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post #21 of 42
This year?

DS and DD

That's it. DH had a kidney transplant in July, he was off work for 8 weeks, he took a 20% pay cut due to hours cuts at work, we're dead broke. We're dang lucky to put anything under the tree for DS and DD (it's very very very limited thats for sure).

DH and I aren't even exchanging gifts, it's more important for us to get stuff for the kids.

In a typical (AKA not sitting around the poverty level according to his YTD gross pay) year:

my mom
my step-dad
my dad
my step-mom
my grandmas
2 children we draw in my family
DH's mom
DH's dad
Dh's gpa
DH's gma
2 adults we draw in DH's family
post #22 of 42
I give gifts to my DH and DS, my siblings and their children, and my parents.

My DH gives gifts to me and DS, his parents, and sister.
post #23 of 42
We exchange gifts with:

our children ~ 2
each other ~ 2 (unless we're short on money that year)
our parents ~ 4
our grandparents ~ 5
some of our nieces/nephews ~ 3 (others we have agreed not to exchange with)
some of our siblings/their spouses 4 (others we have agreed not to exchange with)

I try to buy gifts throughout the year to spread the cost.

ETA~ My boys are getting Papo knights this year. Have you seen these things?! Marc and keep taking them out of the box to play with them.
post #24 of 42
We buy for:

Ds1 & 2
each other
fil and his wife (family pics)
mil and her husband (family pics)
my mom and dad (family pics)
dh's young cousin (gift card)
4 nieces (gift card)
2 nephews (gift card)

If we don't have the money we'll leave out our parents, they are happy to see us and don't really want gifts from us.
post #25 of 42
Sometimes I get little gifts for my coworkers- like a candy or something small.
I ALWAYS give to the mail carrier and our kids' bus drivers (well ever since they had a bus driver). Usually a fish or a box of cookies. I usually give something small to each of their teachers- a notepad set for example. Last year we gave scarf and hat sets.

I get something for my dad and his wife, my mom and her boyfriend and my best friend.

I send a gift to my sister and her family- a group gift usually.

I send something to one of my dp's sisters and his mom SOMETIMES I will give gifts to dp's brothers but only if I know they are planning a get together over the holidays or something.. there have been years I bought things for them and then never saw them (their fault, not mine though).

My 4 kids. Dp. The FIN we sponsor (sometimes this is little things for several different families, sometimes it is bigger things for one family but we look forward to it every year).
post #26 of 42
I bought for:

my Mom and Dad in Germany
my sister and BIL in Germany
dh's two daughters
dd's teacher
about 6-7 friends (who are our "family" here in the US)
two of my clients (who are also like family)
the mail lady

Apart from dd and my two stepdds, all gifts are very small, but hopefully fun or somehow meaningful.
post #27 of 42
Kids, DH, in-laws, 'rents, and my grandma

That's it. My sister and I don't even exchange gifts.

We did make brownie bites for the co-op teachers and will be making oreo truffles for the Sunday School teachers and neighbors.
post #28 of 42
I give to dh, my boys and my mom. With Dh's family we each pick a number that corresponds to a name this year I have MIL and he has FIL (he also has two brothers and one of the brother's gf) and BIL's gf's dd. I also give to a couple friends.

Almost forgot, we have the boys give small gifts to family members and to each other.
post #29 of 42
Both DH's and my family do a gifting round robin. (We used to draw names but this has simplified things.) This year we're 'buying' for my older brother and for DH's older brother and his family. Next year we'll 'buy' for my next older brother and his family and DH's older sister and her family. There are six living siblings in each of our families and there's no way we could afford to give meaningful gifts to everyone each year. We also have about a $30-$40 limit per family gift so it's nothing too extravagant.

Other than our family round robin, I'll be giving gifts to DH, and my 3 children. Sometimes we give our parents gifts and sometimes not. My mom is trying to get rid of things not accumulate things so unless I see the perfect gift, it's better just to call. We'll often simply give our parents a family portrait.

Sometimes I'll get a little gift for kids that I babysit if I'm also good friends with their parents. It's nothing big and certainly not expected but sometimes I just feel like it. I like to give gifts because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. I also don't want anyone to feel pressured to give me (my kids) a gift.
post #30 of 42
Dh, ds, and dd, MIL, SIL and BIL (actually dh buys for them), my nephew and niece.
We draw names with my mother and siblings and adult nephews and nieces and their spouses (it's about 15 people), so there is one more family member. Until last year, we exchanged individual gifts with them all, but that was overwhelming.

In addition, we give small gifts to teachers and one family who are close friends.

