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post #41 of 705
Originally Posted by widemouthedfrog View Post
Does anyone have experience with Suzuki violin? Dd is quite musical and I'm considering Suzuki next year, especially if we don't do K. However, if it is very strict and structured I doubt it will fly. We may just sit in on a class if we can.
I'd definitely sit in on a class, and maybe check out a few different teachers if you can -- it's all about the teacher, I think. Lucy just ended her suzuki violin run (we're hoping to start back after kids have been home a while) and
her teacher was wonderful, I almost cried when we stopped lessons. the method itself is great for little ones, not so sure how I feel about me being such a huge part of correcting my pre-teen girl's positioning, etc. I think it made playing the violin a little less fun for her, but that's the suzuki way. my dh is a musician and it drove him crazy that I was correcting her hand position, her posture, etc -- he really felt I should leave her to play on her own, but that's not how suzuki works, the parent is essentially the at-home teacher until the kids master positioning, etc. with some personalities, I'm sure that would be fine at any age, but with my daughter, who really does not like being told what to do all that much, it kind of sucked. which is probably why suzuki is designed to start at age 4 or 5, before that developmental stage sets in. it was a great experience, though, and she was happy with it. she loved lessons, just never really felt like practicing. I'm hoping she'll pick it up on her own, now that she's not in lessons and I don't have to harp on her... I think she would prefer a less finicky approach to music, though. Lynley was starting to teach her to read music (which wouldn't happen in suzuki for a while longer, but we asked her to teach her) so we'll keep working on that, and maybe get some song books of beatles songs or something so she can just have fun with it on her own.

so yeah, suzuki method is great for little ones, but only if you have a good teacher.

Originally Posted by Alison's Mom View Post
what blog hosting site would people recommend? Are they all free? Which ones are user-friendly, look nice, etc?
I use wordpress, and it's pretty easy to use. I think other sites (blogger.com?) might be easier to have more fancy backgrounds and such -- with wordpress the templates are fairly simple, though you can make them more elaborate if you know what you're doing.

super busy today, it certainly helps keep my mind off the crazy to be busy!!! my parents are coming tomorrow and we have a million things to do today, so I have no choice but to charge ahead -- feels pretty good! the issue is that if I'm not forced to do something, I find it hard to bring myself to do it in my current frame of mind. so anyway, back to it!
post #42 of 705
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Alison's Mom, I use Blogger. Wordpress and Blogger are the big freebie ones. You can use canned templates, and customize as you can and wish. Wordpress has prettier templates. If you're doing a lot of photos, it helps to have a photo hosting site -- I pay for "pro" hosting on flickr, because blogger and wordpress typically don't have use space for hosting photos. It all seems complicated, but it's not as hard as it seems. You can set up a blog in 5 minutes then google every time you're trying to figure out how to make it pretty or look how you want it to look. I set up my sister's blog as a present once -- she just didn't feel like doing it.
post #43 of 705
Ellaine, yes Locals was what Pealette recommended and we're planning to go there!

Blogging: I've used both Blogger and Wordpress. I switched to WP because I wanted different selection of themes and mostly b/c it allows you to customize a bit more if you learn the programming language (which I did in a very basic way and enjoyed it; the site itself is helpful in teaching you how to do different things). I tend to post photos but I just post them right from my computer (via iPhoto) and haven't had an issue with space restrictions. But it's not like I'm posting dozens a day so not sure when it becomes an issue.

Off to Hula Hoot for the last session of the term tomorrow. Then we'll be heading out on the 7 o'clock sailing for Nanaimo. I'm so looking forward to this: the Holiday Inn there has an indoor pool, hot tub, and water slide for the kids. Woo hoo!
post #44 of 705
Hey Mariah, while you're in Courteney, make sure to check out "CakeBread" on 5th street. Its a bakery that specializes in, what else, Cakes and Breads. They're really, really good. They're also attached to a chocolate and ice cream shop.
post #45 of 705
Is anyone going to Hula Hoot tomorrow? It is tomorrow, right? I would like to, but it depends when our new fridge gets delivered.
post #46 of 705
We'll be at Hula Hoot, but not until around 1 pm.

