|I credit my 3rd degree tear to pushing very hard before I was ready.|
|Originally posted by blueviolet
Here are the questions I have been asking:
How long did you push?
**ds#1~ 10 minutes
**ds#2~ 17 minutes
How did you know when to start pushing?
**ds#1~ I just "knew"
**ds#2~ I had to be told due to epidural
Why did you start pushing when you did?
**With my 1st, I just knew it was time.. w/ my 2nd, I was told to 'get pushing" and by then I was thrilled to be at the pushing stage!
Was the pushing voluntary or involuntary? (If both, please elaborate)
*voluntary both times
[B]Did the urge to push, the pushing sensations, and your response to them change over time? If so, how?
*not really sure on that one
Was your approach to the pushing phase influenced by preconceptions about how and when it should be done, and if so, how?
*not really, I just knew w/ ds#1 I needed to push. I didn't have many preconceptions.
What is your "philosophy" of pushing?
What position were you in when you were pushing/giving birth? Was this position instinctively chosen or did you make a choice that was influenced by preconceptions about what position would be best?
*ds#1~ in a birthing tub, hanging over the tub edge a bit/ semi hands & knees position
*ds#2~ on a bed w/ knees pulled up towards chest
Was your 2nd stage managed/measured/guided in any way (by you or others) or would you characterize it as instinctive? Did you feel hindered/inhibited in any way? Were there complications or variations of normal that are sometimes regarded as complications?
***not w/ my first son... but w/ ds#2 I was in a lot of extreme pain & a long hard labor which led me to beg for an epidural... he ended up weighing over 11 lbs at birth! no other interventions though, and once I began pushing he came out pretty quick... he did get stuch for a moment in the birth canal & my midwife had to reach in and manuever him out...
Please add any other relevant comments. Also feel free to email me your answers if you'd rather.