Now that my list has been slashed from over 20 to about a half-dozen, I'm almost at loose ends. I keep thinking I have huge amounts of shopping to do, but really, it's very little.
post #31 of 42
We've opted out of exchanging gifts with extended relatives. It's just too much.

We buy gifts for:
*our kids
*our niece
*my parents
*DH's dad
post #32 of 42
Honestly my main concern this year was DS.
After that I sent some re-gifted items to my sister/bil, mother and dad (they feel entitled and I didnt want an arugment.)
I am also giving my daycare provider cash equal to one weeks rate ($50) and cross-stitched kitchen towels , a cute ginger bread pattern.

I have all the shopping done, I need to get wrapping on DS presents soon. I hate wrapping.
post #33 of 42
DP (maybe one thing), DD (a few things), and my 11 y/o niece (one or two things).

That's usually it, though it depends on the year. Sometimes we've bought for friends or more family members if we were all doing something together.
post #34 of 42
I buy for my son. I give ds a little money to buy supplies to make something for his father.

Occasionally, I buy something small for my mom if she is visiting but it has to be light enough to fit into her suitcase.
post #35 of 42
Thread Starter 
Originally Posted by RockStarMom View Post
We go out of town for Christmas and stay with friends so those friends are the only ones I buy for that I don't feel obligated to do so.
I don't do presents with my friends and family anymore--thank goodness!
I nanny/babysit for a bunch of families so it is all of them who I feel obligated to buy for.
Last year, I was doing a lot of home daycare and for our Christmas party, I gave all the kids cool slippers that stayed here, pictures of something fun they had done with me to take home and some baked goods. Easy and inexpensive. Oh, and I made them cds of mixed kids music and their parents videos of the Christmas pageant we put on and a slideshow of pictures of them throughout the year. The slideshows took a lot of time and effort and I was still pretty miffed that none of them got me and/or my kids even a card or anything Sort of added to my feelings of being unappreciated as a caregiver!

This year, I am only giving each child a decorated gingerbread and a photo to take home after our annual Christmas pageant.
post #36 of 42
We have big families and don't draw names.

I bought for 39 people this year:
My 2 kids
My mom and stepfather
my 5 siblings and 3 significant others - sometimes we do couple gifts other times individual gifts
Kids under 18 in my extended family 11 this year (some are my first cousins and some are kids of my first cousins)
DH's 3 siblings and their partners
Our neices and nephews 7 this year

I also print 4x6 pictures to hand out to adults in my extended family, and sometimes some of DH's extended family. We do small crafts or picture gifts from DD1 for some people too. We often do a book exchange with play groups. And I send out about 100 Christmas cards.

Honestly, I really like doing all of the gifts. I have no real interest in going to name draws. None of these gifts feel like obligations to me. A few years back my extended family went down to gifts for just the kids and photos for the adults. I do get frustrated that in DHs family they do more expensive/bigger/more gifts for the adults than the kids, which always feels backwards to me.
post #37 of 42
exh from kids
rats(little treats for all the animals,including dad's )
dd's godparents
my cousin's son
my best friend and her dd
my step nephew
ds's home based therautic services worker

I think that's it.Most gifts are in the $10 range,except my best friend's dd(she has no grandparents and very little relatives,my parents call her their granddaughter and I call her my niece, so she is spoiled by all of us) and of course my parents and ds and dd.
post #38 of 42
One good friend (I wasn't planning on this, but when dd saw me making felted beer cozies for my dad and BIL, she decided that this friend of ours would really like one too. She insisted I make one for him!)
DD's preschool teacher (DD and I made her a candle in a decorated jar. It turned out really cute. )

I'll do a gift exchange (Yankee swap) at work. We send wreaths out to our grandparents, parents, siblings, one aunt, and a few friends. I'll probably get or make little things for our closest friends' kids and make some sweet treat for our friends.

My parents and sister still live where I grew up, along with almost all of my extended family. The adults draw names for gifts for each other. I stopped participating when I stopped traveling home for Christmas.
post #39 of 42
Let's see:

DD (11)- just one big gift
DP- again with the one big gift

My mom
2 nieces, 2 nephews
SIL and BIL- one family gift (although I did get presents for the kiddos too!)

I think that's it. DP buys me a gift too of course. I think the total for everyone was around $950- yikes! $600 was for DD and DP though. My siblings and I don't exchange gifts anymore, which makes it easier.
post #40 of 42
our kids
5 nieces and nephews
2 SILs and their partners
dh's aunt who hosts the annual family party
dh's 3 cousins and their kids
my parents
my sister
my grandmothers
8 assorted cousins, aunt, uncle
godparents of our children
our godchildren and their siblings and parents
a few friends
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