Need help cutting last nursing session

[Erinjvrn]

My son just turned 2 this month and I am 5 months pregnant. I have not heard him swallow in at least 2 months. Nursing is extremely painful, and he is always stopping and saying "milkies all done" but then going right back to it. He nurses to sleep and around 530 am. I recently night weaned, buy just saying milkes are asleep when he wakes at night to nurse. He is waking only once usually now, fusses for 2 minutes and then passes back out. I really want to cut out these last 2 nursing b/c they hurt so much, bt he cries "Owen needs milkies help me mommy help mommy please". Any ideas?

I also want to transition him into his crib which oughta be interesting. I only want one baby in the bed at a time.

[annettemarie]

I'm going to move this to Breastfeeding Beyond Infancy since you're asking about mother-led weaning.

[3girls1boy]

I weaned my second daughter at about the same age because it was becoming just too uncomfortable for me to nurse. I told her that my "milkies" were broken, and she did accept this. Is there some other special cuddling you can offer instead?

[4Jet]

Cover up, and give cuddles or rubs instead. Playing some music to distract at night may also help- something soft and mellow. It would help if you slowly gave him a time of when he could expect milkies- in the morning, etc. and then slowly stop offering it to him (or make him wait longer each time). At 2, he'll cry but he's old enough to understand. You are breaking the habit which takes time. *hugs*

[3girls1boy]

BTW, I was also PG when I told DD "milkies were broken"

Though it's not fun for you, I've heard some moms say what worked to drop that last first thing in the morning, was to leap out of bed before toddler asks to nurse and make some wonderful breakfast, so they forget to ask to nurse after all that.

[reillys_mom]

DS weaned himself about this time in my pregnancy with DS2. Partly he wasn't getting much milk so the "milkies are broken" will porbably be convincing to your son. Also, the milk started tasting strange to him. He knew I was pregnant and we talked about how mama's body was also taking care of the new baby. I was preparing to tandem nurse and finished reading "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" right before he decided to stop nursing -- who knows it might work for you. DH had gently suggested that I think about weaning as I was clearly in pain and the positive nursing relationship that we'd had wasn't there no matter how hard I tried to hide the winces.

I struggling with weaning DS2 now because of my health and have the morning and bedtiem nursings still. If DS2 didn't wake up at 5 I might try to get out of bed before him, but for now I'll wait for a better time.