Seriously disgusted

[JamieB]

My 8 week old ds doesn't sleep very well so my sister came to spend the night last week and let me sleep (so he was 7 weeks old at the time). She was telling the ladies that she works with that she was coming to give me a break and they tried to convince her to let him CIO!!!!

They said if you're gonna help her you might as well really help her and make him sleep. And they told her it would only take one night. Please tell me that people don't actually do that to 7 week old babies! It makes me sick!

It is a good thing that my sister is way too intelligent to ever take their advice!!!

[texaspeach]

on another forum I'm on someone said they would cio with their justborn

it makes me sick.

[Dabble]

That's so sad.

But yes, people do that with babies so young.

[Materfamilias]

[lifeguard]

I just saw someone of facebook asking for suggestions to help their 3 week old sleep. 4 people immediately responded to cio. I suggested the Dr. Sears sleep book & begged her not to cio. People are obviously a lot more hardened than me 'cause there is no way in the world I could listen to a baby cry like that.

[writteninkursive]

That is so unnatural! It's not like a 7-week-old can even connect crying with getting his/her way, so there would be nothing but psychological damage done there. God, how sad!

We are programmed as moms to respond to our babies' crying! (I don't know about you but if my baby is crying, my blood pressure goes up and does NOT go down until he is no longer crying!) (Also, that isn't true for my 2+ year "babies", who cry for fun and don't get the same response ).

For the first 6 months, babies are learning to trust their parents that their needs will be met when they ask (by crying). Can you imagine what must be going on in the head of a 7-week-old baby when his parents ignore his cries? He probably becomes very self-defeated and thinks he is worthless and trusts no one to care for him.

[Llyra]

At seven weeks? Wow. Even the CIO advocates aren't saying to use those techniques before four to six months.

And from BIRTH?

[scottishmommy]

i couldn't let a child cio at any age. let alone a newborn. so sad

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by writteninkursive

We are programmed as moms to respond to our babies' crying! (I don't know about you but if my baby is crying, my blood pressure goes up and does NOT go down until he is no longer crying!) (Also, that isn't true for my 2+ year "babies", who cry for fun and don't get the same response ).

YES! At 8 months I can tell the difference between crying because something is wrong and crying for another reason. (Fell over and is stuck in a funny position vs just can't go to sleep for example)

[HappilyEvrAfter]

Ok, I'm horrified with CIO in general, so I'm with ya on that. ^5

But why would they suggest your sister try it with a child that's not even hers??
That seems over the top to me.

I'm glad your sister apparently talked about it with you, but, wow.

[BrittneyMarie]

when dd was 4 wks MIL came over and, as i went to pick dd up, mil was like "you know, sometimes you just have to let them cry". umm... no?