Moms of 4+ kids

[mami_guera]

Hey guys, is there anyother mamas out there that have 4 or more kids? I am just wondering if any of you still want more kids. I do and people think I have lost my mind. Am I alone?

[Mama~Love]

I have 6, and want as many as I can have. I'm jealous of the mamas with 10+ kids; I doubt I'd get that many .

[mami_guera]

Do people think u are crazy? I feel so judged anytime I go anywhere. When I went to get my dd eyes checked they told me I had to wait in the waiting room because I had too many kids!

[Mama~Love]

Yeah, I get a few comments every now & then, usually from strangers when we're filling out forms for something. We probably have one of the largest families in the area that I know about. Seems everyone knows who we are.

I've never been told anything like that, because they know I'd raise a stink about it! No one messes with me or my kids .

I actually LOVE going places with everyone in tow. I LOVE the double takes and looks (the nice ones anyway) we get.

[Plaid Leopard]

I have 4 and would love to have one or two more, but I don't think it will happen.

We used to live in Germany where most families have only one or two children, and we would get a lot of comments that weren't always kind.

Then we lived in Italy for 3 months and young and old people alike would stop us in the street to congratulate us on our "big" family, and say how lovely it was to see lots of children (the birth rate is very low in Italy these days).

Now we are in the UK and I see quite a few families with 3+ kids, so we don't stick out so much.

[mami_guera]

Originally Posted by Plaid Leopard

I have 4 and would love to have one or two more, but I don't think it will happen.

We used to live in Germany where most families have only one or two children, and we would get a lot of comments that weren't always kind.

Then we lived in Italy for 3 months and young and old people alike would stop us in the street to congratulate us on our "big" family, and say how lovely it was to see lots of children (the birth rate is very low in Italy these days).

Now we are in the UK and I see quite a few families with 3+ kids, so we don't stick out so much.

Wow...you have lived a traveled life. I am jealous. I love to travel and Italy is my next destination. I also would like 2 more although I think my husband might say one more is quite enough!! hahha....

[Drummer's Wife]

We have four - and want 1-2 more... but we have been trying for over a year and are not sure if it will happen or not. I think eventually we will foster and/or adopt b/c I simply can't imagine not having any more babies.

and yes, people think we are crazy - but we are!

[AngelBee]

We have 5 biological and one "adopted" (not legally). We leave it up to God so whether or not we birth/adopt more will be on Him

I love raising children. I love thinking about the impact they will have on the world some day. I love watching them grow and find themselves. :

And yes....everyone thinks I am a freak!

[stacie0501]

I'm currently pregnant with my 5th child (37.4 weeks!) and still working as a server. A lot of customers assume this is my first or 2nd child...when I tell them it's my 5th, they are a bit shocked and some assume that this pregnancy was NOT planned, especially since my youngest is 12 yrs old (my sons are 18,16, 13 and 12yrs) and I'm just shy of turning 40. They think I"m crazy! I make sure they know, YES this pregnancy was planned and NO i'm not having my tubes tied after this one (yes,, people have asked...HOW RUDE) I'm hoping to have atleast one more.

When my sons were little (babies and toddlers) I would occasionally get rude comments from strangers about how many children I have and how close together they are. The most common: "don't you know how babies are made and how to prevent it?" A incident that really stands out in my memory to this day was when I had taken my brood shopping, my youngest was 7mo and the oldest was six yrs, a older woman walking behind me with a friend said loud enough for me to hear..."wow, she's really popping them out, pop one out and have another, like some farm animal"

I don't know iwhy f you have more than 3 children people feel it's their right to make rude and inappropiate comments? I love children, I can afford them, and I'm a good mother,so why do people care???

[almadianna]

moved to parenting.

[gaudynight]

We have four and number five is due - all going well - in August 2010. I'd love at least one more after this baby.

People definitely think we're freaks. When I was pregnant with DD3 people started asking if she would be our last. With DD4 they didn't ask if she was the last... they assumed she was. I'm kind of looking forward to messing with some heads when they find out about this babe!

I love taking my four little ladies out together (at least, when they're behaving I do...). We mostly get "oh, so cute!" with a side of "are they all yours?". I've only heard "don't you know what causes that?" a few times, and mostly jokingly from friends.

I expect other people's attitudes to get increasingly cynical/negative as our family grows.

[wendybird]

We have 7, plus my nephew, and I would be thrilled to have more. People definately think we are strange, but that could be said of us about more than just our large family lol.

[rajahkat]

We're expecting #5 in February. We've honestly never gotten any direct rude comments about the size of our family. We started telling our families as soon as number one was born that we planned on six, so there wouldn't be room for surprise/negative reaction on their part. As for strangers, sure, maybe folks think we're different or crazy or whatever. But I think it's refreshing to be a bit different than average. A bigger family works for us.

Kat

[~Demeter~]

I'm also expecting #5 in August '10. I've got lots of crazy comments. I have 3 boys and then a girl. Once my daughter was born, I was asked (quite often) if we were done now that we got our girl... I've always said, whatever happens, happens. Well... it happened again, lol!

[momo7]

I have 9.

I will more than likely have more if my fertility keeps up the way its been going. Sometimes it's hard, people can be so cruel when they think they are being clever. There are other times when I think that comments that come from family members can be the worst but I know that Dh and I are doing what is right for us.

It's nice that we live in a community where 7+ children is the norm, so I have a great support network. Dh's mother lives very near, even though she doesn't share the same faith, she still supports us 100% so we get tons of help from her.

The financial aspect of it isn't awful, sure we'd have a lot more money if we didn't have any children at all but the money part isn't hard, we do fine. Is it a sacrifice? Definitely yes, but it's the good kind that keeps you real and grounded. It teaches you to be unbelievably unselfish. There is definitely no room for the "me" aspect of child rearing. Also the children really understand what it means to share, what kindness to others is really like because it has to be practiced in this house 24-7.

What would I change? Hmmmm...I probably would have finished getting my degree if i'd known how hard it was going to be to go back. It isn't happening any time soon. I will tell you I am never jealous of any one who has LESS children. I AM tired of driving around in a 15 passenger van. I'd kill or die for a little red convertible. I'd love to fit in a size 7 jeans again or to sneeze without peeing on myself.

Other than that.....I feel like I am exactly where I need to be, I AM doing what I want to do and I love doing it.

[baltic_ballet]

I have 7 with twins on the way

You should all join us on the monthly Mom's of Many thread: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1168104

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[Hedgehog Mtn]

I'm due with #5 on the 12th. I don't feel "done" yet at all :-)

We'd like to move to Alaska so I'm sort of hoping we can do that soon....it's easier on me if we move in between babies but I'll be okay if it doesn't work that way.

[WC_hapamama]

I currently have 4, with one more to deliver any time now. We're done... DH had a vasectomy about 3 weeks ago.

[flapjack]

I'm due now with #5 and people are distressing. I have absolutely no idea what gives someone the right to sit down on a bus whilst a very heavily pregnant woman stands, and THEN tell her that she's got her hands full, but I've heard that 29 times since 8am Monday.

[TheGirls]

I'm a mom of a singleton right now, but trying for #2 and hoping for 4-5. I really enjoy seeing bigger families, especially the really big ones (ie the 8+ crowd), but I think 4 or 5 will be the right number for our family. I'm reserving the right to change my mind.

So if I'm the one you catch doing a double-take, just know that it's a happy and congratulatory one! (And maybe a touch jealous, lol.)