Originally Posted by Maedze
I did it when my kids were smaller and redirecting was not practical. It's a simple, easy solution that doesn't lead to tears (on part of parent or child!) over-parenting, or broken treasures
Ignore them and do what's simplest for your family
I totally agree with that!
Originally Posted by bscal
My opinion on this is pretty much my opinion on just about every bit of unsolicited parenting advice I hear:
Unless your family wishes to camp out at your house 24/7 and be 'in charge' of gently redirecting your LO every.single.time he decides to touch one of the tree ornaments then they have zero say in the matter. Whatever the needs and wants of YOUR family is more important that what the extended family thinks.
My own mother is just horrified that we don't put our tree up the Sunday right after Thanksgiving... as we did every year growing up. (And as DH's family did too.) Well, my older DD's birthday is Dec. 4th so we made it OUR family tradition to put it up the weekend following her birthday. Which ends up being today actually. And nope, haven't done it yet. Still need to rearrange the living room a bit and sweep. Oh, well. Anyways, it's OUR family and we'll do what we feel is best.
I LOVE this! This is exactly what I think about extended family!
Originally Posted by JL83
I don't think you're insane, but you're making the opposite choice to what I chose.
I would much rather teach my child from the beginning what she can and cannot do than adjust all parts of my child's environment.
I would tell my family that this year we weren't doing the breakable ornaments and then parent my child to keep the tree intact.
I have to disagree with your statment. You are telling OP that YOU don't change your child's environment, yet you don't put the breakable ornaments on the tree. I can see making this comment if the OP was putting gates around all the rectangle object in her home, but over a christmas tree? SOME kids don't adapt well to change, and a christmas tree is CHANGE! Does your home Typically have a x-mas tree in it? The x-mas tree is an annomaly to the "normal" home environment for your child. OP is also keeping a tree FULL of glass, heirloom orniments that the family expects to have on there at all times, and a child that is bound and determined to GET to the tree... I would put a gate up too! Not all kids are easily re-directed and not all kids "get it" that no means no, and don't touch is serious. I, infact have 2 boys that re-directing has NEVER worked on them, ever.
I also NEVER put presents under our tree! My kids don't have that impulse controll regarding presents, and I don't expect them to- they are all 7 and under! This is a set of hard lessons to learn! They have to learn not to such, only look, not to play with, to not pull on it, to leave the presnts alone untill some day far into the future that they cannot even fathom. Some lessons are harder for some kids to learn than others.
OP- I applaud your "insanity" because you've found a simple solution that has worked for your family! If only you could find a simple solution for your family's comments....lol! Hope you enjoy your tree and have a wonderfull holiday!