Although ds isn't an obvious fit for being on the spectrum, he is coming off as more "wierd" as he gets older (he's 6 now). We invited all of the families that participate in his homelearning class to a potluck/playdate and no one came. His only friends are 3 kids who are neighbours and who have known him since birth -- two are older (8) and know how to manage him, and they've all been coached by their parents in how to deal with him. He is often actively hostile to other children, and rarely demonstrates an ability to play with children -- even ones who he's known for a long time. He only "gloms" onto older children who wouldn't be interested in him. I also wonder about his tantrums and aggression. Our lives revolve around avoiding triggers for these, but there still are issues and it's really restrictive for our family life.
Getting a spectrum diagnosis would be huge benefit to us...our only hope of getting enough funding to do OT. We're in Canada.
It's hard when they want to play with other kids and it doesn't go well.
The AP playgroup we're part of has a strangely large number of SPD kids. Today we held a sensory playdate and it went well. It's good to have families around who understand what it is we're dealing with.