I haven't been on here much, as I have just been having too much fun making cloth diapers for our two babies; one due today. And, I learned to knit, so I have been making "longies" for the two babies to go over these very cute CDs. LOL Well, when we go out anyway, and I want them looking cute. They just get messy and dirty at home. LOL
After the PROM at almost 20 wks got cleared up, I really haven't had ANY activity. These last few days have been totally different. I have been having several BH ctx a night, and even a few more than that some nights. It seems like she is about ready to come out, but with my history, and being dated by U/S this time, I expect to be 10 days late, give or take a few. Since this WAS a twin PG, it may be a little shorter than that. My last PG, also a lost twin in the first trimester, he came only 15 days late per my LMP. U/S seem to be more correct for me though.
Okay, so my BP has been pretty leveled out. I was concerned that it was going up more than it should, but my CNM MW wasn't concerned. I wasn't getting worse headaches or spots, and swelling has been very minimal if any. So, I relaxed about it, and life has been very good.
But, then, I went for my weekly check, and the MW told me that her overseeing OB was no longer there, and she is covering all the patients. I did ask about being induced to assure my husband's presence (he is a trucker, OTR p/t), but she said they aren't allowed to do that anymore. I know that an RCS is always an option, but I am pretty sure that I said no thanks to that. She asked if I wanted a courtesy visit with her new OB. No prob. She did talk to him about me, and when I went in, thinking this was just one visit, he tells me that she is unqualified to attend me, I am high risk (WTH???? after 6 VBACS??), and he is her boss. If I wanted a referral 1.5 hrs away, he could do that for me. I go very fast once I know it is really labor. It can be less than that for me to go from 2 to finish. And, I don't think my insurance goes any further east. I told him no, and he said that if I was staying with our NO VBAC hospital, he was it. This is the first time that I am told that I cannot plan a VBAC in that city. My MW and OB had both said to come late, but I didn't think much of it.
Long story short, although I made an appt a week later, I cancelled it 2 days before and fired him. I finally got a call back from the MW after a full week I had been calling. I know she is swamped, but geez. This is the same MW that attended me in that same hospital almost 4 yrs ago, when we were going UC, but ended up with 90 hrs of PROM and meconium with no OB back up. They said no problem to a VBAC, and I was only at a 2cm walking in at 8am(nervousness stalled things). By noon I was at a 4cm and not overlly in pain or anything, just regular ctx, but I told her to be back in an hour-hour and half. My DD was born 1hr27min later. The OB had gone to surgery, the MW went to pump for her infant. Their staff was excellent. I even bragged about that hospital on several groups and forums. Now they are adamantly no VBAC, with this OB anyway. I guess they need to pay for their new birthing suite, and figured ERCS are the best way to go. I didn't even get a chance to ask him if he was going to watch my 7 kids for 3-4 days while I am in the hospital, or pay the HUGE OOP costs that I would have, having surgery and recouping there for so long. He pretty much said that this hospital isn't safe to have a VBAC in, and nor is the MW competant to do it. What changed?
I tried to get into my friend's OB in the city an hour away, since that hospital DOES do VBACs (never knew that there was any hosp around that did), but I am too far along. They wouldn't take me on. So, if I feel like my BP has gone whack, or something else goes wrong before the baby comes out, I can walk into that VBAC friendly hosp, but will have to take whatever OB is on call. I can go so fast, and we are just too far away (and with my history of PPH and this being a lost twin PG), we will stay at the hotel near the hospital and see where it goes from there. I do have PPH remedies, so I may UC just fine. I have UCed several times before, but I was mostly planning a hospital birth for this one for the PPH thing alone.
Well, if you have gotten this far, thank you. I am just so
to have this put on me at my advanced stage, and they should be ashamed of themselves. My DH was mad because we have already given so much money to these people that would do such a thing. And, the OB being onhery with me. Shouldn't it be a little more "the customer is (almost) always right", since I pay the premiums, copays, etc. And, he gets to send his kids to college because we do? 
It would have been really nice if the MW would have been more up front about the whole thing. She and the OB were trying to stay under the radar, about supporting VBAC in a no VBAC world, but if I had known that was the case, I may have looked for a more VBAC friendly hospital so I didn't have to fight for my birth (again). At least I would have had some choice. Maybe she thought we were planning a HB anyway, but if I had been, why would I have even bothered them every month, then every other week, to weekly visits???? I would have just UPed as we had done before. And, they knew all that. We felt that more than likely we would be planning a hospital birth. Now, I have been thrown into UP/UC world without really my choosing.
