Now officially a "Dec Due Date".....Anyone else still out there? - Page 3

[perditafoster]

Oh, mamas, huge hugs! s I had my baby on Wednesday, at 41W4days and I tell you something, I was completely insane by the time labor started!!! I am feelin' ya on the crazy-making waiting. I actually didn't do anything to get labor started other than go to Bass Pro Shop the day before and walked around a lot. No spicy food, no dtd, no castor oil, no nothing. I am completely convinced that these babies, unfortunately, love their mama's insides more than their outsides and are by golly not budging until it's all over but the pushing! Good luck and I hope the natural induction methods work for y'all and that your brains can hang on until labor kicks in. I totally feel your desperation; I was there three days ago, begging my body to deliver this baby!

[ladyleah]

Perdita....thanks for the post, I certainly appreciate it-- at 41w and 1d, its awesome to hear these sorts of things right now....

Congrats to you btw!!!!!

[Tattooed Hand]

thanks for the pep talk and congratulations to you and your new little one.

I have given up. I know who the boss is now and it's not me.

[ladyleah]

Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand

I have given up. I know who the boss is now and it's not me.

Perhaps this is the trick....actually, I am certain of it! lololol

Surrender is apparently key, and my life lesson from the Universe. I thought I had gotten there....but apparently not.

[pampered_mom]

I've mostly lurked in the DDC. This pregnancy was a surprise and it took me quite awhile to get into the groove and find a bit more acceptance of what was to come. I actually got to the point that I was looking forward to meeting baby, etc. Well...at least until I went past 40+3 (when dd was born) and now finding myself 41+1. It's bringing back all sorts of feelings from the beginning which has been a bit difficult to deal with.

I try to remind myself that I'm lucky...I'm not facing any pressure to give birth by a certain date. I saw my mw on Thursday and don't have another appointment scheduled b/c she says "almost no one" makes it to 42 weeks. I asked her what would happen if we got to that point and she said she'd be in touch then and we'd get together again to check on baby, but that I didn't need to worry about it.

I know no one stays pregnant forever, but right now it feels like forever. I also know I should trust my mw's perspective, she's certainly be involved in far more pregnancies than I have. Still...I find it all very exhausting. Of course, it doesn't help matters that I'll be without a very good childcare option Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday next week if baby decides to make an appearance then.

[ladyleah]

Pampered....I totally hear you. I know that no one stays pregnant forever and it's my job to relax and surrender and CHILL until my guy decides to show up.

However, at 41w and 3d, it's getting tougher by the second. One moment I am calm, confident, and relaxed....and the next hour I am on the verge of tears and feeling anxious and impatient and READY FOR ACTION! lolol

I guess my worry is getting amped up because now I actually have a medical induction date (8pm on Friday at 42 weeks)....which I thought I would never, ever have-- even on paper. I may be able to push my MW's to give me a few days past 42 weeks...maybe to Sunday if my BPP on Wed. goes as well as it did last week, but I am not sure. Since I am not having a homebirth, and my MW's are CNM's and don't do homebirths (I love them, btw) there will be an end date no matter what, and it will have to involve Cervadil (and then perhaps Pitocin) if it's a "forced induction".

I guess I just never considered or accepted that I may have to resort to a medical intervention, but I need to accept that- and get over it-- because that is life, and I "can't always get what I want"

I've done all the natural stuff except for a membrane sweep and Caster Oil, but will discuss those with my MW's today.

The good news is that I have had many more BH contrx the last few days...and can bring them on with nipple stim....so that seems like a good sign.

Off to drink another gallon of water....ololol

Hang in there mommas.....we can't stay pregnant forever, I know!

[NYMama27]

I am in the same camp as you ladies. I am so afraid that I am just never going to give birth! I will be 42 weeks tomorrow and my midwife is sending me for my first BPP and she did schedule another appointment with me for Friday (I'm having a homebirth) at which point she'll try sweeping my membranes and castor oil. I never in my life imagined I would go past 42 weeks but I much prefer this to my first birth experience which was a medical induction at 41 weeks so I can't complain too much. I just wish I felt like my body was doing something!

[pampered_mom]

Originally Posted by NYMama27

I never in my life imagined I would go past 42 weeks but I much prefer this to my first birth experience which was a medical induction at 41 weeks so I can't complain too much. I just wish I felt like my body was doing something!

