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post #21 of 51
We didn't find out with the first and that was great (it's a girl!). We didn't find out with the second until the 8th month (you're having a boy). So we named him and then he was born. I preferred having the surprise at the birth, so we do not want to find out this time. There are so few times in life to have surprises like this that I really want to experience it again.
post #22 of 51
This is my first pregnancy, and i cant decide if i want to find out what it is yet! I saw another post on a different board where the mom-to-be had the doc write down the gender on a piece of paper and then she didnt look at it till she got home. I think i might do that with my family, get the doc to write it down and surprise my family, although, with 2 families it might be hard to be surprised the second time. Either way, having a birth and being surprised when it pops out sounds so fun. To me it seems like that would make that moment so much more special. Guess ill have to confer with DH about that!
post #23 of 51
We wont be finding out until the babies birthday. I knew with the last two so I'm really excited for it to be a surprise this time.
post #24 of 51
we will most likely be finding out. i plan on getting regular ultrasounds and BPPs this time so i can't imagine not finding out.
post #25 of 51
you might want to ask mw/ob/ nurse not to announce it too. Maybe it's just tv births with the doctor holding baby up high announcing "it's a ___" but that would annoy me!
I loved those minutes of new baby on my chest just holding and watching the face then at some point going to look. I admit at first glace I though my girl was a boy with everything so puffy down there and the uc still attached.

Anyone find out the sex and realize the u/s was wrong at birth?
post #26 of 51
I'm really really excited to say that (much to my husband's dismay), we are NOT finding out the gender this time around (he's a big planner). Last time he wanted to find out, so we did the whole tech-writing-sex-on-paper thing, and that was great. We actually tdook a little video of ourselves opening the envelope and it was nice. But this time I do NOT do NOT DO NOT want to find out until the birth. DH got his way last time, and, gosh darn it, I'm getting my way this time (Even though DH is already antsy about it. Hehehe!)
post #27 of 51
We're not finding out until the birth. We're going to see if our intuition is correct---we both keep saying "him", so we'll be doing orange, yellow, green, and brown colors and waiting to meet our little one! Girl or boy, we'll be happy with either. But I definitely want the surprise factor.
post #28 of 51
We don't do ultrasounds unless there is a medical need, so we won't be finding out. That said, if there ever was a need for an ultrasound (knock on wood) I'd probably find out because there's no way I could stand that info being held from me if it was known!

With ds, I had no doubt whatsoever that he was a boy. From the very beginning I had baby boy dreams and focused on boy names. When he was born it wasn't really a surprise to me...it was more like, "hey! I was right!"

This time around I'm feeling pretty certain it's a girl. I'm sick as a dog, which I never was with ds, and I've been having nothing but baby girl dreams. Who knows though. I guess time will tell
post #29 of 51
I don't think I will find out either. As long as the baby is healthy that is all that matters to me. I have a lot of skepticism about the safety of ultrasounds in pregnancy as well.

I always said I'd have two girls and a boy and I have already had my two girls so I'm just guessing this one will be a boy?
post #30 of 51
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I question the safety for babies with ultrasounds as well especially low risk pregnancies. Plus, even with my biology background/curiosity, I always get the creeps when u/s techs say things like, oh look, there is your ovary/bladder/internal organ that has never seen the light of day. Dude! These are my private internal organs that you, a stranger, are so blaise about.

I may be a little nuts, but I feel beyond naked standing in the front of the class.

Switching subjects from u/s, We have picked out Isabella for a girl (and not because of the vampire chick-bleech) and nicknamed this baby Izzy just because we don't know yet (Izzy) is he a girl or (Izzy) is he a boy? LOL
post #31 of 51
I found out my daughter's sex at our 20 week ultrasound. I just HAD to know and I wanted to get outfits picked out and just have everything all ready when she was born. However, I am comfortable waiting this time around. I'd be happy with either sex.
post #32 of 51
We didn't find out with our son, and my husband got to tell me at the birth- it was great! We were pretty sure he was going to be a boy and we were right! We won't find out this time either, but our hunch is girl this time. But it would be great for DS to have a brother so close age, so either way we're happy! We're planning on having three, anyway!
post #33 of 51
we are going for the surprise this time around! We found out with my son but the pregnancy was a surprise so that was enough for me! This time I want to wait because the bottom line is that I don't really care if its a boy or a girl but I would sort of like a girl since we already have a boy so I don't want to know and have any kind of negative thoughts about it.
post #34 of 51
We found out with our first but aren't finding out this time.
post #35 of 51
We will not be doing ultrasound, so we won't find out until he/she is here! We did it the same way with DS and I'm so glad. People don't seem to care a lot about us not finding out the sex, but they freak out when they hear we won't have an US.
post #36 of 51
We also question the safety of ultrasounds for healthy pregnancy. Of course there is a place for them, but we believe they are over used. I mean when you read what the inventor says about their use during pregnancy it is eerily similar to what the inventor of xray said about their use during pregnancy.

So we didn't have an us with ds and won't have one with this one either unless medically indicated. I didn't have dreams or anything with ds, it was just a feeling. And we couldn't settle on a girl name. We had a girl name but the boy name came easier and felt more right. DH also started using the boy name we picked out in our Hypnobirthing homework. Since he travels alot, he just tape it and burn to a cd for me to listen to. We also told him that it would make his Meemaw super happy to share her birthday with him. So even with a family history of going 2-3 weeks late, our little guy showed up 4 days early.

About 2 weeks after we found out we were expecting I just woke up one morning and said we are having a girl and her name is Sarah. I didn't really say it to anyone in particular noone was home, it was just an overwhelming feeling like the baby told me. About a week later I told DH. He thought Sarah sounded very nice with ds's name. It made me a bit sad though, I really do want another boy. Last time I didn't have a preference, but this time is different. So now I am torn between honoring the communication from this little bean and my own feelings. And no, I am usually not this hokey-pokey.
post #37 of 51
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Originally Posted by twead View Post
So we didn't have an us with ds and won't have one with this one either unless medically indicated. I didn't have dreams or anything with ds, it was just a feeling. And we couldn't settle on a girl name. We had a girl name but the boy name came easier and felt more right. DH also started using the boy name we picked out in our Hypnobirthing homework.
That's really interesting!
DH and I are having a terrible time with girls' names but we have our boys' names narrowed down to a very select list. I always picture us with a baby boy and a little boy later on. I'm having a hard time deciding if I have a "feeling" it's a boy or if it's just that we really want a boy. It's hard to say. Sometimes I think because we want a boy so much, it's got to be a girl! That's just the way things work for us...usually.
post #38 of 51
DH wants to find out- he wanted to find out with DS, but we couldn't. I was actually happy to NOT know in the end.

This time, we're having an ultrasound around 14 weeks, and I really want to stick to only one ultrasound this time, so I think based on that, we're out of the running for finding out anyway!
post #39 of 51
We're not finding out. It's killing me though because my other 3 we've found out. But I keep telling myself that it'll be the surprise of a lifetime and I HAVE to wait. DH is totally on board too so that makes it easy too!
post #40 of 51
God-willing this baby stays with us
I will not be finding out. we have 1 girl and 1 boy (found out for both)and i promised my DH if we ever had a 3rd we wouldnt find out .. we actually have no "room" for this baby to have its own so theres no advanced decorating anyways
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