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Surely, this isn't as insane as my family is trying to make me think it is.....

post #1 of 91
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I can't be the only one....

to have a play yard or baby gate up around the Christmas Tree? My Mom, Dad, and sister are all making me feel like a freak. But my son is 21 months old and into everything. Since the tree is in our family room where we spend most of our time, I think it's safer and better for my sanity if we have the tree protected by the play yard gates. My family thinks this is insane and are giving me a hard time about it. I'm getting comments like "I didn't have to do that when you girls were growing up", "that's part of the fun of christmas - to crawl under the tree" (yeah, right - we have a lot of heirloom ornaments that I really don't want to take the risk of them breaking). And here's my favorite from my childless sister - "none of my friends who have kids have done this"....

Anyway, I am quite comfortable with my decision but I'd feel better knowing that I'm not the only one who does this or has done this when their kids were small.

Thanks,
Christine
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post #2 of 91
You're definitely not the only one. And while I don't have one up around ours, I wish we did. As I'm sitting here on the computer, my 18 month old has brought my 7 different ornaments off of the tree and has completely untied the tree skirt and thrown it in the middle of the family room floor.

(but I skipped putting up all of our breakable ornaments this year and went strictly with non-breakable ornaments and no hooks)
post #3 of 91
My family thinks the play yard the tree is brillant! My aunt wants one to keep her dogs away from the tree.

When we were little, my parents got table top trees to keep it safe.
post #4 of 91
I did that one year, so I guess I was insane too!

The one time my tree did topple over, it wasn't my DS's fault (he was in another room with me when I heard the crash), but the timing was particularly bad. The tree fell over breaking glass all over the floor about twenty minutes before a playgroup of crawling babies and toddlers was scheduled to arrive. Man, I never moved or vacuumed so fast.
post #5 of 91
Eh, I'm not even putting up a tree 'cause I don't want to deal with ds getting into it.
post #6 of 91
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Originally Posted by lifeguard View Post
Eh, I'm not even putting up a tree 'cause I don't want to deal with ds getting into it.
Yeah, I'm not doing ours (yet) either... I've been joking that we'll put it up on Christmas Eve, but the kids aren't too pleased about that! Maybe next weekend. Even last year without a baby or young toddler in the house, the tree still got knocked over about 10 times.

OP, I would NOT use any ornaments that you would be upset to lose. Pack them away until your kids are all older. Like, maybe not living at home anymore
post #7 of 91
Do I think its insane no but I do think its unnecessary. I have my 4th son who is 13.5 months and we have always done live trees and never gated them from any of the children. All have been interested and Ive put alot of unbreakable ornaments back on the tree but after a few days of redirecting all is good. Its not a big deal here.
post #8 of 91
I don't have a gate around mine - if I did then maybe there would be ornaments left on the bottom half of the tree but every year I have my tree tied to the wall with fishing line. The fishing line keeps it from falling but not from being robbed of ornaments!

If it was up to me I wouldn't even have a tree up.
post #9 of 91
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Originally Posted by JBaxter View Post
All have been interested and Ive put alot of unbreakable ornaments back on the tree but after a few days of redirecting all is good. Its not a big deal here.
Wow! That's great. I redirect and it works for the moment but then he'll continue doing it and I have to keep redirecting. Yes, that's my job , and I don't mind having to tell him over and over not to touch certain things, but the tree is a different story. See, he knows what he's supposed to touch and not touch, he just doesn't have the impulse control to not touch it in the first place. He'll touch or grab something and then say "uh, uh" and then put it back when I tell him to. But I just can't take the chance with a tree that he'll touch, pull, tug or grab first and then say "uh, uh".
post #10 of 91
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Originally Posted by Mama2Xander View Post
OP, I would NOT use any ornaments that you would be upset to lose. Pack them away until your kids are all older. Like, maybe not living at home anymore
I wish! Unfortunately, this is not an option. My house is where my whole family does Christmas and unfortunately, there are a whole lot of ornaments that are "special" and that HAVE to go on the tree. Actually, almost all of the ornaments are that way. It would have caused more of a riot to not have those ornaments on the tree than the play yard around the tree caused. There are just too many traditions tied to the tree, unfortunately.
post #11 of 91
I'm thinking positively this year and not gating it, I thought for sure with DS1 we would have to do *something* about the tree but really we didn't. He has been very good about it - this is his 3rd Christmas with him mobile.
My MIL insists that she just poked her kids fingers with a pine needle once and they *always* listened after that and she NEVER had any troubles. I find that impossible to believe.
But really, even with two very impulsive children, it's like anything else in the house they are not supposed to touch...they learn.
post #12 of 91
I think it must be a funny site! But no, not insane -- we set our tree up in a different room (dining room that is also the entryway) because we spend a lot more time in the living room and didn't want to have to chase DS out from under the tree
post #13 of 91
The redirecting thing worked alright for my older two kids, but we had to do table top trees for the last three years due to my youngest son's persistence (and he still managed to knock them over!) and because we didn't have room to gate off the tree. This is the first year we've been able to have a real tree in awhile (he's 4 now). Anyhow, not crazy. A great way to drive yourself crazy is spending a month chasing your kid away from the tree!
post #14 of 91
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[QUOTE=Tizzy;14794294
But really, even with two very impulsive children, it's like anything else in the house they are not supposed to touch...they learn.[/QUOTE]

Well, I guess my son must be in the rebellious terrible two phase already because he does know he's not supposed to touch some things and he does it anyway. He used to be very good when he was younger about not touching anything he wasn't supposed to - but now, I think he's trying to assert more independence and as such is testing his boundaries. Maybe next year, I won't need the gate...here's hoping....
post #15 of 91
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Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy View Post
I think it must be a funny site! But no, not insane -- we set our tree up in a different room (dining room that is also the entryway) because we spend a lot more time in the living room and didn't want to have to chase DS out from under the tree
I wish there was another part of the house we could set the tree up in, but there's not so we have to put it up in our family room which is where we spend most of our time. Also, it does look a little strange but we're going to disassemble the front part of it after DS goes to bed on Christmas eve and so it won't look bad for the pictures on Christmas morning.
post #16 of 91
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I wish! Unfortunately, this is not an option. My house is where my whole family does Christmas and unfortunately, there are a whole lot of ornaments that are "special" and that HAVE to go on the tree. Actually, almost all of the ornaments are that way. It would have caused more of a riot to not have those ornaments on the tree than the play yard around the tree caused. There are just too many traditions tied to the tree, unfortunately.
So put them up on the tree a few minutes before family arrives.
post #17 of 91
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Anyhow, not crazy. A great way to drive yourself crazy is spending a month chasing your kid away from the tree!
post #18 of 91
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Originally Posted by moondiapers View Post
So put them up on the tree a few minutes before family arrives.
Unfortunately, my family lives close by and can stop by anytime. My sister lives down the street! Also, it's a tradition to trim the tree together so the ornaments have to go on the tree.
post #19 of 91
Also having the tree up for only a short time makes it easier. This year is the first year in a long time that we put it up earlier than the weekend before Christmas. I always take it down the day after Christmas. So when we had a toddler in the house (this includes daycare kids) the tree was only up for a week tops.
post #20 of 91
Oh, and i don't think it's insane, it would just ruin the effect for me...unless I had a gate/pen that was nice looking...like a wrought iron fireplace gate or soemthing instead of a big ole plastic thing.
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