The suggestion that I view someone holding a different opinion from me as disrespectful, really strikes a chord with me.
And I hope I'm not going too off-topic here, but it really reminds me of something my mom said to me a while back, because she disagrees with my decision not to be in contact with a relative who called Children's Services on me.
My mom said, "People have a right to disagree with you, Susan. You can't control other people!"
And this just seemed so turned-around to me. Since prior to the call, I'd listened to this person's views about some of my parenting choices, and respectfully shared why I disagreed. And just went on doing what I was doing.
I wasn't breaking contact with her because I felt she had no right to disagree with me about my homeschooling -- I broke contact after it became clear that she wanted to involve the authorities in order to force her opinion on me.
I know this situation is a lot more extreme than the one we are talking about on this thread. But it honestly seems to me like there is a common theme. I could TELL that the woman disagreed with my choice to call my child Baby. It was obvious that this was never-in-a-million-years what she would choose to do with one of her own children.
I seriously, truly, had no problem with the fact that she held a different opinion than me. It became a problem when she tried to take things up with my child. And I'm cool with giving her the benefit-of-the-doubt. And not assuming that it was definitely
a "get the momma out of the way and then I'll get this child in line"-type scenario.
I want a friendly relationship with the woman. And my daughter enjoys Sunday School and Children's Chapel, so we plan to keep going. I'll stay with dd for as long as she needs me.
True, I think the woman has some issues. But it wouldn't surprise me at all if SHE thinks that I
have some issues. We have a right to disagree, and we have a right to think that some other people have some issues.