Originally Posted by mommaof3boz
I'm wondering about things like dating, makeup, shaving, opposite sex friends in kids bedroom, etc.
We don't have rules for any of those things. My 13 year old started shaving this year. After she started school for the first time and changing for gym, she asked me about it so I told her the options and let her pick. No big deal.
Make up will be the same. I asked her on her last birthday is she wanted to go out and have a make up person give her a facial and help her learn to wear some simple make up. She looked at me like a had 3 heads and said that what she really wanted was lego.
Neither of my kids currently has opposite sex friends who come to our house, so it isn't a deal here. I'm not sure how we'll handle that when it is a boy/girl thang, but I suspect we'll be mellow. Most likely 'they can be in your room but the door needs to be open' or something like that.
I talk openly to my kids about sex and it's far more important to me that when they get to that stage of their lives they make choices from an emotional healthy place understanding the importance of protecting themselves than that they are a certain age.
I've made it clear to them that if they want to see a doctor for any reason including birthcontrol pills to just say so because I've got their insurance cards! I talk to them more about the emotional impact of making a relationship sexual.