After stressing for a year about my daughters self image issues (just posted on another thread about this), my son hit with me a wammy the other night when he started to cry b/c he wants "shiny hair"- My children are bi-racial black/European, and are absolutely beautiful (I know- I'm biased ). My son is 8, and is a very smart, sensitive boy. We transferred the children to a private school last year because we live in a pretty rough area. We thought the transition was going well, but I noticed that my son has started talking and acting differently. Not bad or anything, just not like himself. I asked him the other night why he is acting differently, and he burst out crying! He said that he wanted shiny hair, and that he didn't want to be the only brown boy in his class (there are a few other black or bi-racial kids in his school, but not many at all. He is the only non-white child in his class of 30). I understand that he doesn't really want just "shiny hair", I think its his way of processing not being white. We're very close, and he's close to my brother, etc., so I know he couldn't say that he didn't want to be black...and he knows that his father is white so he didn't want to hurt him either. He's just all mixed up and it breaks my heart! Does anyone have any advice?
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12/2/09 at 11:13am