I can relate. My last was a homebirth (40+3), but my son was a c/s w/o any labor at 39+6. I guess that's also what's making me feel a bit anxious. I much prefer this to being pushed into a c/s before my due date...but at the same time I'm not sure how comfortable I am going past 42 weeks and I don't know as I really have any options at that point except to go in for a c/s which seems ridiculous given that I've already had a vaginal birth last time. DH is much more confident that I'll give birth before then...I wish I could share his optimism.

ladyleah - Chill out...lol. Totally easier said than done. I've been getting more BH type contractions lately (and earlier in the day than before) so I agree it has to be a good sign. Annoying, but a good sign.

[baby.fatty]

I'm at 41+5 and scheduled for induction tomorrow night. I had an NST at L&D yesterday where they kept me on the monitor for about 2 hours because there was a decel about 20 min in consistent with cord compression... they checked my fluid and let me go home, and I'm not too worried about the decel - I'm just worried about my induction.

I got yelled at for changing positions while on the monitor and now I'm thinking: great. I'm being forced to lie still and be a good patient and I'm not even in labor - I can't wait until this happens *during* labor and they use a similar decel as reason to have a c/s. No matter how they induce you at my hospital (Foley, cervidil, pit) you have to have continuous monitoring and an IV, which sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Everyone keeps telling me that I can stay and "have my baby today!" but I guess I'm living in a fantasy world in which I might actually go into labor on my own.

I feel broken and depressed and my mom has been here since Wednesday - she had to book a flight way in advance, and I don't want her at the birth - she is driving me insane and she genuinely seems irritated with me for not having had this baby yet. I haven't told her that I've been offered an induction before 42 weeks because I'm sure she would be *mad at me* for making her "sit here and stare at me" instead of staring at her first grandchild.

Thanks for listening to my rant... hope all of y'all are in a better space than me.

[ladyleah]

Baby-- that is certainly a tough one....having your mom around when she is giving off frustrated and bad vibes (when you already feel that enough on your own!) really blows. I am sorry that you are having that added stress during the already stressful time!

Also, that sucks about the NST- as far as the attitude of the staff. That would really push my buttons as well, and increase my anxiety about the induction. My hope for you would be that if you DID have to go back for that induction tomorrow night (and its certainly a possibility that things will roll on their own in the next 24 hours!!!) that you have a whole new set of staff that make you feel wonderful, warm, and comfortable to do what works for YOU.

<<<<Sending you all the positive vibes (that my lame ass can muster up right now...lolol)>>>>>

PS-Oh yeah- just returned from my MW appt. Still almost to 3cm, and 80% effaced...nothing new per say. Had membranes swept, and was so thankful that it wasn't really painful like I thought it would be. Also, have the go ahead to do some low dose caster oil tomorrow morning. So, we shall see I guess. I have to go for another BPP u/s on Wed.-- but that's ok. I will just be drinking an insane amount of fluid before then!!!

[ithappened]

can I join in?

I was due Dec 1-5th and no baby yet. I am going crazy with zero signs of labor

I guess I just never considered or accepted that I may have to resort to a medical intervention, but I need to accept that- and get over it-- because that is life, and I "can't always get what I want"

My induction is scheduled for Dec 16/17. I have tried everything to get this baby to come out (EPO, RRL, sex, exercise, nip stim etc) nothing is working. . !! I never thought Id be in this situation yet here I am. .

[NYMama27]

Well I am still here too. Other than sex though, I have not really tried anything. Everyone keeps telling me to try castor oil but I am really afraid. I have been dealing with morning sickness (only in the early morning though, thank god!) and I just can't imagine having to deal with nausea as a result of the CO and then labor on top of that. Maybe I am being too chicken. I am 42w 2d today with no impending signs of labor that (I still haven't even lost my mucous plug). I can't believe it!

[perditafoster]

nymama: huge s Post date babies are STRESSFUL!!!!!

Just out of curiousity, did any of you overdue mamas calculate your due date based on this http://www.childbirthrevolutions.com/duedate.php method? It's the Wood's method and it did change my due date by a week. So according to the Wood's date calculator, I was still overdue but not by the eleven days that the Medical due date told me. Not super reassuring, but I did feel a bit better. Although I still claim that this baby was 11 days over because it makes me feel better! Anyway, that 42 week cut off sure does loom ever closer, doesn't it? And fwiw, my mw did say that although my baby did not have the features of an 11 day post date baby, she most assuredly was at least a week overdue, which fits in with the Wood's method due date calculator.

Good luck and I hope you're all in crazy active labor land right this second!

[ithappened]

hmm that calculator puts me due a week later, which means I should be going into labor sometime this week.