venting - family / friends who demand a name - Page 2

[jacie87]

It's so hard the other way around though! I always want to ask "do you know what you're going to name the baby?" when I find out a friend or family member is pregnant. I'm just curious and find it exciting, but at the same time I know how frustrating it was for me because when I was pg with DD we would share the name we chose and all we got was criticism. Of course, now that she's here, we never hear anything about the name except positive. I think it's a good idea to just keep the name a secret until the baby is born, and I try to keep that in mind to subdue my strong urges to ask when I hear about someone else being pregnant.

[Gray's Mommy]

Originally Posted by IamCoupongirl

With dd3, we just kept saying "Oprah."

we are going with cornholio or plaxico

[Catubodua]

i'm so glad it's not just me!

and, we've tried the diversion names - they know our nickname for him is Kiwi, but everyone refuses to use it. which, in some ways is cool b/c it's just me and hubby calling him that.

DH has also been telling folks all sorts of crazy names when they ask - at a wedding we were at, he was using "Corneilous" (as in Yukon Corneilous from Rudolph) and he's used Dartanyan (one of the 3 muskateers). he enjoys seeing the look of horror on people's faces when they think he's serious.


and, jacie87 - i know what you mean. i find myself asking pregnant women if they know if it's a boy/girl and if they have a name picked out.

i guess i'm not upset that someone randomly asks, i'm upset at close friends and family members who ask incessently.

[elmh23]

This is baby number three and everyone has gotten used to not knowing what our kids names will be, so at least they're not bugging us this time.

With our first, we had names picked out and everyone LOVED the girl name and HATED the boys name. But we didn't know the gender so it was all still a suprise (and they were all happy we had a girl )

With our second, dh wouldn't look at any names until 2 days before my due date. Then we came up with a list of 5 boys names and 4 girls names and picked it when he was born. We didn't know his gender either.

With the third, we actually found out the gender (which shocked everyone ) but again we have no clue on names. Dh is refusing to discuss them until February 1 (I'm due March 4.) I did get him to talk a little over instant messanger last week when he'd been out of town for two weeks though. We came up with a list of 12 names so not much better

[Mirrormonkey]

Haha! I am dealing with this one too. It is so irritating. We did finally decide on names and I told my family that these aret he names we love and I don't want their opinion or comments. I was told I was being hormonal and overly sensitive.

I really don't know what it is but I hate the name game and the gender guessing game. People truly don't believe it when I say I could care less what I am are having as long as the baby is healthy.

[mntnmom]

You plan on just calling him "baby" until he's ready to start school, when you will let him choose his own name! Sometimes I just have to give pushy people the most confusing answers I can! Or come up with the longest, most awful names you can think of.

[twead]

My brother told me he wanted to name ds4 name Custis Studs but noone would let him. I thought he was joking, but no.... anyway. I personally think it is hilarious and if we ever get grief about a name I throw that one in the mix too. I think the distraction names are great.....dartanyan. Actually some people might believe me on that one because my name is hidden in the middle of it.

[Thankful'n'Blessed]

Mama. I know what you mean. The only good news I can share with you is that with each pregnancy it seems to get easier. We don't find out the gender of our babies, and we don't share any name possibilities either. People are too opinionated, and I don't really care if they don't like the name we picked! I even told someone recently that if she wanted to name a baby, she could have her own. It's no body's business what you name your child. Just stick to your guns, and people will eventually catch on!

P.S. A friend of mine who has had 6 once suggested to me that we pick out a boy name and a girl name that were the most awful, outdated, we-would-never-use-them, names we could think of. And when people kept asking the name, tell them the awful girl and boy choices with a very serious face. I never did it because I didn't think I could keep a straight face, but maybe it would work for you!