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12/18/09 at 2:37pm
I guess I'm hoping they will get frank information from the MDs, not just a rosy view. The current plan is for Baby A to leave the hospital after the c-section with a friend and live with the friend until Baby B leaves the hospital as well (which I imagine could be a very long time?) They are already talking about how Baby A will watch over and protect baby B, which feels like sooo much pressure for a kid to grow up with. ("The Lord sent them together so A can be a protector to B." Maybe just my frustration with a god getting all the credit/blame for everything in this world. For me it is passing the buck. I'm sure I would feel comfort from it if I was a believer.)
I've been doing a good job of keeping my opinions and ideas to myself and just being a sounding board and (hopefully) a supportive shoulder. Personally, I'm starting to be able to put aside all the stupid things she has done and decisions she has made and just look at the current situation. I can't even fathom the anxiety that the duedate produces. The overwhelming joy and fear that are typical for any new parents, compounded by twins, and then magnified by Baby B's issues. Just focusing on that makes it so easy to be supportive and not question everything they do that I find ridiculous.
I got the dope-slap I was looking for!
And if the healthy baby's going to be a premie go ask the la leche league how you can find a breastmilk bank and research funding sources if it's not likely to be covered by whatever public assistance your niece is getting. That might be beyond her, or the relatives caring for the boy. I don't know if the nurse or hospital staff will suggest it to her. But that might truly be helpful in helping that little boy thrive.