Anyone else?

[denaverbena]

If I'm in the room DD will almost never want her daddy. Is this normal? I'm so exhausted and its so hard for me not to take her when shes crying and reaching for me She's 8 months and teething and is really needing a lot of extra love. He often just takes her out of the room, but sometimes we all want to be together. Outside she'll go to him, but inside she wants to be walked around by me. I'm having a problem with my foot (plantar fascitis) and its really hurting my body. But that's another issue in itself. Just wondering if I'm the only one?

[Phridae]

Same thing here. DS will raise his hands to me, but not to DH. If I leave the room, DS starts to cry too. Its kinda nice to a point, knowing he wants me. But I feel bad for DH.

[Ldavis24]

Originally Posted by Phridae

Same thing here. DS will raise his hands to me, but not to DH. If I leave the room, DS starts to cry too. Its kinda nice to a point, knowing he wants me. But I feel bad for DH.

Welcome to my life. I can't even go to the bathroom anymore without a wail coming from DD even in DH's arms, if she and I are alone, I just truck her to the bathroom with me and she still cries because I had to put her down

I know it is in part because she is doing some serious teething right now so I try to be patient but it certainly is tiring when I can't walk to the kitchen for a drink without DD freaking out...

Also DH takes it personally and gets really sensitive about it even though the logical and non emotional side of his brain knows that it has nothing to do with him

[denaverbena]

So what do you do? Do you take them back as soon as you can or have them stay with daddy?

DD is teething too, but she's been doing this since before the teething started. Sometimes DH does get frustrated cause he wants to help out, but mostly he knows she loves him too and she just needs mommy a lot. He just feels bad its hard for me to catch a break.

[Ldavis24]

honestly i haven't found what i would call a good solution because I don't really know that there is one, kwim? It all depends on how upset DD is getting and what I am trying to do. If it is cooking dinner DH has to keep her if I am dealing with hot and dangerous things. He will do his best to distract but if she gets really upset at not having mama he brings her in and we all hang out in the kitchen.

The best thing I have found is that I have to leave the room ENTIRELY. I literally have to in the bedroom and shut the door to get some peace from her trying to get to me and then usually she is happy with Dh for a little while.

I think it is something she will grow out of eventually but I am the one that is with her 99% of the time so I understand the anxiety when I go away. Like you said teething doesn't help the matter at all.

Good luck! I find that if I am showering I just make sure the door is shut so I can't hear her if she crying, although DH knows to bring her in to visit me if she is really really freaking out! I do try to let DH keep her through these bouts as long as she isn't too upset

[GoestoShow]

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Edited by GoestoShow - 1/4/11 at 8:56am