I totally could have written that post! I expected issues from 3.5 to 4.5, but when she didn't calm down at 5, I got really worried. I called my doctor and we ended up going to a sensory OT therapist for about 6 weeks and it was really helpful. She showed us some tips on hair brushing - hold the head or press on it and start from the bottom, and really worked with us. She is much better now at almost 7 but she does still have her monents.
Same issue with - the more we gave her - the more she took. The routines help enormously although there are still tantrums the first few times we try something. Being firm on my part helped a lot. I also tell her if she doesn't want to brush her hair, we can get it cut short so it's easier to manage. She's holding onto the hair and does a really good job brushing it now.
My kid, too, had a lot of control, but it really wasn't helping her and I didn't respond well to the tantrums. Sometimes we say now, that "We are the parents, and we would worry about it, find the solution, find the answer," and she didn't need to do it. I feel weird about "Because I'm the mommy and I said so," but it seemed like something she needed to hear. She did not need to worry about some things.
Same issue with - the more we gave her - the more she took. The routines help enormously although there are still tantrums the first few times we try something. Being firm on my part helped a lot. I also tell her if she doesn't want to brush her hair, we can get it cut short so it's easier to manage. She's holding onto the hair and does a really good job brushing it now.
My kid, too, had a lot of control, but it really wasn't helping her and I didn't respond well to the tantrums. Sometimes we say now, that "We are the parents, and we would worry about it, find the solution, find the answer," and she didn't need to do it. I feel weird about "Because I'm the mommy and I said so," but it seemed like something she needed to hear. She did not need to worry about some things.
