Originally Posted by springmama
I was just reading on another thread here that your own conscience plays a big role in deciding that.
I'm the one that said that. You will find many different opinions on this from the laity and from priests. I don't know that any of us are wrong. I hope you won't get hung up on this issue. There is so much about the CC that is so valuable and wonderful. Please find a priest to talk to about this and your reservations about this.
My experience has been that my priest and I discussed this during RECONCILIATION and I was told that I was not committing a sin because I was choosing through my conscience to protect my health and family by choosing BC. I don't have to relate to anyone what I discuss during confession, but I don't want to see someone get turned off on the church by this. I again suggest that you discuss this with a priest you trust or work hard at finding one of those.
I also learned that anger is not a sin during this same confession, only when it hardens into hatred or bitterness. It was a lovely day for me I must confess, pun intended. I was feeling terribly guilty about my anger and frustration about dd who was 3ish at the time AND the fact that I use bc because I believe that more children would be very damaging to myself and my family. I am open to having more children if it happens . I could in good conscience say that I will welcome a child if my methods fail, but that is it.
Several other examples I know of are friends that had a vasectomy because of the mother's health and repeated miscarriages. They consulted their priest before doing so and had his blessing. Many priests don't want a mother to die or be mentally unfit just to satisfy this rule.
And another one of my priests told me the story about his parents practicing birth control after their 5 kid with no money. This was in the 50s/60s. The parents confessed this and the priest said nothing to the father and gave the mother a hard time and penance. they compared notes and the father went back to the priest and stuck up for his wife. My priest was sure proud of his father for that. This story came up in the same conversation when I was talking about my friend who went to confession and was given a hard time about not having a laundry list of sins even though the current practice is against this. As I said before, my priests said to have her come to them for confession. And I don't go to a liberal church.
I would love to say that my parents should have practiced BC, but then I wouldn't be here as I'm # 8
. They did start after I was born when my mother was 46 years old.
I am certain that Jesus is much more interested in how i treat others and respond to the promptings of the spirit in my life than in my birth control. As far as sex goes, I believe He is also more interested in being invited to be a part of our sacred love than in the bc. My sin comes when I am thinking more about myself and my pleasure than my husband's. For my sins I count on His mercy more than anything else in this world and the next except for HIS Love. (see St. faustine Kowalska for info on Divine Mercy)
good luck and pm me if you need anything.