In our house we are teaching DD to dress in a way that she is comfortable with. She is most comfortable with covering up at the moment, but if that changes we aren't going to beat ourselves up about it. Dh and I know that she is fully capable of telling a guy to growup if he can't look anywhere other then her chest or ass..
I've definitely done a lot of growing up in the just the past few years. I've learned that I don't really need form fitting clothes to make myself feel better about my body. I don't need makeup or razors or hair dye. I don't need to feel embarrassed because I happen to wear a swim suit and it happens to show my stretch marks from pregnancy. Now that's not to say that women who do like to wear form fitting clothes or wear make up or shave haven't grown up. That's what they like and that's fine. But for me, I did those things because I felt that they would make me feel better about myself. And I was wrong. And honestly, I do have to thank MDC for some of that, particularly the stretch marks. One mama on here said a while ago that they were like her battle scars, a physical proof of carrying her child and that it was completely natural so why be embarrassed by it? She really got me thinking and after some deep soul searching, I realized she was right.
Figuring these things out has saved me a lot of stress and a lot of effort and time. I don't need to spend an hour getting ready to go to the store. So what if my hair is a bit messy. Why yes, I am wearing a sweatshirt that's two sizes too big; it's DPs and I like wearing his things. I can wear a tank top with unshaved arm pits; get over it. I really feel that I am more at peace with myself because I was able to figure out what made me comfortable, without worrying about how it effected other people. That's not my problem nor is it my responsibility. I can't control other people, only myself.