hitting/yelling at friends

[MommaShark]

Hi - my almost 4 year old (1 more week to go) will resort to yelling (more mean sounding than loud) and a swift kick or hit when a friend of his is arguing with him (last time about a giraffe - mine said it was a mean giraffe and the other said it was a nice giraffe - they were playing with animals and my son has picked up on the bad guy vs/good guy theme despite no tv). My son got mad and kicked the boy who was telling him the giraffe couldn't be bad.

That's just an example and only happens with certain kids and at our house - not at other people's houses or at school.

Any GD suggestions besides don't let him play with X kid at our house (who is invited to the BD party next Sat.)

Thanks,
me

[Moonchild77]

Well.... he sounds like the son of a friend of mine and he does like him, to my ds1... :-(
And I also do not know what to do....

I told that boy not to hurt my son, when he hit him AGAIN, but he cried then ...

I do think that boy (of my friend) is "troubled", I mean, he is weaned at 2.5 y/3 I think, mother-intented, he is now almost 4 and STILL wants to nurse and is told no. He sees me nurse my ds1 and ds2 (ds1 is 4 mo younger than he is) and he asks, why ds1 did not got a weaning party yet so I do thnk there are issues here....

I like my friend and want to keep seeing her, but I really - sorry! - do NOT like her son, eventhough there are things that are bothering him ...

I just do not want my son to get hit, pulled, pushed, screamed at, awfull things being told (REALLY bad things, that boy does watches a LOT tv and it shows....)

Sorry, no answers, ideas, just empathy, I hope you will find your way.

Did you ask him, if he likes boy X?

[MommaShark]

The problem is that it's impulsive....
He likes the kid most of the time....
He apologizes right away - I remove the offending toy if needed and we talk about feelings and how it's okay to do things differently or call something the "wrong" word......or different.....