are there any nice boys left? - Page 2

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Yep, there are nice guys left. My little brother is one of them. He's 17, started college early, dyes his hair on a biweekly basis, has a 4.0 gpa, stretches his earlobes, self-idenfies as a feminist, is politically active, doesn't smoke, drink, or do any kind of drug, and from what I have heard is a wonderful boyfriend.

[GreenGranolaMama]

Originally Posted by dawningmama

ITA. Body modification and educational choice are not indications of worth, inherent goodness or even, in many circles "class."

Exactly. Read this post and couldn't not comment. I was a pierced, funky dressing, hair dying girl in high school. I also played a sport every season, volunteered after school and graduated at the top of my HS (and later college) class... which I guess is a good thing because my parents would be classified as middle or (gasp!!!) lower "class" because of their income, so I went to college on scholarships.

ETA: Maybe take some time and get to know them before passing judgement so quickly?

[mommy68]

A person with a tattoo and piercings isn't normal?

My son is a good kid. He's 14 and a girl will be lucky to get him one day. He's laid back, caring, honest, has been home schooled and loves people. He's great with babies too (we have a 3 mos old).

[mtiger]

As the mother of one of the "good guys" as well as a teenage girl, I have to admit that I'm amused by the premise that outward appearance is the end all and be all. Both of my kids are pretty much straight-edge. And they've had all sorts of friends. Prep, jock, emo, punk... There have been kids in every group who I love to have around, and there have been kids in each group that I'd as soon have disappear. It's not how they look - it's what's inside that matters.

My boy went out with a girl who was very "alternative"... piercings, tats, clothes I wouldn't let my daughter out in... Her Dad was rabid when it came to my boy - he wasn't allowed inside the house for 6 months. Regardless of the weather, they had to sit outside. If he had to use the restroom? He could walk to the corner donut shop - he wasn't walking into that house. Different people have different perspectives. Kiddo finally had enough and broke it off with her.

My daughter's had the experience that the "nice" boys? Are actually not as nice as one might think.

I'll admit that I would have a problem with a kid with no ambition. But ambition doesn't necessarily mean going to college. Open your mind some, Mom.

[chiara]

from the first time my parents were disapproving of tattoos etc when I was 14 i started hunting for punk rockers to date. just sayin'.

[Ldavis24]

I think everyone here has done a fair job of pointing out the problem with judging by appearances etc.

As a former teenage terror at times (it varied on and off through my teen years). I can tell you that when I was a in a rebellious phase the fastest way to get to me to run to whatever my parents thought the "bad" guy was would be to tell me to stay away from that type. My parents weren't bothered by tattoos or ambitions of a kid in high school though. I am 24 and still don't have a clue what I want to do with myself and that goes for my DH as well.

[mommy68]

and no one has mentioned it yet but where are all the good girls? there are just as many bad girls as there are bad boys.

[lab]

Originally Posted by htcamommy

I have two very traditional teen dd who have recently both become interested in boys. Problem is the boys their interested in. Nipple piercings, tattoo'd knuckles, want to drop out at 17 and get a GED boys. When we talk to the girls about their own worth and what we feel they deserve in a mate they tell us we're just judging them and thats how all guys are. Are we wrong for eypecting a certain type of class for our children? Is it our business? Is this hnw normal teen boys present themselves and i just never knew till now?

Ditto to the poster who mentioned not judging boys because of piercings.

To answer the question - yes - boys are out there who don't pierce or tattoo. I have one and none of his friends do either.

Instead of questioning the boys - why aren't you questioning your dd's and their choices........