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How Can She Live on So Little Sleep?

post #1 of 7
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This is babe #2 for moi, and with #1, I learned that you just have to be patient, it might take years, but they will sleep through the night. So i am not even trying to get my 7-mo old DD to sleep more at night, though she won't nurse lying down and often has to be rocked while I nurse standing up -- and though she often wakes for a couple hours from 3 to 5 or 2 to 4.

But it's the day that is killing me. She sometimes will nap for an hour or two but mostly she takes one or two very short naps a day. I can't take a nap or get any work done or do much homeschooling with my 4 yr old because she just catnaps. So when she goes to sleep at night, I always use that time before I crash utterly to do a little work, and as a result I am barely sleeping at all. But most of all I do not understand how she can live on so little sleep! At night she goes down at 6:30 or 7 and gets up anywhere from 4 til 6, but this is often interrupted for 2 full hours of wakey wakey. Then during the day, she gets anywhere from 45 minutes + 25 minutes of sleep during the two nap times all the way up to a couple hours, but mostly it's very little, rarely does she get more than an hour in the morning and a short one in the afternoon with maybe a 10-15 min here and there while i am walking. She is a very happy and sweet baby, such that everyone is always commenting on her as the "perfect" baby, so I don't think she is suffering from lack of sleep (though I sure am!). But am I doing this wrong? Should I be doing more to get her to sleep more, like walking endlessly while wearing her though I have my son to take care of?
post #2 of 7
My 1st dd was never really a napper. I think some kids are just like that. The first couple of years with her were really intense--I swear, when she was two she was sleeping about 8 hours out of 24.

If it's any consolation, she was sleeping through the night much earlier than my napper, and has sleep straight through 10+ hours since she was about 4.

It's hard (believe me, I know!) but if she's happy and otherwise well, I honestly don't think it's cause for concern.

good luck!
post #3 of 7
With DD1, I had to work very hard to get her to sleep at all. I swaddled her till 15 months, we have a white noise sound machine and room darkening shades, the works. I found she did best if I could follow a modified 2-3-4 routine - 2.5 hours after waking for the day she took a nap, 3.5 hours after waking from that she took another nap, 4.5 hour after waking she went down for the night. Sometimes it took me 45 minutes just to get her to keep her eyes closed for 30 seconds in a row, or to go from "signs of sleepiness" to "drowsy" and then more work to get her to sleep. Her sleepy cues were hard to spot and very easy to miss, and she is the type to just get more and more wired and wound up, not drowsy/sleepy/sleeping on her own. She needed a LOT of parenting to get to sleep, and it was exhausting.

Around 9 months she stopped nursing to sleep. At 12 months she gave up the pacifier cold turkey all on her own. At 15 months she started to refuse to night nurse, and by 16.5 months had nightweaned herself. At 17.5 months, she STTN for the first time. And by this, I mean, she slept a 6-hour stretch for the first time in her entire life. She's 3 now, and gave up naps months ago. She is usually a lot easier to get to bed now, and sleeps 11.5-12.5 hours a night all by herself.

DD2, now almost 11 mo) is easier to get to sleep, but won't stay asleep longer than 45 minutes during the day or 3 hours at night. And sometimes she wakes at 2 a.m. and wants to play for an hour and a half.

Last night, she didn't go to bed till 10:30-10:45 ish, and was up 3-4 times to nurse (I lose track) and was up (though drowsy and not happy about being awake, didn't want to play) for 45 minutes at one point. She was up for the day around 8:15. She took a 45 minute nap this morning and a 30 minute nap this evening.

I just don't know how she can survive, let alone grow and thrive, on so little sleep! Somehow, she's doing just fine, though. I know right now it's due to her figuring out this whole walking thing. She's taking independent steps and walking up to about 6 feet independently. So I *know* the recent poor sleep is due to that physical stuff.

But, sheesh, kid! Go to sleep already!

So, yeah, no advice, just commiseration!

If it's any consolation, they say kids get into better sleep pattern at 18 months and then even better patterns around 3. Held true for DD1.
post #4 of 7
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Originally Posted by pinky View Post
If it's any consolation, she was sleeping through the night much earlier than my napper, and has sleep straight through 10+ hours since she was about 4.
THANKS -- I am gonna keep this sentence on a card pasted to my head when I am going crazy! Her brother (4) was a better napper and still doesn't sleep through the night most of the time!
post #5 of 7
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Originally Posted by _betsy_ View Post
With DD1, I had to work very hard to get her to sleep at all. I swaddled her till 15 months, we have a white noise sound machine and room darkening shades, the works. I found she did best if I could follow a modified 2-3-4 routine - 2.5 hours after waking for the day she took a nap, 3.5 hours after waking from that she took another nap, 4.5 hour after waking she went down for the night. Sometimes it took me 45 minutes just to get her to keep her eyes closed for 30 seconds in a row, or to go from "signs of sleepiness" to "drowsy" and then more work to get her to sleep. Her sleepy cues were hard to spot and very easy to miss, and she is the type to just get more and more wired and wound up, not drowsy/sleepy/sleeping on her own. She needed a LOT of parenting to get to sleep, and it was exhausting.

Around 9 months she stopped nursing to sleep. At 12 months she gave up the pacifier cold turkey all on her own. At 15 months she started to refuse to night nurse, and by 16.5 months had nightweaned herself. At 17.5 months, she STTN for the first time. And by this, I mean, she slept a 6-hour stretch for the first time in her entire life. She's 3 now, and gave up naps months ago. She is usually a lot easier to get to bed now, and sleeps 11.5-12.5 hours a night all by herself.

DD2, now almost 11 mo) is easier to get to sleep, but won't stay asleep longer than 45 minutes during the day or 3 hours at night. And sometimes she wakes at 2 a.m. and wants to play for an hour and a half.

Last night, she didn't go to bed till 10:30-10:45 ish, and was up 3-4 times to nurse (I lose track) and was up (though drowsy and not happy about being awake, didn't want to play) for 45 minutes at one point. She was up for the day around 8:15. She took a 45 minute nap this morning and a 30 minute nap this evening.

I just don't know how she can survive, let alone grow and thrive, on so little sleep! Somehow, she's doing just fine, though. I know right now it's due to her figuring out this whole walking thing. She's taking independent steps and walking up to about 6 feet independently. So I *know* the recent poor sleep is due to that physical stuff.

But, sheesh, kid! Go to sleep already!

So, yeah, no advice, just commiseration!

If it's any consolation, they say kids get into better sleep pattern at 18 months and then even better patterns around 3. Held true for DD1.
And this one too -- commiseration is kind of like advice i think -- it keeps you going to remember these details from another mama so that you know you are not completely nuts. I just find it hard to work as hard getting #2 to sleep now that I have #1 to worry about -- and the thought of someone giving up night nursing on her own is a miracle! Just imagining a day when kids were asleep for 10 or 11 hours is like imagining swimming in a tropical sea in the dead of wet-boot winter.
post #6 of 7
my son takes 20 minutes nap 3 times a day and goes to bed really late. he seems to be fine, however i am always exhausted
post #7 of 7
Add my kids to the pile. i honestly need more sleep than they do. They are 2 and 5. They've never slept. I joke with dh that they are some alien-human hybrid from whatever planet he's really from, LOL!
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