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Toddlers- how aware are they?

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I'm starting to feel like my 12 month old daughter knows more than I've been assuming she'd be able to.

She is recently OBSESSED with my belly. She's always pulling my shirt up and patting my belly or poking my belly button. She likes to put her mouth on me and "talk" to my belly, or blow raspberries (always starting from up top where this little dude's feet are, slowly working her way down). She sometimes will lay her head on my stomach and just start laughing and laughing, and she doesn't seem to care at all if I'm interacting with her- she's not laughing for my benefit.

She also in the last week or so wants to nurse all the time (no changes there- I haven't had milk since she was 6 months old). She wants to be skin to skin as much as possible, she'll take off her clothes (or try to) and pull my shirt up and snuggle. She wants to sleep in what was her favorite position as a tiny baby (in the crook of my arm, or sprawled across my chest with her hand down my shirt).

I'm 34 weeks today. It just occurred to me tonight (after she REFUSED to go to bed until she patted my belly and gave it a few raspberries) that maybe she's picking up on this new kid somehow? Maybe she knows something I don't?

Has anyone else had a young child seem to understand pregnancy, or not be surprised after when a new sibling comes home (or is born at home, or whatever the case may be)? They say animals can tell these things, and they say children are closer to the angels so maybe there's some truth to it?

Or maybe I'm just panicked by this new level of neediness and have no idea how to cope with a toddler who insists on sleeping on me and nursing 24/7 and a newborn who'll need the same thing. Ahhh!

This is probably really random... I should really be in bed!
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I've never had a toddler that young while pregnant, but I just had to say-that is the sweetest thing ever!

I will say that in general, I've learned that toddlers usually have the ability to understand a great deal more than what most adults realize. My youngest is almost 2, and for the better part of a year has been able to understand an amazing amount of life that goes on around her-and I honestly don't think she is an "exceptional" child.

Toddlers are pretty smart little ones.
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DD is 17 months and the same way. She just wants to rub my belly, kiss it, poke it (gently thankfully), lay her head on it etc. She won't nurse anymore but she suddenly is super interested in my nipples and has latched for a second or two a couple of times. Normally she is kinda a daddy's girl but lately I can't be out of her sight. I think she is picking up on a change but I'm not sure if she "gets" that there is a baby in there or not and what that means for her.
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I've never had a toddler that young while pregnant, but I just had to say-that is the sweetest thing ever!

I will say that in general, I've learned that toddlers usually have the ability to understand a great deal more than what most adults realize. My youngest is almost 2, and for the better part of a year has been able to understand an amazing amount of life that goes on around her-and I honestly don't think she is an "exceptional" child.

Toddlers are pretty smart little ones.
She's very observational... is that a word? She waits to see what everyone is up to before she'll interact, and if I do anything different she watches me and seems to be really thinking it over. I think she understands a lot more than I give her credit for, but for this pre-verbal stage it's really hard to tell whats going on in her head.

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I think she is picking up on a change but I'm not sure if she "gets" that there is a baby in there or not and what that means for her.
Yeah, that's what I'm wondering about. Maybe she can tell that my belly is getting bigger and I'm acting differently and I'm always touching my belly so maybe she's just aware that something is different and doesn't have the foggiest idea what she's in for in just a few short weeks!

I'm really curious now to see her reaction when her brother is born- will it be like, "oh, there you are! Finally!" or "get away from my mother, that's MY lap!" I'll be watching
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That is so adorable! She seems to intuitively understand what's happening, which makes sense to me, since having a sibling when you are about 1 or 2 seems to me to be the most natural thing in the world for humans before birth control.

My son is 22 months and he also is interested in my belly (I'm 37 weeks now). He has a generic world for all animals and little babies - "ga ga" - and sometimes he points to my stomach and says "ga ga". However, I'm not expecting anything great when the baby arrives...heck, I know exactly what's going to happen then, and I am sure it will be a shock even to me!
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