Toddler sore penis - intact, not a circ question

[Calm]

I'm asking this here because I was told this was the best place to ask a penis question. I will copy and paste to health if that would be better? I'm not interested in circumcision, no way in hell would I traumatise and abuse my child.

My 20 mo old son is intact and everything has been fine. Last night he suddenly screamed out holding his diaper like his penis was sore and then started screaming for about 15 minutes,. Singing calmed him down. I immediately thought urinary infection, and washed him in the shower and put colloidal silver spray on his penis and a drop of oregano oil in his diaper overnight (not where it would touch his pee pee).

This morning, all seemed well, we had our morning nurse and then he suddenly grabbed at his diaper again and started crying saying "yes" when I asked "sore pee pee?". I took off his diaper and there was almost no wee in it, it's never been that dry before, it's usually so full it's leaking. Figuring we're surely dealing with an infection, he happily chomped down a strong cranberry capsule and a couple of bladder helper pills (I'm a naturopath, have pretty much everything on hand here).

However, within ten minutes he did a full pee on the floor (no diaper), and didn't seem at all upset. But he seemed more upset at it being touched. I didn't think of putting a pee stick into it to check his urine until I only had a bit on the floor after cleaning it, so I'm not sure how accurate that reading could be. now, ten mins after the wee, he seems great. ideas?

I'm going to go to a doc and get a urine collector so I can check his wee for infection etc. They give them to me for free.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

It could be seperation have you read this sticky http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=764732

[Fyrestorm]

He could be experiencing some separation. You might want to take a look through the stickies for this forum. There are a few helpful sore penis threads there.

Hope he's felling better soon

[tutucrazy]

This is a normal separation symptom, NOT a UTI. This comes and goes as the foreskin separates from the glans. Once the glans smooth over there will be no more sting. I have a thread about it here:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...ting+urination

[Calm]

Well, after all that reading don't I feel like an idiot. Thank you for the info. It is almost certainly separation.

My husband thought it was a bit of sand that had worked its way under the foreskin because he was covered in sandy dirt the day it happened. Is this possible? If something tiny is able to get in there, will it work its way back out? If it is starting to separate, the bonding wouldn't be as tight, possibly allowing something like this to happen?

I don't think that's what it is at the moment, I think it is separation but it will ease my mind for future if I don't have to worry about dirt getting in there because I am hesitant at diaper free time now. I shouldn't worry because nature wouldn't have made such a mistake, but I'm checking with you experts anyway.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Odds of something getting in there after seperation is pretty low but not impossible especially if you ds is like mine and sticks his finger in there like it is a Chinese finger puzzle

If it does happen yes it will work its way out nice baths with lots of soak time can help a lot.

[tutucrazy]

Though there has been a separation the opening is still a sphincter and only relaxes to urinate. At most other times the opening remains pretty tight. I would not be overly concerned that anything will get inside at this point. As MCat said, even if it were to happen it would work itself out. Every time your DS urinates the sterile urine will pass through and wash out any potential debris or dead skin cells. My son is 22 mo now and has tons of naked time since we EC and we are diaper-free. I've never had an issue with this.

Don't feel like an idiot, this is why we are here!