DS asked how the baby will get out - Page 2

[Ruthla]

When I was pg with DS, my daughters were 5 and 6. They asked things like "how do you keep from accidentally pooping out the baby before it's ready to be born?" So I explained that women and girls have three holes: one for pee, one for poop, and one in between them for babies (when not pg I explained that menstrual blood comes out the baby hole.) Boys and men only have two holes- one for pee and one for poop. When they learned about sperm, I expained that sperm comes out the same hole as pee, just not at the same time. The questions about male anatomy came up shortly after DS was born.

I've taught DS about menstruation and basic anatomy, but the pregnancy/birth questions haven't come up yet. There's no younger sibling's conception to ask about!

[mntnmom]

We're planning another homebirth in a few months. My 6yrold DD has known most of the details for a while. We've always been very open and my now 5yrold DS knows the basics of female anatomy and has watched "graphic" homebirth videos with me.
As for the getting in: DS hasn't seemed interested. But by the time DD was his age she had the "big picture". She hasn't seemed curious about the finer details, but if she is old enough to ask, she's old enough to have an accurate answer.

[MamaMelis]

I have been reading my almost 3 and almost 2 YO's these books:

"We're having a homebirth!" by Kelly Mochel

and

Welcome with Love by Jenni Overend

The other day my son was looking at the pic of the baby emerging and said "Ewwwww! Mama! That baby coming out of that mama's BUTT!" LOL.

I agree with the others that being honest is the way to go GL Mama.

[MegBoz]

Personally, my DS is only 17 mos old & just barely starting to get out a few single words, so I don't have to worry about it yet.
But I will lean towards truth & the view that it's basic biology. But then again, My DS has already received some anatomy & physiology lessons from me! (I'm a fitness instructor & found that info useful to share, during all the one-way conversations I've had with DS throughout his life thus far.)

Originally Posted by rachel65655

I have always told my young children that "God made a special place for the babies to come out". This is my answer for a lot of those unexplainable questions that they ask like "Why is the sky blue?"...answer...."Because God made it that way." I usually don't get any follow-up questions.

Hm. Do you view the lack of follow-up Qs as a bad thing? After all, it is curiosity and the thirst for knowledge that drive us to want to learn & expand our intellect.

I know I'm going to try to always encourage my kids natural curiosity, not repress it.

[justmandy]

I'm in the Tell-it-all camp. My boys, 4.5 and almost 6 have learned a lot about mamas and babies since we announced this pregnancy. They know all the words (even if they get them mixed up, ds asked when we would bury my uterus..."It's a placenta, the uterus stays with me") and have seen many videos in prep for our homebirth. Dh said they've seen more vaginas then he has

When we told the kids the first two questions were "How does the baby get out?" from my 5 yo and "How did this happen?" from my 8 yo dd. I was very happy to explain the vagina, cervix and uterus (oh my) as opposed to the sex talk I had to have with dd later.

We've read a million books, watched many births and it's just common knowlege.

As far as telling other kids, I've found my boys only talk about it when they have a question. For them, it's not as personal as it is to my dd. They can't imagine life with out a penis so it doesn't hit home for them. Dd, even though much older (or maybe because she's much older) has been much more effected by it. When I told her how the mw checks my cervix she got grossed out. The boys on the other hand never even noticed anything was going on.