Thanks for the tip, Elaine, we'll check that out too. How do you know so much about Courtenay?
post #47 of 705
Its because my in-laws live there. We go 3-4 times a year and stay 3-4 days each time. The last time we were there was for the Music festival back in August.
post #48 of 705
So, moving time again. We got here in mid-August, had an 8 month lease signed with our landlords, and now they've told us they can't renew it because they're moving back in themselves (the place they were renting was sold). So while we do technically have until mid-April to leave, they have said we're free to leave sooner. We've started looking because it's not a nice feeling having that hanging over your head, and I'd rather just get it over with. Haven't found anything quite right yet. A couple that aren't bad, a few that should be torn down rather than rented out, and lots that just aren't what we're looking for.

I don't suppose anyone here is looking for tenants in Burnaby??
post #49 of 705
What a frustrating time to move! I don't know of anything Cynthia, but I wish you good luck. What kind of place are you looking for? Have you looked at co-ops?
post #50 of 705
Hmm, that's a good idea. We had looked at co-ops before we moved here, but just didn't find anything suitable at the time. I'll take another look. Thanks for the suggestion!
post #51 of 705
Thanks for the blog tips, everyone. I think I'll try wordpress.

Cynthia - that's frustrating dealing with landlords and being at their mercy. . . . . Good luck finding a place!
post #52 of 705
I have a blogger blog and a wordpress one (both I never use). I found the blogger one easier to learn, but I like both. Wordpress seems more versatile since it can be your whole website, not just a blog.

I have a thread in the dental forum right now
post #53 of 705
Originally Posted by widemouthedfrog View Post
I am so exhausted by dd's separation anxiety these days. I know that I need to start providing her with good tools to manage her anxiety and sadness, but all I want to do is give her a big hug.

Ksenia already mentioned Neufeld. I just finished taking the Power to Parent videocourse - it was WONDERFUL! He does have a lot of useful suggestions for separation anxiety. You are probably already doing the things he talks about, but maybe something will pop out that is helpful...

The first thing that comes to mind is to make sure that your dd is attached to the person that you are leaving her with. If the anxiety is happening mostly when you are taking her to school, see if there is any way of spending some time with the teacher, yourself, and dd to try to help her understand that the teacher someone that YOU are also connected with.

Neufeld talks a lot about the need for an "attachment community" - people that your children are comfortable being around that aren't necessarily part of your family, but that you have cultivated a connection with. It's important for the child to sense that you are attached to the other adults you are enlisting to help care for them.

The second thing that you could try is to let her know how much you are thinking of her when you are not with her. Send a picture of yourself, or something that belongs to you that she can hold on to when you are not there yourself. Maybe a piece of your clothing - something that smells like you. Talk to her afterwards about how you were thinking about her when you were not with her.

The last thing that comes to mind is to "fill her up" with love so that she is SO secure in her attachment to you that she can handle being apart from you for a while.

I don't mean to suggest that you aren't doing these things already!
post #54 of 705

Full Day Kindy

Argh, I had this huge message typed out and it disappeared. So here is the capuslated version.

My DS is in full day kindy, 8:20 to 2:20, then in after school care until 5. He is extremely happy and after four months of this routine, the only time he's gotten upset is when he found out he wasn't going to have math homework and when he found out he had to miss a week of school after his appendectomy. Maybe he's a little weird...but I would have to say he is thriving. Most days when I come to get him from afterschool care, he gets mad that I've come too early and he is not ready to go. This is not the sign of an unhappy, overwhelmed kid. And we are talking about a very structured, full curriculum each day which includes language/reading arts, french, spanish, PE, technology, C.A.R.E. program, health and career education, math.

