I was a nanny and around a lot of children so I knew it could be very difficult and that kids do not act how you want no matter how hard you work on discipline and I knew it would be hard to not be able to give them back at the end of the day and it is hard to pursue your interests and get alone time.
What is the most shocking is the sleep thing. I thought babies slept pretty good after 3 months. By the time I was pregnant I knew not all babies do especially breastfed ones I thought mine wouldn't be too bad since I was a good sleeper as a baby. Wrong. The first 3 months aren't too bad the sleep deprevation hits later for me and it hits like a ton of bricks. My dd slept great her first 3 months of life and she started to wake more at 4 months. My son always slept bad but post partum all the extra hormones must of been a boost or something because it hit later.
I used to think having to get up early for work and school was bad but you don't know sleep deprivation until you have kids or you are pregant with kids. I been tired before but never this bad or chronic that it can seriously affect your energy levels, mood and mental ability. I never felt so dumb before. I see people on facebook complaining about working two jobs and getting up early and how they need coffee and how it is like having kids and I think if they only knew. I did two jobs with lots of hours and school full time and had to be up really early but it is nothing compared to being up all night with a baby or toddler. I thought it would be similar but it not even close. Maybe they will be lucky and they never will know.
A good thing is I never knew how important things I didn't even give much thought to or think about would become so much more important like baby wearing and breastfeeding and decisions on how to give birth and what to do about medical care. It different with your own kids. The hard parts are there but the depth of love is so much stronger too and it changes you and how you see the world.
Another thing that was better than expected for me was pregnancy. People I know and the media made it seem like something you suffer through to get a baby and that it stinks. My pregnancy with my dd was so easy and I had so much energy. It was a very special time in my life. I truelly loved being pregnant. My pregnancy with my son was harder with tiredness and nausau but I still loved being pregnant and it wasn't something I didn't enjoy. I will miss it after my last child is born and even when I was sick I try not to complain to much because I'm greatful.
What is the most shocking is the sleep thing. I thought babies slept pretty good after 3 months. By the time I was pregnant I knew not all babies do especially breastfed ones I thought mine wouldn't be too bad since I was a good sleeper as a baby. Wrong. The first 3 months aren't too bad the sleep deprevation hits later for me and it hits like a ton of bricks. My dd slept great her first 3 months of life and she started to wake more at 4 months. My son always slept bad but post partum all the extra hormones must of been a boost or something because it hit later.
I used to think having to get up early for work and school was bad but you don't know sleep deprivation until you have kids or you are pregant with kids. I been tired before but never this bad or chronic that it can seriously affect your energy levels, mood and mental ability. I never felt so dumb before. I see people on facebook complaining about working two jobs and getting up early and how they need coffee and how it is like having kids and I think if they only knew. I did two jobs with lots of hours and school full time and had to be up really early but it is nothing compared to being up all night with a baby or toddler. I thought it would be similar but it not even close. Maybe they will be lucky and they never will know.
A good thing is I never knew how important things I didn't even give much thought to or think about would become so much more important like baby wearing and breastfeeding and decisions on how to give birth and what to do about medical care. It different with your own kids. The hard parts are there but the depth of love is so much stronger too and it changes you and how you see the world.
Another thing that was better than expected for me was pregnancy. People I know and the media made it seem like something you suffer through to get a baby and that it stinks. My pregnancy with my dd was so easy and I had so much energy. It was a very special time in my life. I truelly loved being pregnant. My pregnancy with my son was harder with tiredness and nausau but I still loved being pregnant and it wasn't something I didn't enjoy. I will miss it after my last child is born and even when I was sick I try not to complain to much because I'm greatful.
) and that was about it that I was really stuck on. I didn't want to give her junk food (I really don't, though) but she has sometimes has more bread and cheese and less veggies just because we didn't have a chance to go to the store or we're traveling and didn't have anything else available at the time.
Sometimes the baby has other ideas and you have to eat your words. This is not a bad thing though. You become humble, and flexible!
