First of all, I think it's important to point out that being pierced/tatooed and being a good person are NOT mutally exclusive.
People are incredibly varied, and physical standards change from generation to generation. Piercings and tatoos are much more common than they used to be. I'm a woman in my mid-30s with a nose piercing. My parents and grandparents were horrified when I got my nose pierced, but it hasn't kept me from living a full, happy life and working in a professional job.
I think that talking to your kids about their worth and about how to choose an appropriate partner is great- keep it up. That said, it sounds to me that your children aren't nearly as concerned with physical appearance as you are.
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Believe me, I understand where you're coming from in wanting the best for your kids. But this comment DOES come off as very judgemental. And honestly, at this point, you can't choose for your children. You can express your opinion, but if you refuse to accept your children's judgement, you run the risk of your kids choosing to completely disregard what you tell them.