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post #41 of 44
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Originally Posted by Shelsi View Post
When I say dd's birth was pain free I mean it. I've had paper cuts that hurt worse than her. The ONLY pain I ever felt the entire time was when dh had his fingers against my perineum when I was pushing. I told him to move his fingers and the pain went away.

I wasn't lucky. I worked darn hard beforehand preparing mentally and physically. Dd was posterior and didn't turn until I felt the urge to push. All my pressure waves were in my back.

My first birth was horrible. Traumatizing. And excruciatingly painful. Also in my back FTR.

I'm sorry but I take offense when people brush off my experience as just being "lucky." I was lucky that hypnobabies worked so well for me but I didn't just stumble into a painless birth.
Yes this exactly... except for the part about being offended. The reason why those comments don't offend me is because of my really HARD and Painful first birth. I worked my ass off pre-labor with my second and when it was working I was shocked because I bought into the painful "myth" with my first and was so disappointed. Then with my second I just hoping for more manageble and faster... I honestly didn't think it could be pain free. And it honestly and truly was. But again I did months of prep with hypnobabies and started listening to my Easy Labor track at the onset of labor. And I listened to it the whole time.
post #42 of 44
This seems more and more like a lexical problem. How do we define 'pain'? What sensations would qualify? And perhaps most importantly, how do we and our culture feel about pain?

Is pain necessarily something scary and negative? If so, then some labors are definitely pain-free, even without hypnosis. The sensations of labor are different from those of sustaining serious injuries. And if so, I definitely see a need for hypnosis to reprogram one into thinking labor does not equal pain.

If, however, an individual and/or her culture don't see all pain as inherently negative, scary, and to be avoided at all costs, then even the easiest labors can qualify as painful and still be positive experiences. Strenuous exercise definitely qualifies, and it's certainly not unpleasant, negative, or something to be avoided. Paper cuts are more unpleasant by far

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I had a pain-free Hypnobabies birth. It was long, with back labor, but I can't say that it hurt. Challenging, yes. Intense, yes. Painful? Nope.
This is interesting to me because I can't imagine what sensation it is that is challenging and intense, but is not pain. Running or swimming for an hour come to mind, but my muscles would definitely hurt and that would be the challenge.

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There are a lot of things that made labor pain more acceptable than other sorts of excruciating pain (I wasn't scared, I didn't feel I was being damaged (until the very end anyway), it was more like running-a-marathon than breaking-your-arm), but it was definitely pain. Not 'pressure,' PAIN.
That's the way I've experienced it. But according to my definition, pain does not necessarily mean something scary and to be avoided. There are different kinds.

Now, paper cuts and having a tooth drilled by a dentist are unpleasant.
post #43 of 44
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I'm sorry but I take offense when people brush off my experience as just being "lucky." I was lucky that hypnobabies worked so well for me but I didn't just stumble into a painless birth.
Who said anything about 'stumbling'? I said I thought it was a combo of work and luck (as you note as well, so I suspect we're more on the same page than not). Can't be work *alone* bc lots of moms do the work but don't get the pain-free birth. I was one, and if you check out the 'Healing Birth Trauma' forum you'll see lots of posts from other moms who didn't get 'pain-free' births with Hypnobabies either.
post #44 of 44
I went into my last birth totally 'mainstream' I figured id most likely have an epidural and didnt care at all. I labored at home until the pain got pretty intense, but not mind blowing. When I got to the hospital I was 9cm and almost ready to push. The pushing part was much less pain than I experienced in 'transition'. So, my sons birth wasnt 'pain free' but the only really intense pain was when I arrived at the hospital at 9cm and in transition and demanded 'I need a f******* epidural'

Thats what turned me into having my now, VERY different views on childbirth, I looked at him laying between my legs right after he came out and thought 'really? that was it???' that's what's all the fuss is about '

Maybe I got lucky last time, I hope its as easy this time
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