safe bedsharing w/ 2 adults and infant?

[red and lulu]

Me and my dd's dad don't live together-- we haven't since way before she was born-- so dd has only ever slept in bed with me. I usually switch sides throughout the night b/c she creeps and so I can comfortably nurse her from each side. But, next month me, dad, and baby are going away for the weekend and will be sharing a bed... silly as it sounds, how does that work? I think I read somewhere that baby shouldn't go in the middle, but how do you make sure they don't roll off the bed?

[red and lulu]

anybody???

[Maluhia]

Our DD always went in the middle, DH slept facing outwards on his stomach.

[dogretro]

DD slept between us or on my side, depending on which side she had just nursed from. I have a bed rail on my side. You could also get bed bumpers or push the bed against the wall & stuff the crack w/ towels.

[BrittneyMarie]

my lo spends most of the night between me and the wall, but when she nurses on the other side shes between us.

[Chloe'sMama]

dd has always slept in the middle. It works for us.

[lonegirl]

I kept Tyr on the outside until he was bigger (12m or so). I used a snug mesh bed rail if we weren't with our co-sleeper.

[writteninkursive]

I was always terrified that my first DD would roll out of bed, so I kept her very close to me in the middle (her dad was kind of rolly and I was also scared he would roll on her).

We have a very large bed and DS sleeps in the middle usually, with his arms both outstretch, with one hand on his dad and one hand on me. I sometimes switch him to the outside of me when he needs to nurse from the other side. He has never rolled off the bed (and it's not against the wall and we don't have bed rails), and he's never been rolled on. It's not to say that's impossible, but I think it was more my fears than her real risk that kept me putting DD where she was. We all sleep so much better when DS is wherever he wants to be and I'm comfortable.

In other cultures where they don't have separate rooms and cribs for babies, I'm pretty sure the babies don't generally die from being squished or rolling off of beds. I think if you get to know your baby's tendencies and know your own and daddy's, there's not much risk to it. It seems pretty natural to have the parents and baby sleeping together!

[mamabutterfly]

many hotels have bed rails available, which can be a nice option in a strange bed. then if you want to cuddle w/your guy, dd can be btwn you & bedrail.

[fruitfulmomma]

Provided dad is not drinking or taking drugs/medication or overly tired it shouldn't really be an issue, but you need to discuss with him how comfortable he is with the situation. I am fine with baby being in the middle at least part time at night in order to nurse, but if dh is on medication or has had a drink I am careful to leave her on the outside. Pushing the bed up right against the wall should keep her from falling off.