Originally Posted by North_Of_60
If the family is not into donations and would rather have "stuff", then the OP is no better then all the families who have been bitched about the last month who continue to do christmas "their way" regardless of anyone's wishes.
Where did I say that they are "not into donations"???? I do not KNOW if they are or not! That is why I started the thread....to see how people....people in general...feel about donations as gifts.
There have been all of these assumptions flung around that I am trying to shove my values down their throats or that I am making "value judgments" about people or that I simply do not care at all about these people and just want to do what makes ME happy. OTOH, to be fair, there have also been some unfair assumptions about the people I am giving gifts to this year that they are shallow, greedy, or ungrateful....which is also not true. Difficult to shop for? In many cases, yes. Inherently evil? Not so much.
If I did not care, I would not bother to ask the question!
Nowhere on this thread have I attempted to change the minds of anyone who does not like this gift idea. I want to know what people's initial reaction would be. That is the whole point. While the meta-discussions are pretty interesting, and I think are worth having, I am still baffled as to how or why this became about me being some sort of "lesson teaching" freak who is trying to destroy Christmas as we know it. Have I said ANYWHERE that I am hoping to "teach them a lesson" or "send a message" by this gift? If I wanted to do that, I would simply donate to my own causes and send them an email....if I even bothered with that. I certainly would not have spent a lot of time (and cleverness, I might add) researching their causes, wrapped gifts with hand-decorated paper and tags, packed them up, and shipped them across the country.