is anyone else's totally an OOPS?! - Page 2

[LZP]

Hmm, Tubby, I'd hate to see you have to go through the disappointment, grief and sadness of a loss by yourself. And I bet your DH would too.

He might be upset/shocked about a BFP at first, but like everyone else here has said- he was there too! It's not like he doesnt know what can happen when intercourse takes place!

From the sounds of it, if it turns out you are pg then you might be able to just discuss with DH rationally. If he is concerned about finances, you have time to work on some things, and make budgets. the other reasons, I dont know what they are, but since you say nothing would result in ending your marriage or violence, I can't see it as insurmountable obstacles... just my opinion, of course.
But I'm sure the man you are married to, the one who adores you and your DD would not want you to suffer alone if something were to happen. It's noble of you to consider it, and sweet to "spare" your DH. but he might like to know what could have been with his child too, after all. I hope that you get the result you're hoping for in your heart and that you can share it with your DH, too, either way.

Would it be bad to mention that it seems you may have O'd earlier than you expected? so at least he's prepared for the chance, and you can guage his reaction? I could see maybe not starting a bad situation if not necessary, but is this something that, if approached lightheartedly, your DH might be receptive to?

[shanna-cat]

Originally Posted by BlackSheepPDX

Ooops! Uh, yeah...I have an IUD *IN*. And I just got a BFP today, after becoming increasingly suspicious on day 36 of my normally 30-31 day cycle. Needless to say, I'm pretty much freaked out right now...in large part because I don't know what to do about the IUD!!!! Oh, and hey, I'm 35. Yikes.

wow, this is exactly what's going on with me. have copper iud in, got BFP yesterday, went to planned parenthood today and their test was neg, so had an ultrasound and *could* be, they are unsure. so now i am sitting in limbo waiting for my blood test tomorrow morning for the results. in total shock but honestly feel i am pg due to the puking every morning for the past week and serious moodiness...we'll see... AND i'm in pdx too! small world.

[maciascl]

I guess I can come out of lurking to say yes I got my BFP today & this was a total shock. I o'd about 5 days early this cycle, so I guess it was meant to be. I am quite nervous due to our financial situation, but I am going to be positive & enjoy this pregnancy since it will be my last.

[jennsation]

New here...I too just found out I'm preg. and have a Mirena IUD. This was COMPLETELY unexpected...I've had the Mirena for 2+ years (and it's not my first). I've got three sons, and my boyfriend has a daughter. We're a little bit in shock right now I think...he wasn't happy, but like he said..."What can you do".

Anyway...I found the Mothering.Com Forums because I had traditional hospital births with all three of my boys and I'm looking to change things this time around.

(PS...I haven't been to the doctor yet, but I guess I'm just assuming I'm due August...won't know for sure til I see someone though.)

[jazzybaby9]

AN OOPS HERE! Kind of

[Kimmiepie]

Hi, I am here. Or at least I am pretty sure I am.

I got a BFP tonight but it was on a blue dye test which I heard can have false positives?? I'm going to take another in the morning. The line came up right away and it was the Walgreens version of FRER.

Basically, my youngest is only 9 months old (almost 10 months), I have mono, and we were using withdrawl which we have never had an oops with before. I just had my first pp AF last month. I was charting but only CM, not temps, and still can't figure out how this happened?!

We're not telling anyone for as long as possible. I honestly don't know how I am going to do this. With mono, issues from my last birth (I'm scared), and I was DONE with kids for a while at least....I have so many thoughts running through my head right now. I'm scared. We just can't afford this right now, or a midwife, or....blah. We CAN do this, but I guess I'm just not wanting to and it will be very hard!

[finnegansmom]

I just found out I'm pregnant with #3. We weren't trying, and obviously not avoiding. We just moved and have alot going on in our lives right now, and we are both in our late 30s. My DH is not happy right now, he's stressed and frustrated.
I'm happy though, I think what's means to be is meant to be...
Congrats to everyone!

[mamabearsoblessed]

pure surprise here too and never thought I'd be on this side of the coin as we've always dealt w/ IF, secondary IF, intervention after intervention with fertdocs etc etc. IUI IVF and so on...
We were just content and postitive with what our lives had become and whammo!!!
Shock isn't even the word, and like others have said, dh is freaked and stressed. He keeps saying he doesn't mean to seem negative, he knows it will all be ok, he just wasn't thinking this would happen, Ever. LOL.
Yah, me neither, but God am I thrilled. I can't believe I'm going to feel a baby moving inside of me again! I'm going to birth again and nurse a newborn again!!! I thought that chapter was closed.... just goes to show....
I pray this baby stays.