Thanks for listening. And, know that if you live anywhere near the Kansas City area, that Centerpoint Hospital in Independence is the only VBAC hospital around. Kymberli
After the PROM at almost 20 wks got cleared up, I really haven't had ANY activity. These last few days have been totally different. I have been having several BH ctx a night, and even a few more than that some nights. It seems like she is about ready to come out, but with my history, and being dated by U/S this time, I expect to be 10 days late, give or take a few. Since this WAS a twin PG, it may be a little shorter than that. My last PG, also a lost twin in the first trimester, he came only 15 days late per my LMP. U/S seem to be more correct for me though.
Okay, so my BP has been pretty leveled out. I was concerned that it was going up more than it should, but my CNM MW wasn't concerned. I wasn't getting worse headaches or spots, and swelling has been very minimal if any. So, I relaxed about it, and life has been very good.
But, then, I went for my weekly check, and the MW told me that her overseeing OB was no longer there, and she is covering all the patients. I did ask about being induced to assure my husband's presence (he is a trucker, OTR p/t), but she said they aren't allowed to do that anymore. I know that an RCS is always an option, but I am pretty sure that I said no thanks to that. She asked if I wanted a courtesy visit with her new OB. No prob. She did talk to him about me, and when I went in, thinking this was just one visit, he tells me that she is unqualified to attend me, I am high risk (WTH???? after 6 VBACS??), and he is her boss. If I wanted a referral 1.5 hrs away, he could do that for me. I go very fast once I know it is really labor. It can be less than that for me to go from 2 to finish. And, I don't think my insurance goes any further east. I told him no, and he said that if I was staying with our NO VBAC hospital, he was it. This is the first time that I am told that I cannot plan a VBAC in that city. My MW and OB had both said to come late, but I didn't think much of it.
Long story short, although I made an appt a week later, I cancelled it 2 days before and fired him. I finally got a call back from the MW after a full week I had been calling. I know she is swamped, but geez. This is the same MW that attended me in that same hospital almost 4 yrs ago, when we were going UC, but ended up with 90 hrs of PROM and meconium with no OB back up. They said no problem to a VBAC, and I was only at a 2cm walking in at 8am(nervousness stalled things). By noon I was at a 4cm and not overlly in pain or anything, just regular ctx, but I told her to be back in an hour-hour and half. My DD was born 1hr27min later. The OB had gone to surgery, the MW went to pump for her infant. Their staff was excellent. I even bragged about that hospital on several groups and forums. Now they are adamantly no VBAC, with this OB anyway. I guess they need to pay for their new birthing suite, and figured ERCS are the best way to go. I didn't even get a chance to ask him if he was going to watch my 7 kids for 3-4 days while I am in the hospital, or pay the HUGE OOP costs that I would have, having surgery and recouping there for so long. He pretty much said that this hospital isn't safe to have a VBAC in, and nor is the MW competant to do it. What changed?
I tried to get into my friend's OB in the city an hour away, since that hospital DOES do VBACs (never knew that there was any hosp around that did), but I am too far along. They wouldn't take me on. So, if I feel like my BP has gone whack, or something else goes wrong before the baby comes out, I can walk into that VBAC friendly hosp, but will have to take whatever OB is on call. I can go so fast, and we are just too far away (and with my history of PPH and this being a lost twin PG), we will stay at the hotel near the hospital and see where it goes from there. I do have PPH remedies, so I may UC just fine. I have UCed several times before, but I was mostly planning a hospital birth for this one for the PPH thing alone.
Well, if you have gotten this far, thank you. I am just so
to have this put on me at my advanced stage, and they should be ashamed of themselves. My DH was mad because we have already given so much money to these people that would do such a thing. And, the OB being onhery with me. Shouldn't it be a little more "the customer is (almost) always right", since I pay the premiums, copays, etc. And, he gets to send his kids to college because we do? It would have been really nice if the MW would have been more up front about the whole thing. She and the OB were trying to stay under the radar, about supporting VBAC in a no VBAC world, but if I had known that was the case, I may have looked for a more VBAC friendly hospital so I didn't have to fight for my birth (again). At least I would have had some choice. Maybe she thought we were planning a HB anyway, but if I had been, why would I have even bothered them every month, then every other week, to weekly visits???? I would have just UPed as we had done before. And, they knew all that. We felt that more than likely we would be planning a hospital birth. Now, I have been thrown into UP/UC world without really my choosing.Thanks for listening. And, know that if you live anywhere near the Kansas City area, that Centerpoint Hospital in Independence is the only VBAC hospital around. Kymberli
