so since I seem to have a little birdie telling my mom things I post on FB, I will ask/vent here.
I have been searching for a month, ok more than that, for a place to move to. I am in an apartment now, which it's nice but they are raising my rent through the roof and I CAN NOT STAND MY DAMN NEIGHBORS ANY LONGER.
I found a house, applied and didn't get it. I have horrible credit, but I have good rental history and a good solid job..but with a single income and renting they want you to make 3-4x the rent...I can't be on the lease alone where I live because I don't make $3000 a month! Close though, 200 short.
Anyways, my uber controlling/dominating/verbal abuse mom and stepdad have been so graciously have been helping me in my search. While I understand they have been trying to help me more since I am pregnant, like with meeting rent because I have missed work due to holiday and or illnesses, some of the things they say/do rub me wrong. I would love to be able to just cut them out, but I can't..I think it goes back to being a child and really yearning for that love/attention from someone who is supposed to be there for you.
Anyways, they found a duplex/townhouse style place but it's a house..they are connected but have 10in between them. First they told me it didn't accept cats, sorry you stole my daughters dog this summer and I luckily replaced it, but I am NOT taking her cat away...so they talked to the owner and with a high non refundable deposit they will allow my cat..They would cosign and pay deposits and January rent because I have to pay for 20 days at my apartment and move. I am running out of time...the downside -it's $1095 ALONE, then throw in electric-w/s/g-gas and boom..it's pretty high on my single mom income with 2 kids. So my parents had agreed to pay $250, making my rent 850..and I pay everything else.
I went and looked, it's super nice and would be perfect for us..next downside, my parents are fricken 3 blocks away. Then I mention something about having a kiddie pool out back and my mom says "I don't think the owner wants his grass trashed"..I mention our turtle sandbox and I get "I don't think the owner will allow that, he doesn't want a kitty litter bin out back" IT IS A SANDBOX WITH A LID CONTAINED. I mention hanging up some pictures and where they would look nice and I get "I don't think he wants holes all over the walls, you need to ask first"...BAH. Then she said something like "don't think you're going to come in here and white trash the place out"..yes because I am so white trash
If they get mad at me, which they do, all it would take is one month to sink me financially. It's so hard because I am running out of options, I need a cosigner..I am having bad luck finding anything. I also don't want to be on a leash...like because they are helping I have to do what they want or else...i feel trapped. I'd stay where I was, but my rent is going from 1060(give or take depending on w/s/g) to 1238 a MONTH..not including electric/cable or anything else.
My gut is torn..it says you need this, but then it says BEWARE. I asked her today straight out, so for you helping me what kind of rules are there..she said you have never had rules, we don't control you blah blah blah because who wants to admit they are controlling and abusive. I think they are doing it with hopes they get campbell or see more of her..my mom had the nerve to say in front of everyone "so jennings gets to come stay weekends with us after he is born right?" NO...maybe when he is 3, but even then NO..HELL NO? It's stressing me out really bad, making me have contractions and panic attacks...I don't know what to do and no...no one else to help me.