Obviously, full day kindy won't be right for all children, but let's not bash introducing a program that will (if properly designed and implemented) be helpful and healthy for the majority of mainstream education users. Let's face it, there are a LOT of existing options for people who do not want their children in mainstream education programs, but not a lot for people who do.
post #55 of 705
Sorry that my previous post sounds defensive...my condensed version lost a lot in translation. I should also mention that our family's experience of full day kindy may be different from public school full day kindy...I don't have any experience with that. But I have to say I'm super impressed with the kind of teaching that is done in DS' school...lots of hands on, learning through activity type stuff and recognition of developmentally appropriate learning. They also really emphasize that children learn at their own pace and that there will be a broad range of "accomplishment" in a particular area depending on each child's readiness for that particular thing.
post #56 of 705

Rental Apartments

I'm making up for my lack of participation today :-) If anyone is looking for 2 bdrm apartment at Commercial and Clark with a large, overgrown yard that can be converted into a garden, PM me. I have a friend with a place to rent. I think pets are welcome too.
post #57 of 705
True Dido.

I also want to point out that full day kindergarten is not a new idea. maybe it is here, but I went to full day kindergarten in Manitoba. Granted, I went every other day, but it was full day. And the kindergarten classes in my other schools were also full-day EOD to accomodate kids who took the bus to school. Kids in rural areas all over this country have been doing full day kindergarten and thriving on it for a long time. That's not to say that it's right for every kid and I don't think I'll be sending DD, but who knows!
post #58 of 705
Hi Justine,
I'm in no way bashing all day kindy. I have no idea how it will go actually. I was talking to my cousin in law last night and she's a kindergarten teacher. She said that they will be moving to all day Kindy in Richmond next year and that she hopes to get a full time job at that time. She says that they will be quite structured with nap times and other down times during the day. She sounded enthusiastic about it, if not a little apprehensive.

For myself, I do think that for some kids it would be a good thing to be mentally stimulated all day, and it would be a nice break for some parents not to have to do the before and after school care int he middle of the day.
post #59 of 705
Originally Posted by tiffani View Post
the parent is essentially the at-home teacher until the kids master positioning, etc. with some personalities, I'm sure that would be fine at any age, but with my daughter, who really does not like being told what to do all that much, it kind of sucked. which is probably why suzuki is designed to start at age 4 or 5, before that developmental stage sets in.
Thanks for the feedback, Tiffani! I have no experience with our local community music school, but I think that it's the only one on the North Shore that does Suzuki. I think that I will look into sitting in on a class. It is a 1 year commitment, so it's worth a look-see.

I laughed at your comment above. Given the major power struggles at our house lately, I think that we're already in "that" developmental stage. Not that I have a stubborn child or anything. I wonder where she got it from? I am also unsure how dd would respond to me being the corrector of posture.... I have to do these things in a very sneaky way.

Thanks for the ideas, tooticky. I think that I do need to work on developing a secure attachment with dd again. I have been very tired due to more work in the evenings and due to parenting with very little backup. This has made me crankier than usual. There is also a lot of anger with me because I will not do everything that she wants me to do.

Caregivers are mostly grandparents. She's been going to her grandparents' houses for child care since she was 11 months old. Unfortunately, at the moment she doesn't like one set of grandparents and screams when she has to go there. They are great with her, but the other set has a dog and they also let her do whatever she wants.

We're also working on attachment with her preschool teacher, who is a totally lovely person - but dd is more familiar with the teacher from last year who is also in the classroom but is not the primary teacher most of the time. Preschool really worked on Friday, thank goodness.
post #60 of 705
i guess the thing for me is that there are a lot of burnt out kids out here in england, where they start out at 4 in full-time school, and by the time they are 8 or 9, their peers in europe who started at 7 have surpassed them. the 9 year olds i know here seem totally exhausted, there's so much pressure for them to do extra-curricular stuff + homework, there isn't any time to play, and from what i've seen in my very small sampling, they quickly forget how to. doesn't seem so great to me i have several close people who are teachers here and they are appalled at the emphasis on testing...sound familiar?

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