I'm expecting my second child come June's end. My ds will be closing in on 9yo at this time. His excitement and sense of responsibility is wonderful and fascinating, and there has never been a doubt in either my or his step-father's mind that he would be present at the birth.
My mother, who was present at my ds' hospital birth, will be hands on as his primary care giver during our upcoming home birth. Additionally, I plan to arrange an open door policy with nearby local family, so that my mama and ds can come and go as they please/need to. The possibility that it may all be "too much" for my boy is (remotely) there, and he may organically wish to spend the majority of his time doing grandma stuff or over with his cousins.
Up until now, I've been all easy-peasy-roll-with-the-punches; however, as my husband and I, by watching laboring videos, have begun to prepare for our HB, a sense of modesty has taken over me. The pushing phase, vjayjays wide-open, the whole nine yards is really hitting home, and I find myself beginning to question whether this is "too much" for a soon-to-be young man (which probably more accurately equates to: "too much" for me). Knowing my too curious, slightly morbid, ever fascinated by all things life/death ds, I can foresee him being glued to my side the entire time.
If I were you, I'd tell me to watch birthing videos with him, encourage communication and facilitate a safe space for question asking, which of course I intend to do. I'm wondering, though, have any of you invited, and had attend, your much-much older children.
Thanks!
My mother, who was present at my ds' hospital birth, will be hands on as his primary care giver during our upcoming home birth. Additionally, I plan to arrange an open door policy with nearby local family, so that my mama and ds can come and go as they please/need to. The possibility that it may all be "too much" for my boy is (remotely) there, and he may organically wish to spend the majority of his time doing grandma stuff or over with his cousins.
Up until now, I've been all easy-peasy-roll-with-the-punches; however, as my husband and I, by watching laboring videos, have begun to prepare for our HB, a sense of modesty has taken over me. The pushing phase, vjayjays wide-open, the whole nine yards is really hitting home, and I find myself beginning to question whether this is "too much" for a soon-to-be young man (which probably more accurately equates to: "too much" for me). Knowing my too curious, slightly morbid, ever fascinated by all things life/death ds, I can foresee him being glued to my side the entire time.
If I were you, I'd tell me to watch birthing videos with him, encourage communication and facilitate a safe space for question asking, which of course I intend to do. I'm wondering, though, have any of you invited, and had attend, your much-much older children.
Thanks!
