sorry to vent that all out, i know my BSLs will have some words of encouragement, and help me to refocus to good energy. ugh, this feeling in the pit of my stomach is not good.
post #164 of 624
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last night, i had these two really sharp pains in my uterus. just two, in the same spot, on the left side, sort of where i was having some twinges every month.
Theres a lot of things that could be!

The most likely thing? That its the little bean burrowing itself in to get cozy until its larger (seriously, I would not be surprised to hear your placenta is on the left side.) Many women actually feel this around then. I dont remember if I did with my son but I remember with my daughter it made me fear I was having an ectopic (but it never went past a sort of sharp pain into anything really painful enough to go to the hospital)

The timing for that seems just about right after all. (Not initial implantation but further implantation, as it grows it needs to push itself in more until its large enough to float around in its sac)

sure its nothing. Hope its nothing.
post #165 of 624
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Theres a lot of things that could be!

The most likely thing? That its the little bean burrowing itself in to get cozy until its larger (seriously, I would not be surprised to hear your placenta is on the left side.) Many women actually feel this around then. I dont remember if I did with my son but I remember with my daughter it made me fear I was having an ectopic (but it never went past a sort of sharp pain into anything really painful enough to go to the hospital)

The timing for that seems just about right after all. (Not initial implantation but further implantation, as it grows it needs to push itself in more until its large enough to float around in its sac)

sure its nothing. Hope its nothing.
mae, I always appreciate your info bits... but right now I am ing you!! thank you so much for your quick response. that is what i was hoping it was, but still... to have someone else saying it is soooo nice. thank you thank you. i am still not super confident, but i am just going to take it easy today after this scare.

does anyoneknow if RRL tea would be safe, or is taht a bad idea?
post #166 of 624
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does anyoneknow if RRL tea would be safe, or is taht a bad idea?
That depends on who you ask. Some say drinking a cup per day the whole pregnancy will make the labor easier. Others say it causes miscarriages (but honestly... people will say ANYTHING causes a miscarriage if they have the misfortune to have one after doing so even when tons of women do it safely)

Here is some info (on someones personal site rather than straight from a doctor or midwife) http://konzababy.tripod.com/RRL.htm
post #167 of 624
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i've heard that you can drink RRL tea every day after the 2nd trimester, but not in the 1st - but as MP says there's a bunch of contradictory info out there.

i remember having a lot of twinges and aches and cramps early on that freaked me out. that all sounds normal. i mean, it's not exactly comfortable to have a super-quick-growing embryo burrow in for the long haul! especially combined with the brown spotting, i wouldn't be surprised if what MP says is exactly right - just snuggling in for a healthy 9 month stay, shedding a tiny bit of old blood as it does.

afm i'm usually okay by CD2, but i'm having a harder time this cycle. plus, yesterday and today i've already gotten enough questions about when we're planning to have #2, and i just am not in the mood, nor do i know how to answer. i have an acupuncture/massage appt on monday, which will be just the ticket i think.
post #168 of 624
YYYM, thanks to you too for a quick response! I hope that's what it is.

and I'm so sorry you're going through this cr@p today. ugh. i'm sorry. especially that you dont really have an answer for all of those awefully forward questions.

after going through this, I'll never ask anyone again about their plans for growing their family. its just so personal, and can be a really tender subject. it's just hard for anyone who hasnt experienced it to understand what's not "cool" to say. I'm sorry you've had to deal with it so much today.

post #169 of 624
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me either. ugh, when i think about the times i've heard my family members scolding other family members for having no kids or having an only child and how "wrong" it is... it is so HORRIBLY rude whether it is by choice or not!

usually when people ask (which i guess happens a lot once your kid turns 2?), i just am able to say "oh, i'm not really sure when it will happen!" but i'm just not in the mood to answer that question while menstruating. sigh.

whatever. i knew M was my special miracle baby. the night of our "oops" i cried over my year of charts (CTA) that were so obviously not very fertile, and then it just happened. i knew i would probably not be that lucky a second time, to have it just happen. i think that's been good for me, perspective-wise, because i was never one of those people who assumed it would happen within 3-6 months. i hoped it would, sure, but i knew it easily might not. and whether it happens soon, or in a long time, or never at all, i still have so many wonderful and beautiful and amazing things in my life and i am truly truly blessed. now i just have to remember that as i'm oozing blood while getting last-minute bday stuff for the kid! may not temp this cycle.... oooooh, daredevil me!
post #170 of 624
I've been using a preconception tea that is RRL as well as a few others. I swear I should just go back to eating junk food and sitting on the couch. I'm sick of wheatgrass juice anyway. (I HAAAAAATTTTEEEE IT!)
Now I don't know what to do. In fact, I have some RRL brewing right now.

