I didn't know I would feel this way. :(

[Marsupialmom]

About two years ago one of my daughter's mom was diagnose with cancer. She was 30 at the time. Today, after two long years of battling, she past away.

We have spent time preparing our girls. But we did not prepare ourselves. My husband and I knew she was deing.

We were not her friends really. Friendly with her. Other than our girls friendship we did not have much in common. So there was no huge bond. But I am crying.

I am crying now becuase a little girl with have to grow up without her mom. She is 9. She had a good family. She has her grandparents. Two grandmas and a great grandma that all lover her.

I was so prepared for my kids but not me. I don't know how to grieve and not scare my girls. They are sad enough for their friend. I don't want them to be sad for me.

[Hedgehog Mtn]

(((Hugs mama)))

I think it's important for our children to understand grief as a natural process. How many of us grown ups are unable to handle grief because we've never seen it?

Talk with your children in age appropriate ways - when they see you are grieving too it will help them understand that what they feel is okay and natural

[NullSet]

Such a horrible thing to know a little girl has just lost her Mom. It makes me sad.

It's okay for them to see you cry. Maybe they even need to see you do it so they can know you are hurting with them. You might have prepared them but they will learn more through your example then from anything you have told them.

[meemee]

Originally Posted by Marsupialmom

I was so prepared for my kids but not me. I don't know how to grieve and not scare my girls. They are sad enough for their friend. I don't want them to be sad for me.

you will never scare your girls. instead you will empower them.

isnt being sad a sense of sharing.

give them an opportunity to contribute to your lives. your kids so want to help you dont they?!!! allow them. give them a chance.

sharing my grief with my dd has brougth us closer together. it has also allowed her to be more open and express hers too.

the sweetest thing in the world is to be held and rocked by your little 6 year old and told its going to be ok. or we have sat and cried together. it is the sweetest thing in the world and sad as it is - i am happy for this opportunity of sharing with your girls. :-)

i suspect expressing my grief has helped dd with her grief too.