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What am i "miss"ing/ Merry Christ"miss"

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Sorry i just couldn't resist the pun.
I am in need of some ideas and inspiration.
ds has ec'd with us since week one. He used to give us a little squirt every time we asked. He was always changed as soon as i noticed he was wet and given lots of opportunities to "go". he only occasionally signals, mostly when out in public or in your lap. he very rarely goes when in a wrap, and when out and about. it is mostly at home that we are in a constant state of miss.

when we were also on vacation we used the disposable pullups, and they were great. We usually had fitted cloth diaper backups. but now i have decided to get waterproof cloth trainers for out of the house and use pants or undies when in the house.

HE hates being changed so the pants are easier to put on than diaper but he still wrestles with me. he would be nakey but at home but it is too cold.
he has started resisting the potty opportunities, no problem you don't have to go now... so i will put his pants on, go put laundry in washer and come back, he is wet. ok offer potty put new pants on, take two things down to basement, come check him, he is wet. and it goes on like this....
except one morning we went out to breakfast and it wasn't too cold so i was able to off the potty we keep in the back seat. he was dry and in one diaper until after 12.

What am i missing, any inspiration, hints. thanks.
post #2 of 7
Thank you for the pun, that made me smile!!!

Misses at this age are not uncommon, as you probably know. I'm not sure there's anything you can do differently. Going with the trainers that are easiest to get on him sounds like a good way to go. (That one of the reasons I eca-pants- they go on without a struggle, most of the time!) You can try to make potty time more fun and interesting. Or try backing off and just offering at obvious times. We started with EC during the first week also, had an amazing stretch of few misses her first summer and fall, and then her first winter things went nutso and stayed that way for a long time!!!
post #3 of 7
My DD is 3 days younger than your son, and besides venturing into trainers yet, I basically could have written this post... I think DD might be experimenting with cause and effect.
post #4 of 7
This could be totally off, but I found that when we went through a similar experience, if DS peed again really soon after a small pee, it was usually because what he really needed was to poop. And he needed time to do it. I finally realized, "Oh, this is why people take newspapers into the bathroom." I always thought that was wierd before. But then we started taking the time to read a book on the potty and he was able to relax and poop.
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My DD is 3 days younger than your son, and besides venturing into trainers yet, I basically could have written this post... I think DD might be experimenting with cause and effect.
"cause" he is making mom crazy
just kidding.
Today went better, but maybe just because i had some help in dad being home.
post #6 of 7
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This could be totally off, but I found that when we went through a similar experience, if DS peed again really soon after a small pee, it was usually because what he really needed was to poop. And he needed time to do it. I finally realized, "Oh, this is why people take newspapers into the bathroom." I always thought that was wierd before. But then we started taking the time to read a book on the potty and he was able to relax and poop.
Sometimes that seems to be the case. He does like it to be quiet and calm in the house, but is a fairly fast pooper when he gets ready.

Thanks for the hints. Keep them coming. i am feeling better already.
post #7 of 7
yes, i think most LO's go through a phase of experimenting with holding it longer and end up peeing after the potty opportunity. whether he has to poo or not, sometimes a little distraction will help to get them to relax enough to go - a toy or a book. i would also say "relax, it's OK to let your pee out now" and take an exaggerated deep breath to encourage the relaxation. obviously don't keep him on the potty if he doesn't want to stay, and don't keep him there too long regardless, but sometimes a little extra time and distraction (like marija_jane said, the newspaper) is all it takes to help them settle/relax enough to let go.

i switched to trainers at about 4 months myself, i found them sooooo much easier than diapers! we used non-waterproof ones at home and waterproof ones (EC Store) when out and about. i preferred to use the non-waterproof ones at home because we have WTW carpeting and cleaning up misses is a pain, so i preferred something capable of catching a miss but that would let me be aware of it immediately (they do get totally soaked with a full pee).
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