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post #101 of 402
Congrats Carmen and family!!!
post #102 of 402
So I'm pretty bumming today. I'm "back to work" which kinda sucks!! I really thought my timing was perfect! I would have my x-mas bonus (the time between xmas and New Years off and paid) and that would bleed right into my maternity leave, because SURELY my baby would be here by the 4th. NOPE!!! So here I am working from home!! which is a nice option, but it is NOT what I want to be doing. I cannot afford to piss through my 8 weeks of maternity leave so I have to save it for whenever this lil' one arrives. My boss is flexible and very supportive, but returning to work?? its never fun!! and NOT what I want to be doing today. I want to be holding my lil babe, not slouching over my computer all day!!
post #103 of 402
hugs to you kjm!! it's so cold here today that i told dp she could have the baby now so we wouldn't have to go back to work. but here we are. of course we still have 2 more weeks to go til our due date!! i hope your lo makes an appearance soon.

g
post #104 of 402
Congrats, Carmen, and welcome baby Skylar! I love that name!

Keely, I feel ya, mama. I was SO READY by the time Ocean arrived (a week after her due date). Blah, back-to-work sucks even when there is no baby coming. Hang in there, you will not even remember these days once Kale is here.
post #105 of 402
Congrats, Carmen, and Happy Babymoon!!!
post #106 of 402
kjm, sorry you had to go back to work...bummer! Hope your LO arrives soon so you can leave that all behind for a while.
post #107 of 402
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kjm, i bet it is hard to concentrate on your work at this point! hopefully you won't have to continue for much longer and you will get to meet your lo!
post #108 of 402
kjm - sending you ELV's and can't wait to hear YOUR birth story soon!! (Because, it's gonna happen, darn it )

AFM - had the am doc appt this morning. No ultrasound yet (scheduled for the 21st), but they did make me take the one hour GTT (which I'm positive I failed with flying colors) and took six other vials of blood while they were at it. Now, of course, they are going to jump up and down and freak out about my blood sugars. :sigh The true moment of humor though was when the nurse asked about the father of this child, after reading my wife's name and us discussing that she was my spouse. I think she thought I had cheated on my wife with some guy because she wasn't prepared for the father to be described as "he's an anonymous donor" LOL! I have my midwife intake appt tonight. Wish me luck that they'll take me on, crazy blood sugars or not, and I don't have to worry about the doctors anymore...
post #109 of 402
Thanks for the kind words, everyone

The week has been VERY intense but we're slowly getting it together. Skylar ended up looking a little too jaundice on the 3rd for our midwife's liking so we were asked to bring her in to the lab for a blood test to test her Bilirubin levels. Turns out they were quite high so it was advised that we take her into the post partum ward of the women's hospital for light therapy. Basically, that meant her lying under lights for 24 hours, then 12 hours without, with 3 blood tests during that time. The Bilirubin levels came down within 6 hours, continued to fall and were fine by this morning so we are back home. Ped. assured us that 60% of newborns are jaundice so nothing to worry about. It was stressful though and we are glad to be home with her looking pink again

All the nurses and midwives felt so bad for us because we had this amazing uncomplicated birth at home and yet we ended up in the post partum ward anyway.

I'm looking forward to sharing our birth story and now that we're home again I can get at it!

Kjm, I can't believe you have to go back to work!!! I'm sure Kale will arrive safe and sound when he or she is ready. Hang in there!!!
post #110 of 402
I'm checking in 10 times a day Keely...can't wait for Kale to arrive! Hope you're not working too hard. xx
post #111 of 402
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Thanks for the kind words, everyone

The week has been VERY intense but we're slowly getting it together. Skylar ended up looking a little too jaundice on the 3rd for our midwife's liking so we were asked to bring her in to the lab for a blood test to test her Bilirubin levels. Turns out they were quite high so it was advised that we take her into the post partum ward of the women's hospital for light therapy. Basically, that meant her lying under lights for 24 hours, then 12 hours without, with 3 blood tests during that time. The Bilirubin levels came down within 6 hours, continued to fall and were fine by this morning so we are back home. Ped. assured us that 60% of newborns are jaundice so nothing to worry about. It was stressful though and we are glad to be home with her looking pink again

All the nurses and midwives felt so bad for us because we had this amazing uncomplicated birth at home and yet we ended up in the post partum ward anyway.

I'm looking forward to sharing our birth story and now that we're home again I can get at it!

Kjm, I can't believe you have to go back to work!!! I'm sure Kale will arrive safe and sound when he or she is ready. Hang in there!!!
Sorry for the scary start. But, coming from this postpartum doula, I agree that jaundice is very common and not a big deal unless it gets super high and isn't treated. And, now that it's gone and as long as she's feeding well, you're totally in the clear. I'm sorry that they weren't able to set you up with bili lights at home though. That sucks you had to go to the hospital after your home birth.

