I am trying to figure out which situation is best for my 20 month old DS if/when I go back to work. I would love your help, opinions, input 
Option A: Send my DS to stay with my cousin who has been like a sister to me. She has a 2 year old DD. She is sort of a free-range parent. She loves my son and he feels very comfortable with her. Her little girl is also fond of my DS. She doesn't share my holistic views however. Her DD can eat whatever she wants and she is fully vaccintating her child, not to mention, giving her baby motrin/tylenol "just in case" her teeth are bothering her. I am not judging her decision to vax, etc...just presenting the facts. She lives close to my home and work. I believe she wouldn't give my DS anything I didn't want her to, but because she isn't always paying attention, DS may be able to grab one of her daughter's snacks when she wasn't looking. Also, there is the chance that other family members would be around from time to time too like my aunt and other cousin and her DD who is the same age as my DS.
Option B: Send DS to stay with a woman who I met through the holistic moms group I am a member of. She has a 16 month old DS. She shares most/all my views about nutrition, parenting, and vaxing. She is a teacher who is staying home with her son. I am also a teacher. She lives close to my home and work. I don't know her as well as I know my cousin obviously, but we are getting to know each other better and better.
Is it better for DS to be with family? Or with someone who parents like me, but isn't family. Cost would be the same for both options. Would LOVE some persepective on this
Option A: Send my DS to stay with my cousin who has been like a sister to me. She has a 2 year old DD. She is sort of a free-range parent. She loves my son and he feels very comfortable with her. Her little girl is also fond of my DS. She doesn't share my holistic views however. Her DD can eat whatever she wants and she is fully vaccintating her child, not to mention, giving her baby motrin/tylenol "just in case" her teeth are bothering her. I am not judging her decision to vax, etc...just presenting the facts. She lives close to my home and work. I believe she wouldn't give my DS anything I didn't want her to, but because she isn't always paying attention, DS may be able to grab one of her daughter's snacks when she wasn't looking. Also, there is the chance that other family members would be around from time to time too like my aunt and other cousin and her DD who is the same age as my DS.
Option B: Send DS to stay with a woman who I met through the holistic moms group I am a member of. She has a 16 month old DS. She shares most/all my views about nutrition, parenting, and vaxing. She is a teacher who is staying home with her son. I am also a teacher. She lives close to my home and work. I don't know her as well as I know my cousin obviously, but we are getting to know each other better and better.
Is it better for DS to be with family? Or with someone who parents like me, but isn't family. Cost would be the same for both options. Would LOVE some persepective on this