[mrstorres2005]

An oopsie here too! We used BC and it failed..I didn't think I was but all my friends thought I was so I bought a test and then cried and collapsed into BFs arms. He is happy and says it's ok..its unexpected and not the best timing but can't change it now! Ive finally hit the happy and excited point..but yet still scared and worried about what's to come.

[Vaquitita]

yes, ours is an oops too. dh did not pull out in time, i ovulated the next day, so i was stressing for 2 weeks. we weren't planning another, but i'm really happy about it. i always said i wanted 4 kids...

[naturalmomma1]

This is oops #4 for us. #1 condom broke, #2 ovulated like 5 days early, #3 didn't think I was fertile yet, probably happened as far away from ovulation as possible, #4 withdrawal method finally failed us.

[onemomma]

Totally not alone. Of my 3 pregnancies, only one was planned. And as a nurse and a doula I should know how to avoid it, but life happens and it's beautiful. Congratulations. Surprises are no less exciting or loveable than planned miracles- in fact I think a little more so in some ways...

[matey]

Mine is a total opps. We didnt use a condom one time, and that's what did it. I know it was not a good time to not use a condom, but we were at my in-laws and the condoms werent anywhere close by. I didnt even want anymore kids. So, this has taken a lot of getting used to.

[the elyse]

right there with you matey... i didn't want anymore AT ALL. huge oops.. i remember thinking that i was going to get pregnant if i didn't get a condom... oh well!

[seattlemamma]

My families replies were: "Are you crazy?", "Was it planned?", "How are you going to manage?", "Are you gonna get fixed now?", etc. I mean really, how rude! Ours wasn't planned, but we are both excited. This will be our fifth. A gift is a gift whether it is your first or your fifth! Our replies started sounding something like this..."Are you kidding we are only half done!", "Yes, this little bundle of joy was planned from the beginning of time!", "Which one of your grand kids do you want us to put back?". We keep getting more creative. It is kind of fun now. We have definitely made a game of it. There have been a few that have been genuinely happy for us and it was nice.

Congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and happy birth.

[COgirl19]

Another BCP baby here! We are absolutely thrilled though, despite the fact that DH is unemployed right now, we are trusting God that if we got pregnant on the pill than He's got a plan. DH is just hoping for a boy....he is a little frightened of having even more estrogen in the house.

[SteelerMom]

My first two were complete "oops" pregnancies. This one was a little different. I had been ttc for about a year but was taking a few months off because my husband had a total hip replacement. That involved him getting pelvic and hip x rays (no lead shield used) and I didn't want to ttc for a few months after. Because I had been charting my bbt, I had sex 6 days before and one day after ovulation. Somehow, I got pregnant anyway. The "experts" say not to worry about the xrays that my husband had 5-6 weeks prior to conception, but it still makes me uneasy. Congratulations on your pregnancy. In no way does the fact that it was and "oops!" make it any less of a miracle.

[lunarlady]

Ours isn't a total "oops", because I had my hormonal IUD out in plans of TTC sometime later this year. The plan was to take the IUD out, wait until I had a period, then use condoms until things were more regular hormonally with me. Well, turns out I had the IUD out and fell pregnant just 3 days later. So much for having to have a period first! I haven't had a period in almost 4 years! So weird, but we are happy anyway since we did want to grow our family.

[MonP'titBoudain]

Oh yeah, we're a total "oops" here. Well, we dtd I thought 2 days past ovulation, but I wasn't being very vigilant anymore (hVen't temped in 3 years and was just going by cm) so now I'm really not positive as to what day I was on! Honestly, in the middle of it I thought "I am so getting pregnant" but then shoved that thought out of my mind and refused to pick it up again until I was two weeks late and falling asleep on the couch mid-morning! As far as plannign goes, the last two years have been extremely tough financially. By all typical guages we should not be having any children and certainly not anymore. But, life happens, you roll with it and now that the shock is wearing off and I've felt a couple little bumps, I'm really getting excited about this! I've always wanted a bigger family and we had planned on starting to try again in June, so it's not a total knock-me-over kind of shock. It just isn't exactly what we'd planned. I have to give it to our families, though, in spite of all apparent difficulties in the timing, they are all thrilled! It's good to have that support even if other's are a little less tactful.

[autumnfairy76]

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