5yo boy messy peeing habits - Page 2

[journeymom]

I imagine so! I'm sorry, I'm a little, uh, pissy today.

[MusicianDad]

No biggie.

[AbbieB]

Teaching DS to sit does seem a lot better than letting him learn my DH's way of going while standing, with no hands to help point! Can you imagine the mess a little dude would make doing it that way?

Of course it would not be as bad as a story an old boyfriend told me. He remembers his (single) mom asking her dad to take him into the bathroom to show him what to do. Grandpa did his thing and then shook off the drips. Old boyfriend got it a little back wards and shook while still going. His mom was cleaning pee off the ceiling after that!

[rainyday]

I'll chime in on the have-him-sit camp. My ds sits at home and stands elsewhere (school, public bathrooms). I figure he can stand at home when he's 1. tall enough to not have issues from that and 2. mature enough to aim well and clean up if there's splashing.

Just remind him to push his penis down between his legs and hold it (gently) there while he goes.

[freestyler]

Prostate cancer?? Hemmorhoids??

[monkaha]

Originally Posted by freestyler

Prostate cancer?? Hemmorhoids??

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Google search didn't find any convincing arguments for it.

I have found that having DS clean up after himself has helped encourage him to be neater in the first place.

[KatWrangler]

My son is soon to be 6 and sits to pee. Part of the reason is he is short and not tall enough clear his pee pee over the rim of the bowl very well.

[noobmom]

Another vote in the sitting camp. DS because he's too short to stand and DH because he's TOO TALL (the splashing makes a huge mess). I refused to have to clean a toilet with dried urine under the seat when the problem can easily be solved by the male members of the house sitting down. DH can stand as long as he wipes up any spots.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by AbbieB

Interesting. MusicianDad, your insights are always so dead on (at least for me).

The fact that a you, a Dad, are saying sit is making me rethink my approach with DS, who is only 2 and not quite ready. My DH has been very reluctant to take on the responsibility of helping DS learn when the time comes and I was a little nervous of teaching DS to sit, thinking it was too much of a girl oriented approach (as in biological plumbing differences, not feminine vs. masculine).

So at what point do folks that say sit think kids are ready to stand? Is it a height thing? Or thing or is this something they just figure out on their own at some point, maybe as a social thing?

For my ds he decided to start standing on occasion in the last little bit. So I think when the boy is ready to try it if he can do it without mess then he can do it that way if he prefers.

How could standing possibly increase the risk of prostate cancer? I cant seem to visualize a way that one could affect the other. I just googled and found a very poorly written piece that said something I dont quiet understand.

The structure of male physiological studies have shown that men, after urination, urethra and external sphincter will be closed, so that the formation of a prostatic urethral closed cavity. If the time to sit down immediately, will increase the pressure on the closed cavity, resulting in residual urine reflux, cause prostatitis. Therefore, men should stand up in the urine after 3-5 minutes, and then sit down.

I'm not buying it.

[ledzepplon]

Originally Posted by pixiekisses

Yup, my boys sit, I teach them from the start to do that.

Mine, too. ALthough now my 3.5 year old likes to stand on occasion, but I've shown him that it's his job to clean up when he's done, and he seems to get that if he wants to stand he needs to keep the potty clean for others.

[PGTlatte]

I grew up with two older brothers, and nasty toilets, nasty bathroom floors.

My MIL gave my DH's future wife (me !) a great gift...she taught my DH to sit. He will stand at a urinal, but at home he sits. We have two boys, and they both sit. It is awesome !!!! The only time I have to clean pee off toilets is after we have visitors !

I am all for men who sit !

[ewe+lamb]

I'm for sitting, mind you it's more for my dh rather than my 4 year old son - lol, dh is terrible for getting it everywhere, so sick of smelly toilets I told him to clean it up himself or sit down - he chose the latter!!

[newbymom05]

Great, my boys sit down and I STILL have a stinky bathroom! Under the seat, that's where it goes, ewwwwww.

[Umpqua]

My DH is 6'4 and sits. He grew up in a house of women so perhaps that has something to do with it? Anyway, my 3-year-old just started pottying and sits. I suppose he will attempt standing when he's ready, but he's going to have to help with the cleanup if that's the case!

[annekevdbroek]

Sit or clean-up after yourself, IMHO. My older was taught to wipe the toilet after he peed if he dribbled. The younger isn't potty-learning yet. I see no acceptable reason to leave urine for the next person who uses the bathroom. We have had a couple (one in particular) friends of DS's over who peed on the floor, back of toilet, and shower curtain. I mean - all - over - it was disgusting and I cannot believe that the issue was not addressed in their homes.