See how I'm whiny today?
I have another weird issue. My boobs don't hurt at all...AT ALL! They always hurt after about 5dpo. (I'm 9dpo) It'll probably turn out I didn't even O.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/26ca58
post #171 of 624
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It'll probably turn out I didn't even O.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/26ca58
Not with THAT chart. I think anything "out of the ordinary" is an encouraging sign. Dont' get discouraged.

LZP, oh honey I'm thinking of you!! I saw the spotting on your chart and I knew it must be putting you in agony. But spotting is so common as your little baby burrows in. Think positive thoughts, and I will do it for you, too. Take it easy today!
post #172 of 624
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It'll probably turn out I didn't even O.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/26ca58
Im gonna have to agree you obviously Oed! So no worries there.
post #173 of 624
LZP, I'm sorry you're spotting. It's so stressful, but can be just fine. Either way, nothing do will change the outcome, so just try to relax if you can.

With my dd I had so much "spotting" at first that I thought I was getting my period, but then my "period" was so light that I tested and was pregnant. I spotted 3 times with her--each month right when I would have gotten my period. And she's super healthy and awesome.

I didn't spot at all with my miscarriage until I started to miscarry.

If you're going to spot, brown is good.

I hope everything is okay.
post #174 of 624
Oh LZP
Spotting is so scary. I've always heard brown blood is old blood. You'll be fine and puking up breakfast in no time!



AFM
Thanks guys
It's a weird situation. With DS, I got pregnant immediately, easy pregnancy, healthy kid, blah blah blah...I wasn't paying attention to any symptoms, well we'd just had like 2 hurricanes with another on the way. So I really wasn't paying attention to symptoms.
The 2 recent pregnancies ended in mc, so who can trust any of those symptoms? Man I hate the TWW? Only a couple more days...........EEEEErrfff
post #175 of 624
YYYM, so sorry you're out this month .

LZP, I agree, spotting is always scary. I spotted a bit with this pg and totally freaked out about it. Obviously, it was nothing. And, I had occasional sharp pains on my left side in the first few weeks. Now, I feel the baby move in the front and on the right side, but not the left, so I'm guessing that's where my placenta is. Could be the same for you.

Enigo, hoping your wierd symptoms/non-symptoms mean something good!

Lyndzies, hooray for good timing!

Oh, and I have to stick my nose in the labor/pain discussion. After having attended 20-some homebirths and 15-ish hospital births, I can say that for many women, birth is just less painful at home. Most feel more comfortable, there are no strangers invading their space, and their privacy is not violated. I second the Bradley class suggestion and (of course) doulas . In my experience, not only can a doula help make sure your wishes are followed, but some nurses and doctors actually act more respectfully than they might without a doula present, so the whole birth tends to be less confrontational.

All your talk about leakage made me smile. It reminded me of the first time I ate sunny-side-up eggs (when I was about 22). DH couldn't understand why I started laughing: the yolks just had a consistency that reminded me of...something else.
post #176 of 624
LZP - hasn't the weather just been so... Christmas-y today? I love it. We did some decorating, too.

Re: the more important topic at hand, a big to you and ditto to what the other ladies said. I'm betting the bean is just getting super cozy!!! Even so, I hope the spotting stops so that you can find a little peace of mind. Thinking of you this weekend!

enigo - the TWW is the PITS! Hang in there!

YYYM - I'm sorry you're having a rough couple of days. I know exactly how you feel. We celebrated Christmas today w/ some of DP's extended family, and her mom kept making mention of how she's really looking forward to a grandbaby, and don't we have any "news?" Bleh.