AFM, I'm frickin huge. I'll be 7 weeks on Wednesday and the bloat is out of control. I look a little bloated in the morning and by mid-day I look 5 months pregnant. It's really crazy and impossible to hide. I've had to move into only elastic waists and maternity pants already.
post #112 of 402
carmen-- glad to hear things are good, sorry about the hospital visit, but its true that it is very common, at least your birth was all you had hoped for!! looking forward to your story!! girl i need inspiration!!

MMM--
my friend!! so nice to hear from you!! I needed a friendly boost today!!

I am barely hanging in there!!! I didn't cry too much during my pregnancy but boy am i making up for lost time now. I had 4 contractions during the night--just enough to keep me from good sleep and keep me nauseous--but i've had nothing for 6 hours now sooo..ugghh I know each day i'm closer, and I want o enjoy my pre-baby time, but it is pretty maddening. i'm gonna go for a walk to see if i cn bin 'em back
post #113 of 402
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I'm checking in 10 times a day Keely...can't wait for Kale to arrive! Hope you're not working too hard. xx
Me too

I know how each day can feel like a week at the end of pregnancy, but you really WILL be holding your baby so soon, Keely.

My advice to you at this point would be to try and ignore your contractions as much as possible. I wouldn't go for walks to try and get things going. I know that it feels like you have to do SOMETHING, but really I think the best thing to do is try not to think about it. Make plans to do other things. Go to movies, decide that you want to sew a whole quilt before your baby is born, have special dinners every night.

With Leo's birth, it felt really fast to us because even though Lena was "in labor" for 24 hours before Leo arrived, we didn't pay attention to the contractions at all until she was in active labor, about 5 hours before Leo was born. We would have been EXHAUSTED (and by we, I mostly mean Lena) if we'd spent that whole day of early labor going for walks and timing contractions and trying to keep things going. Instead we just had a normal day of normal activities. We went grocery shopping and Lena took a nap. We made a regular dinner. Everything was very calm.

The last few weeks of my twin pregnancy lasted YEARS for me because I expected the twins to come early (I'd been on bedrest and drugs and in and out of the hospital for preterm labor since 29 weeks). From 35 to 38 weeks, I spent every day trying to go into labor (long walks, climbing stairs, counting contrax, etc.). It was so depressing. With my next pregnancy, I had no expectation of the baby arriving anytime before 43 weeks, and I enjoyed the end of pregnancy so much more (and it went by so much more quickly!).

I don't know how many weeks you are now, but I'm sure you know that most first time moms go at least 10 days past the EDD. I always tell people to plan on 42-43 weeks, and luckily you're one of a few people who has a midwife who's truly comfortable with letting the baby decide when to be born. You will have a lifetime with your baby post-birth, but only a handful of days left with him/her inside you.

So much love,

Lex
post #114 of 402
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MMM--
my friend!! so nice to hear from you!! I needed a friendly boost today!!

Here's hoping that you've gone quiet because there's a babe in your arms...

...and if there's not, watch another movie and savor it! Your baby will be here soon enough and you'll never be able to remember a time without little Kale in your world.
post #115 of 402
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Here's hoping that you've gone quiet because there's a babe in your arms...
Nope 41 weeks today
post #116 of 402
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Nope 41 weeks today
When I saw you were the last post I said to myself, "Oooh, I hope I hope I hope!"

Well, now I hope that you continue to find rest and relaxation as you await the arrival of your babe.

be well,
megin
post #117 of 402
hopefully it won't be too much longer keely!!!! we're just short of 39 weeks and with the exception of a few contractions here and there and some extra pressure no sign that our wee one is coming any time soon. having said that, i was the same until i woke up with bloody show and soon thereafter realized i was leaking amniotic fluid!

g
post #118 of 402
This is so exciting! We've had a string of births and we have a bunch more lined up. It's an avalanche of babies on the queer board!!

Carmen - I'm so glad the jaundice cleared up - what a curveball to end up in the post partum ward!

kjm - hang in there! I'm thinking comfortable thoughts for you.

AFM - I'm feeling the baby everyday - and it's no longer a flutter, but full on kicks! I love it. Some times a little "oh" escapes when I get kicked, not because it hurts, but just because it's surprising and intense. My cough is all but gone and I'm feeling good again and getting back to my yoga/gym routine. Even with the bitter cold, things are looking good!
post #119 of 402
Thinkin' about you, kjm. I hope little Kale is doing well and just waiting for the exact right moment to arrive safely Hang in there....

Pf, enjoy the kicks - I loved it too
post #120 of 402
Kale watch....
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