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post #41 of 63
I think more boys should wear dresses, so I'm no help.
post #42 of 63
Levi were selling jean skirts for boys - Don't know if they still do though!
post #43 of 63
my son puts dresses on as soon as we get to the children's museum. He has a couple at home, and goes through phases of wearing them a lot or not at all.

I am not sure we would "let" him wear one to school--just because we want him to wear more practical things to school, not "dress-up" clothes. But, he certainly wears them out in public at times.
post #44 of 63
My only concern would be the negative comments of others giving him the idea that there is something wrong with it. Thus, we discourage my DS from wearing dresses outside. When we was 3 and 4 it was really more of a redirection thing, and I made a point to have lots of fun, flamboyant dress up clothes. But it is probably a phase, and I really doubt your friend is as unaware as you think. She has probably just decided that she doesn't care! More power to her!
post #45 of 63
If I considered this a gender role thing, I suppose I could work myself up to being the dissenting opinion, because I like my gender roles and make no bones about promoting them with the girls. However, the kid is three, and dresses are practical at that age. When we go anywhere above freezing, I put the girls in dresses purely to facilitate diaper changes. Boys in dresses are traditional in the West, too. In fact, there are plenty in my small town, where tradition dies hard, that remember them

As a point of self-preservation, I pick my small town battles very carefully, and let any quirk that I don't intend to take to the grave concealed, hang out. The sooner they're aware of an eccentricity, the sooner the buzz will die and it will be accepted in the "I can make fun of my neighbor, but I'll pick a fight with Joe Outsider if he does!" way. Family scandal works similarly.
post #46 of 63
I have this friend who lets her dd wear pants and sometimes even blue shirts with cars on them or maybe tractors, one time I saw her in a Bob the Builder outfit (in public!)
post #47 of 63
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I have this friend who lets her dd wear pants and sometimes even blue shirts with cars on them or maybe tractors, one time I saw her in a Bob the Builder outfit (in public!)
post #48 of 63
I totally agree with everyone else that it's no one else's concern and I commend that mom for letting her kid express himself.
post #49 of 63
I'm so not any help either....my son has painted nails (toes and fingers) and his favorite scarf this winter is pink.

Hooray for her to provide such uncunditinal acceptance of his wishes.

Clothes don't make the man...
post #50 of 63
The only reason I would cringe is if any child(boy or girl) was wearing something like a sundress with nothing else on top in the middle of a snowstorm. As long as it's weather appropriate, I wouldn't mind either way.
post #51 of 63
I just walked into a snobby, ski supply store with ds3 dressed in bright red christmas dress. I have to say I cringed internally when he chose to take his coat off immediately after entering but it really is the least of the power struggles I choose to enter with him. Although we were treated very badly in the store. Correlation?
I think you should tell your friend that she is the most awesome, amazing mom ever
post #52 of 63
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oooo, those are sexy!
post #53 of 63
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oooo, those are sexy!
My hubby's been wanting one of those for years!
post #54 of 63
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I have this friend who lets her dd wear pants and sometimes even blue shirts with cars on them or maybe tractors, one time I saw her in a Bob the Builder outfit (in public!)
LOL, says the mom with two dinosaur & spiderman-obsessed little girls!
post #55 of 63
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I have this friend who lets her dd wear pants and sometimes even blue shirts with cars on them or maybe tractors, one time I saw her in a Bob the Builder outfit (in public!)

My almost 8yo wore red nail polish to church with little silver designs painted on them. His aunt was doing all the girls nails so he wanted to join in. His uncles about had a public fit.
post #56 of 63
First, check out #15 on page 2 of the utilikilts photo section..... OMG, he is painfully good looking.

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Are you sure she is clueless? Because she might be choosing to ignore irrational, ridiculous judgments and close-mindedness, and let her son feel free to express himself and dress how he wants.
Yep, this. I bet she knows exactly how some people feel but is ignoring it.

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Time for the town to grow up.
No kidding! What is wrong with some people???

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I have this friend who lets her dd wear pants and sometimes even blue shirts with cars on them or maybe tractors, one time I saw her in a Bob the Builder outfit (in public!)
A GIRL in a TRACTOR SHIRT??? Oh the horror...

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I think you should tell your friend that she is the most awesome, amazing mom ever
Yes, this.

I am proud of the mom for bucking small town, backwards prejudices - and disgusted with the people in town who don't have anything better to get riled up over.
post #57 of 63
my best friend's beautiful daughter was BOB THE BUILDER 2 years in a row for halloween!!! then she was (GASP) SPIDERMAN for 2 more years. OH the HORROR!! no matter what my friend did, she could not get her to wear a pink anything!! i wonder how uncomfortable she made everyone???? (last year she was a mad scientist)
post #58 of 63
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First, check out #15 on page 2 of the utilikilts photo section..... OMG, he is painfully good looking.
Psst. There is another photo of that same guy on page 4.
post #59 of 63
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I just walked into a snobby, ski supply store with ds3 dressed in bright red christmas dress. I have to say I cringed internally when he chose to take his coat off immediately after entering but it really is the least of the power struggles I choose to enter with him. Although we were treated very badly in the store. Correlation?
Don't you just want to tell them that your bright red Christmas dress money spends just as well as the Sears catalog dressed money.

Asshats.
post #60 of 63
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Psst. There is another photo of that same guy on page 4.
No time for MDC - must browse utilikilts site...
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