AFM - I keep talking to and encouraging my fallopian tube "region." It's ridiculous. LOL.
post #177 of 624
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I spotted a bit with this pg and totally freaked out about it. Obviously, it was nothing. And, I had occasional sharp pains on my left side in the first few weeks. Now, I feel the baby move in the front and on the right side, but not the left, so I'm guessing that's where my placenta is. Could be the same for you.

Enigo, hoping your wierd symptoms/non-symptoms mean something good!

Lyndzies, hooray for good timing!

Oh, and I have to stick my nose in the labor/pain discussion. After having attended 20-some homebirths and 15-ish hospital births, I can say that for many women, birth is just less painful at home. Most feel more comfortable, there are no strangers invading their space, and their privacy is not violated. I second the Bradley class suggestion and (of course) doulas . In my experience, not only can a doula help make sure your wishes are followed, but some nurses and doctors actually act more respectfully than they might without a doula present, so the whole birth tends to be less confrontational.

All your talk about leakage made me smile. It reminded me of the first time I ate sunny-side-up eggs (when I was about 22). DH couldn't understand why I started laughing: the yolks just had a consistency that reminded me of...something else.
EWW about the sunny-side up eggs. i will NEVER look at them the same way again!!! EWW. thanks Jill
and thank you so so so much for the reassurance about your pains and the kicks/movement. soooo relieving. thank you.


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Not with THAT chart. I think anything "out of the ordinary" is an encouraging sign. Dont' get discouraged.

LZP, oh honey I'm thinking of you!! I saw the spotting on your chart and I knew it must be putting you in agony. But spotting is so common as your little baby burrows in. Think positive thoughts, and I will do it for you, too. Take it easy today!
Thanks Tear, I hope you're all right about that. Glad we brought you out of lurkdom with the disgusting turn that our convo took this week! I see you're post -O by a few days here.... when do we get to hear some good news from you?

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LZP - hasn't the weather just been so... Christmas-y today? I love it. We did some decorating, too.


AFM - I keep talking to and encouraging my fallopian tube "region." It's ridiculous. LOL.
yes it is SO SO Christmas-y! I love it too. it was so fun picking out our tree in the snow. it was that much easier to become motivated to clean up the autumn decorations just a few minutes ago.

I am often found having a full one-sided conversation with my reproductive parts.
Thanks to everyone for your encouragement; I'm humbled. Seems that everything has stopped for now, but then again i'm avoiding the b-room so I dont really know. I have an appt with the RE for a second round of BW on Monday at 7:30A so I'll have more peace of mind, hopefully.
post #178 of 624
My two week wait has begun... my two week wait for DF to be home, that is.

in about 4 days I will start my two weeks to O wait.

Today I had to deal with finding out that my 18 year old cousin got married this afternoon...

which was depressing enough when I want to be married so badly already...

but to top it off, she was 8 months pregnant! I didnt know about that either!
post #179 of 624
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I see you're post -O by a few days here.... when do we get to hear some good news from you?
That I don't know. But I'm 8dpo today. I'm trying to stay relaxed about it. I'm going to wait to see if AF comes next Sunday. Well, I'm going to try. It doesn't help that DH keeps teasing me about how tired I've been the last few days. lol....it's cute. I have several $tree and IC in my closet that have stayed there for several months! How proud of myself am I for that?! I guess my new attitude is working, since I even forgot to take my progesterone last night. Now here i sit, having put it in this morning, and I need to go..erhem...to the toilet. I know it will all come out. darnit!

LZP, I hope they call you back quickly tomorrow with the bloodwork info! Try to stay relaxed and distracted.

oh, and I'm totally visualizing wide open avenues for my fallopian tubes and cushy squishy lining for the egg to land in, so Lyndzies, you're not alone. I'm hoping my HSG opened everything up for smooth riding.
post #180 of 624
Morning everyone!

Got my (dotted) CHs today, but I also have a little EWCM today... so I'm figuring that I O'ed anywhere between Thursday and today-ish. Will temp for a few more days to see if that gives me any more data. Wondering if I should ask KD for another donation tomorrow, or call it a month. I'll probably call it a month.

Part of me wishes I had used OPKs this cycle, part of me is tired of shelling out the money for them when I'm usually pretty sure about when I O.

Also, glad I'm not the only one who does visualizing and talking to my girly parts. LOL!
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