why you do or don't do time-outs... - Page 2

[phathui5]

We use time-out when the children hurt people. I am completely comfortable with using time-out. I do it for two reasons:
1) to communicate to the hitter- "If you're going to hurt people, you're not welcome to be around them"
2) to show the hittee that I will protect them from a child who is hurting them, whether it's my kid or a kid that I'm watching

[lotusdebi]

We do time-outs.

My older son gets overstimulated and loses control of himself pretty frequently. He needs time-outs in order to calm down. He needs to be in his own quiet space with as little outside stimuli as possible. He sometimes catches himself and does it himself. Other times, DH and I have to give him a time-out so that he can calm down. The alternative is him becoming increasingly out of control, sensory-seeking, and violent.

My younger son has only had time-outs when he has become violent and won't calm by being held or talked to. Sometimes he just needs some time to himself to calm down, and sometimes I need him away from me so that I don't lose my temper due to him biting, hitting, and scratching me. He's going through a bit of a difficult stage right now.