So I am doing care with an OB the only reason is because I would like my Quad Screen and the u/s @18 weeks. I did the same last pregnancy and did dual care with my midwife and stopped seeing the OB (different OB) after I got my u/s. This is really the only OB around here I would see, as he is a straight-shooter and no BS kind of guy. As in he won't lie to me about his intentions. I also trust his competence as a dr as there are a lot of them I wouldn't trust to handle a rock around here! We do not agree on a lot of things..obviously..haha... Its getting harder to do this the longer I go...I feel so passionately about the rights I have as a woman and only want to do the things I feel is right for me and my baby.
That being said...my OB has been pushing the H1N1 vaccine on me the past two visits and two days ago I went in for my 12w appt. He again pushed me and then made some snide comments like "Well no one has died from it!" And I see you DID get the flu so you would have blamed that on the vaccine if you had gotten it!" I am totally against the vaccine...I don't feel like I should be pushed. There was some other comments said in relevance to me not wanting the GD test either...but its so long to type everything so you get the idea. By that point in the exam I was done and wanted to leave. I was so upset that I didn't stand up for myself that day. I just left feeling ashamed that I didn't say anything and upset for being treated like that.
I called him the next day and really told him how I felt. We talked, argued and even debated....he feels that I am being dangerous by choosing to try for a VBAC after two c/s. He also thinks its "dangerous health practices" by not getting certain tests..especially the GD. I told him he was just looking for a problem...pregnancy isn't a illness. I think the GD test is dangerous and told him why... He told me that my midwife was a horrible healthcare provider for letting me labor for two days before going to a hospital...that I could have ruptured. I told him there was nothing wrong with laboring for two days and that I was closely monitored the whole time. He acts like if I have a rupture me and the baby will just spontaneously die and have no symptoms. And I'm pretty sure he gets his figures from ACOG...stating that I now have a 1 in 50 chance of rupture and just how much more dangerous that is than c/s which of course I think the total opposite.*rolls eyes*
We finally ended the conversation agreeing to disagree but that he will respect me and honor my wishes and beliefs and not push me or make comments again.
I've stewed over this for two days now and while I think a lot of what he had to say was skewed and BS as he is a OB and therefore will probably never understand in a million years that there are ways better for the birthing mother that he will never know as a dr...he has planted a small seed of doubt and fear in me. Its going to take some time to get myself back on track and I already feel a little better but now I'm saying well...what if? I mean, I always try to play the "what if" scenarios in my head because I want to prepare myself for any emergency that may arise and I usually can look at it objectively and not be frightened about it...just that its something to prepare myself for....but now I'm wondering about my uterus and thinking things like placental abruption and wondering where my placenta is located....hoping its not on my scar.
My uterus tore slightly with my last c/s when they were pulling her out...I hear thats a pretty normal thing but this conversation with my doctor has made me think about it.
I think I just need to hear some encouragement at the moment. I need to grow a tougher skin because if I want these tests I'm going to have to deal with a doctor and I'm always going to hear something negative about me being a "VBAC."
Otherwise its going to mean I will have to forgo these tests that I feel is important to me and see my midwife...which I'm planning to start dual care soon anyway. ASAP I think...
Sorry this is long...its just been bothering me and I need somebody to talk to about it.
That being said...my OB has been pushing the H1N1 vaccine on me the past two visits and two days ago I went in for my 12w appt. He again pushed me and then made some snide comments like "Well no one has died from it!" And I see you DID get the flu so you would have blamed that on the vaccine if you had gotten it!" I am totally against the vaccine...I don't feel like I should be pushed. There was some other comments said in relevance to me not wanting the GD test either...but its so long to type everything so you get the idea. By that point in the exam I was done and wanted to leave. I was so upset that I didn't stand up for myself that day. I just left feeling ashamed that I didn't say anything and upset for being treated like that.
I called him the next day and really told him how I felt. We talked, argued and even debated....he feels that I am being dangerous by choosing to try for a VBAC after two c/s. He also thinks its "dangerous health practices" by not getting certain tests..especially the GD. I told him he was just looking for a problem...pregnancy isn't a illness. I think the GD test is dangerous and told him why... He told me that my midwife was a horrible healthcare provider for letting me labor for two days before going to a hospital...that I could have ruptured. I told him there was nothing wrong with laboring for two days and that I was closely monitored the whole time. He acts like if I have a rupture me and the baby will just spontaneously die and have no symptoms. And I'm pretty sure he gets his figures from ACOG...stating that I now have a 1 in 50 chance of rupture and just how much more dangerous that is than c/s which of course I think the total opposite.*rolls eyes*
We finally ended the conversation agreeing to disagree but that he will respect me and honor my wishes and beliefs and not push me or make comments again.
I've stewed over this for two days now and while I think a lot of what he had to say was skewed and BS as he is a OB and therefore will probably never understand in a million years that there are ways better for the birthing mother that he will never know as a dr...he has planted a small seed of doubt and fear in me. Its going to take some time to get myself back on track and I already feel a little better but now I'm saying well...what if? I mean, I always try to play the "what if" scenarios in my head because I want to prepare myself for any emergency that may arise and I usually can look at it objectively and not be frightened about it...just that its something to prepare myself for....but now I'm wondering about my uterus and thinking things like placental abruption and wondering where my placenta is located....hoping its not on my scar.
My uterus tore slightly with my last c/s when they were pulling her out...I hear thats a pretty normal thing but this conversation with my doctor has made me think about it.
I think I just need to hear some encouragement at the moment. I need to grow a tougher skin because if I want these tests I'm going to have to deal with a doctor and I'm always going to hear something negative about me being a "VBAC."
Otherwise its going to mean I will have to forgo these tests that I feel is important to me and see my midwife...which I'm planning to start dual care soon anyway. ASAP I think...Sorry this is long...its just been bothering me and I need somebody to talk to about it.
She is also a wealth of information....she has been delivering babies for over 20 years and very knowledgeable on herbs, which I am just learning about 
Don't let him make a dent in your armor of knowledge. 
